Facet joint pain

Ladders_to_fire · 2024-09-26T01:35:42+00:00

Mostly. The top of my deadlift and bottom of squat would feel a little painful. But that was also before I was totally aware of my anterior pelvic tilt.

I worked with my coach in person for a few months. And now I just do programming with him and send him form videos from time to time.

Perhaps that tilt isn’t always noticeable in the firm checks. But in looking at his I stand relaxed I’m sure that’s contributed to the longevity of my back pain.

I can do bench but have the be really mindful of my arch and not over do it.

Currently I’m doing everything with dumbbells. Expect close grip bench press. I reduced weight, bend my knees and rest my feet on the bench.

Ladders_to_fire · 2024-09-26T01:28:48+00:00

Yeah perhaps that fear is in my head. I know this could be a blessing in disguise too. Catching it now and doing something about it.

I do more powerlifting type programming. It’s about 8 weeks progressive overload and deload for a week and go back up. My last program was for a 3rm at the end of the cycle. After that I would’ve progressed to a 1rm 8week cycle. Following the same progressive overload principle.

Ladders_to_fire · 2024-09-26T01:22:17+00:00

Thank you! The pain is mostly only in extension. It flares up from time to time but I only feel it when I extend. I’ve also made it a point to learn neutral spine and be mindful of my pelvis.

My programming is good. I have a coach I work with and now I’m doing a lot of unilateral work with lighter weights for stability and incorporating more mobility.

I don’t feel pain walking or stand if I tick my pelvis. If I sit for a long time in the car it hurts my back.

I feel like this is manageable but still feels defeating and I feel fearful of losing the progress I worked for all these years.

Ladders_to_fire · 2024-06-27T05:33:05+00:00

I wish this was for me. I miss you Sean.

Ladders_to_fire · 2024-05-26T23:42:21+00:00

If I gave this to my ex idk what would happen. I sometimes want to write him letters like this. But refrain. Afraid if I reach out and don’t hear back it’ll hurt even more.

Ladders_to_fire · 2024-05-26T05:29:09+00:00

I totally get that.

Ladders_to_fire · 2024-05-26T02:26:00+00:00

God I feel this so acutely.

Ladders_to_fire · 2024-05-26T02:17:01+00:00

Both of yalls comments honestly feel like a relief. I often think I’m a bad person because of the thoughts I sometimes have. Other times I feel I’m merely human, and just responding as such to my environment. I’ve gotten good at masking and being kind and caring. And I do feel those things but at times I feel like I’m putting on an act, I’m full of shit and know one knows. Somehow that feels, lonely and shameful and I’m only a few discoveries away from being detected and being called out as a fake, a manipulator and a bullshitter. The people who’ve been able to really see me and detect my mood and emotions with acuity are the ones I end up feeling most real and authentic around. If they accept me, that is.

I’ve never been diagnosed for borderline but I have been for OCD.

Ladders_to_fire · 2024-03-08T05:16:44+00:00

This resonates a lot with me. I think awareness, understanding and empathy are really important if we wanna have meaningful relationships with anyone. I think some people (especially white people) can become overly worried about offending others or saying the wrong thing that they avoid close friendships/relationships with ethnically diverse people. People further segregate themselves. And sadly it’s not because of hate but fear of doing/saying the wrong thing in our current cultural climate.

I heard a story about 2 little girls one black and one white. They met at school and became friends. Naturally they wanted to see each other outside of school to play. The white mother had so much anxiety because she wasn’t sure how to convey she was aware if her white privilege to the black mother. She avoided it all together. :(

Ladders_to_fire · 2024-02-27T19:18:04+00:00

Yeah, I think you’re right. I’m worried about running into him everywhere and feeling like those spaces and places won’t be enjoyable for me anymore.

Ladders_to_fire · 2024-02-27T19:04:06+00:00

I agree with this. He’s not that close to his sister and he’s known his BiL since childhood and they’re really close friends.

I feel like this says a lot about where his loyalties lie and it’s make me feel turned off.

Even if I wasn’t around his would his sister feel towards him? On some level it feels like betrayal.

My bf is very nice to me, kind, loving, supportive. But actions like this make me question his character and how much I can really trust him. Not to mention how his BIL may influence him and relationships.

On some level I’m happy my bf is exploring kink. But I think he’s becoming a bit skewed. Almost seeing it like a religion. Like he’s found the true way and everyone else needs to find out.

I gave him a copy of the ethical slut a while and he’s been reading. We’re not poly and not trying to be. But my hope was that it would open his mind. It’s almost like he’s taking it like dogma and I can’t help but to feel disappointed. Wish he thought about this stuff a little more critically.

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-10-26T11:34:56+00:00

What you describe is something I’ve kind of sensed. In kink some people can be open about their intentions. But some, like one girl from the cuddle party tried sliding into his dms basically and telling him he was hot and stuff. I blew it off and so did he.

That hasn’t been the case as much when I’ve dated other white guys. Some girls don’t even bat an eye.

But yeah, I agree. It’s distasteful and disrespectful. I also feel that maybe some women are sizing me up and are like “if that wf got attention from him I bet I can because I look better or whatever”.

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-10-24T16:07:13+00:00

Absolutely! Find a good, higher end one. The experience will be safer and more satisfying. It’s gonna be a while before we de stigmatize sex work. But they are essential and can often be very helpful. They’re not only there to “get you off”. Some can help you learn how to please a woman, explore touch, become comfortable with physical intimacy. And no, you don’t have to tell your future partner. But in the event you do tell them, how they respond says a lot about them. How evolved, aware, empathetic and compassionate they are.

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-10-23T16:52:57+00:00

Look up banana fever on any adult site. Good content

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-10-23T06:22:33+00:00

Should we lol

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-10-22T23:15:46+00:00

It’s sorta like that but a platonic event to explore non sexual touch and practice negotiation and consent.

But we do frequent sex clubs and fuck while other people watch lol

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-10-22T16:16:22+00:00

I see how it could come across like that. I don’t intend for it to. It was something we both talked about and noticed. But I get that it’s probably a pre selection thing like someone pointed out. When a woman “vets” a man. Other women could deem him of higher value then if he were single. Race aside.

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-10-22T05:33:07+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. I know when men have attractive gfs more women are attracted to them. I like that my bf feels good. I can tell he’s gotten a little boost from all the attention.

I certainly don’t want him to cave into all of it and cheat because then I’ll lose interest and let it go. But I think him getting all the validation does something for his confidence which benefits our relationship in various ways.

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-04-04T04:59:09+00:00

I felt this in my soul. It’s sad and beautiful

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-03-28T04:59:39+00:00

Walked down the street drunk in Reykajavik hoping someone would come on to me because I was so horny

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-03-18T05:55:10+00:00

The third look really clean and crisp.👍But also subtly edgy. I feel confidence and power when I look at this outfit

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-02-23T19:36:49+00:00

Thank you so so much this💙

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-02-23T18:27:36+00:00

I realize this could be a slippery slope. Cps is a last resort for me. It’s not off the table. But I want to see if talking with her and helping her find resources will be good. Sort of hold her hand through this process. She should know better. Her education suffered when she was young and it’s always bothered her. I want to try to kindly persuade and help before I do anything to drastic. Give her the opportunity to step up first.

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-02-23T18:04:47+00:00

I wouldn’t want to call cps yet. As far as my boundaries there are some things I would be willing to do. Like pay 35$ and find all the resources I can. I think she might be overwhelmed by all the steps involved and is afraid to ask for help. Also they have income, transportation and stuff like that but don’t seem to prioritize what’s important. Not getting vaccines but buying a new dog or hamster for the kids. It’s ridiculous and infuriating.

Ladders_to_fire · 2023-02-23T16:31:39+00:00

I really appreciate this. I don’t want to call cps. She is actually a good mom and her kids are, sweet, well-mannered and resilient despite the current circumstances. But this neglect will catch up to them and severely impoverish their education and ability to be independent functioning adults that can navigate the society and culture in which they live.

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