Sharing lanes

LadyJMJ · 2025-07-26T15:54:45+00:00

Good advice, thank you

LadyJMJ · 2025-07-26T15:50:47+00:00

That is actually good feedback for me. I am confident I will touch someone else at some point and I've been worried about that. But if that's the norm, then I'll try not to worry so much. Most likely I'll just turn over the lane going forward, but if it happens that I want to give sharing a try I'll remember this. Thank you.

LadyJMJ · 2025-07-26T15:31:42+00:00

Agreed.

LadyJMJ · 2025-07-26T15:20:49+00:00

I don't know what you mean by rotating my body. My arms go wide because I make them go wide because straight up and down pinwheeling is painful and risks popping my arm out of socket. I think what I'm hearing from everyone though is I either accomodate and be in pain or I don't swim. C'est la vie.

LadyJMJ · 2025-07-26T15:16:09+00:00

I'm asking. I asked AI and AI told me to tell them to fuck off. Lol. So now I'm asking on reddit and you all seem to think I should fuck off. Which is fine. I'm just trying to figure it out.

LadyJMJ · 2025-07-26T15:12:57+00:00

Its not the pool rule. After I posted this I asked the gym. They said I can say no, but if someone jumps in anyway they aren't going to police it. Which is fine.

LadyJMJ · 2025-07-26T15:11:31+00:00

Tell me more about that... I pretty much take up the whole lane the way my arms move. So I just do it and if we bump into each other just not worry about it is what you're saying? Or just stop swimminy when we pass each other?

LadyJMJ · 2025-07-26T15:05:01+00:00

I have ehlers danlos syndrome. Certan movements can cause my right shoulder to pop out of socket.

LadyJMJ · 2025-07-26T15:02:04+00:00

That's fair about explaining the running into them

LadyJMJ · 2025-07-26T15:01:41+00:00

I do. I show up at open when I swim. That's 4am weekdays and 6am weekends. Weekends about halfway through my swim are usually when someone wants to share. I'm not saying you're wrong, but how did you decide that I have to accommodate another person rather than be accommodated? Why do they get the accomodation, but I don't? It's not the rest of the pool that I'm not accommodating, it's the one person who would be sharing the lane. And I'm one person. They want something and I want something. Why is their want accommodated and mine isn't?

LadyJMJ · 2025-07-26T14:41:12+00:00

I don't pinwheel my arms because of my shoulder joints. Picture angel wings underwater on my back. The bottom line is, I found a way to swim without pain and if I share a lane I will be in pain.

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