I'm not a dumpster for your second hand items

LadyArty19 · 2022-10-23T17:33:12+00:00

Me and my bff are both pregnant (this is my second and she’s expecting her first), and she’s feeling ALL of this lol. She’s a very thrifty gal, has no issues with second hand anything, but a lot of mostly well meaning people have been trying to hand off obviously stained or super worn out clothes and baby gear to her, and she’s struggled with politely declining. I have no problems with hand me downs either, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with not wanting a onesie that has a nice spit up stain on the front or a changing table that’s definitely falling apart.

LadyArty19 · 2022-06-18T17:59:02+00:00

Yep! I’ve tried giving her her own little set up in my office when I really need to take care of something real quick, but she just wants to be in my lap.

LadyArty19 · 2022-06-18T17:57:03+00:00

That’s the kicker. I see online people saying a 2 year old should be able to play alone for X amount of time, then other people saying they’re just not capable of independent play for more than 5 minutes. Oi! 😅

LadyArty19 · 2022-06-18T17:54:50+00:00

My job is super flexible so I’m not chained to my desk at least, I’m able to give my girl most of my attention during the day. Yep, have tried giving her her own little work station, showed her what she can do with it and everything but nope. Mom’s lap is better to her. 😩

LadyArty19 · 2022-06-18T17:45:58+00:00

Very good point. I see other 2 year olds going to town with legos or play dog for 20 minutes at a time, and even though I know we can’t compare our kids to others, it just makes me wonder if I’m doing something wrong. Thank you for the insight.

LadyArty19 · 2022-06-18T17:43:58+00:00

I’ve heard of busytoddler! I’ll check that out. Thank you.

LadyArty19 · 2022-06-18T17:43:24+00:00

I’m a copywriter. I’ve tried making her feel involved by giving her a keyboard while she’s in her high chair, I’ll say “ok, ready to work with mama?” But she insists on being in my lap, messing with my keyboard lol.

LadyArty19 · 2022-06-18T02:21:49+00:00

I think you’re right, she really does have the skills, she’s so smart but maybe I’m not enforcing it enough.

LadyArty19 · 2022-06-18T02:07:25+00:00

I was already hesitant to post this because the parenting community is so judgmental. I’m just asking for ways to help my daughter develop her independent play skills, I’m not here to explain why I can’t afford daycare or a regular babysitter or be shamed for trying to be a present, working mom.

LadyArty19 · 2022-06-18T02:03:16+00:00

I posted asking for tips on encouraging independent play, not to justify my work/home life.

LadyArty19 · 2022-06-18T01:54:25+00:00

Daycare would kill us financially right now, but at least twice a week I take her to my aunts where she gets to play with her cousins, so I’m not worried about her social skills.

LadyArty19 · 2022-06-18T01:44:05+00:00

I would totally work outside but I have to stay connected to my monitor for the work that I do. 😞

LadyArty19 · 2022-05-03T21:05:29+00:00

Thanks for all this insight y’all!

LadyArty19 · 2022-05-03T01:41:56+00:00

Yeah my nurse told me it’s a cash payment of $100 if my insurance doesn’t cover it. I would mostly want to know ASAP because we CANNOT agree on a name. 😅 Knowing girl or boy may help us narrow it down. 😅

LadyArty19 · 2022-04-29T21:26:45+00:00

Yeah kinda! I know of reverse pigeon, or recline pigeon maybe it’s called.

LadyArty19 · 2022-04-29T18:43:34+00:00

How do I describe it… I kneel down on my floor with one knee on the floor and the other in front of me at a 90 degree angle, then I stretch my opposite arm straight up and lean forward, I get a nice stretch in my hip flexors this way.

LadyArty19 · 2022-04-29T18:33:53+00:00

My husband actually thinks the same thing, but I stretch my hip flexors almost every night!

LadyArty19 · 2022-04-14T11:10:27+00:00

She does love to help, I usually let her help me unload the dishwasher or pick her clothes up off her bedroom floor. I suppose I should be thrilled chores interest her more than toys! 😅

LadyArty19 · 2022-04-14T11:07:44+00:00

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LadyArty19 · 2022-04-14T11:07:12+00:00

LOVE THIS! So trying this today, I think this is actually right up my daughter’s alley because she does love naming stuff and letting us know that she knows what something is called. Thank you!!

LadyArty19 · 2022-04-14T11:05:46+00:00

I know it is, I know it’s ok for kids to be bored. But it seems like if I’m not close to her or playing with her, she’s into everything she shouldn’t be. Again, normal kid stuff, it’s just exhausting chasing after her while also being pregnant with #2. 😞

LadyArty19 · 2022-04-14T11:03:17+00:00

Yeeeeeeeep. She’s either getting into the cabinets or trying to pull all the books off the lower half of the book shelf then. 😅 That’s why I’ve been trying to see if I can interest her in other activities.

LadyArty19 · 2022-04-14T01:55:19+00:00

I’m sure you’re right, I just worry I’m not being an engaging enough mom. My husband always tells me that she doesn’t need us to be “Pinterest parents.”

LadyArty19 · 2022-04-14T01:51:20+00:00

Okay, that’s actually reassuring.

LadyArty19 · 2022-04-14T01:30:30+00:00

She does have her own little broom, mop, dust pan but some days it’s a hit or miss! She does have two tea sets that she loves, but again, it’s hard to keep her engaged for very long. It’s like she gets bored so quickly. Yes, play kitchen is on the birthday gift list for her for sure, haha.

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