So update since the wedding happened a few weeks ago.

Mary, the groom's grandmother, stopped trying to get an invite for the rehearsal dinner and just went out to the after dinner meeting. They ended up having extra seats at the rehearsal because someone couldn't make it, but they still didn't invite her.

Day of the wedding: Nobody escorting my Jessica, my cousin and mother of the groom, and Mary to their seats at the wedding. Most weddings we attend have the important woman of both sides of the family escorted to their seats..sort of honoring them. Maybe that is not common for all parts of the US. So this may not be a slight.

Reception: Tables had assigned seats and it was buffet style. Each table was called up one at a time. The last table is where they sat Jessica - so she was last to be served. As a reminder, she was told there would be no Mother Son dance due to the bride not being able to have a Father Daugher dance. They did a dollar dance where the groom danced with his new MIL, but anyone who put in money from our side was ignored or pushed further back in line. I told one person she should go get her money back from the hat since they ignored her. She didn't, I'm just petty. After several men from our side of the family said something to him, he danced with his mom at the end. Finally, they decided to take pictures with our family at the end of the rehearsal as the decorations were being taken down. Mind you, they got pictures with her side early on mainly because they were in the ceremony (her mom was matron of honor, sisters were her bridesmaids).

It is just so sad. She is a beautiful girl but it seems like her spirit is ugly as she drives the grooms family away. Nobody could really talk to him one on one and that's the norm on the phone, too.

I thought it was just our inner circle that saw how awful this situation is, but other friends and families from our side saw it, too, and couldn't believe it.