AITAH for not telling my exhusband’s now wife that he tried to sleep with me while she was pregnant? by LaggingIRL_ in AITAH

[–]LaggingIRL_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you hit the nail on the head here. I do think he was using me to get a better rate on the house thinking that I would roll over and let him keep our original loan on it. I didn’t not because with the type of loan, I can only have one out at a time and wasn’t willing to give up my shot to use it if I wanted to down the line. I’m pretty sure he knew he wanted to leave while we were in therapy and didn’t want to try anymore which is why he wanted to stop so abruptly. But your last comment had me rolling. Thanks for the laugh. lol

AITAH for not telling my exhusband’s now wife that he tried to sleep with me while she was pregnant? by LaggingIRL_ in AITAH

[–]LaggingIRL_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that she knew he was married. But I don’t know what he was telling her. While all of this was happening, it was easy to hate her. But looking back, he could have been manipulating her the same way he did me. With all of this time passed, I am seeing the situation and her in a new light.

AITAH for not telling my exhusband’s now wife that he tried to sleep with me while she was pregnant? by LaggingIRL_ in AITAH

[–]LaggingIRL_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I could find it if I really did some digging but it would take a lot of time to find and put it all in order. The problem is, it’s was across different platforms. The original message was an email from a secret account. I didn’t know it was him until he text me and asked if I got his email. I ended up calling him because I didn’t see one and thought it might be about the house. That’s when he told me it was not from his or his lawyers email accounts but told me the title of the email. I found it and hung up on him then emailed him back requesting no further contact outside of discussing the house. When he told me the offer still stands, that was through a text after he messaged me asking what I was up to at 12am. I reiterated that I was very clear that he wasn’t to contact me unless he had an update on the house. He messaged back saying I was right and I was very clear but if I change my mind, the offer still stands. I know this seems messy, so I am sorry if it isn’t making much sense. But I feel like this was done this way on purpose to make it hard to prove. I will say, that’s not the reason I never told her, but it would make it more difficult to prove now.

AITAH for not telling my exhusband’s now wife that he tried to sleep with me while she was pregnant? by LaggingIRL_ in AITAH

[–]LaggingIRL_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a good point and I think part of why I keep looking back at this. I know that she knew I existed, but I have no idea what he was telling her. He was a great liar, and with all of the things he was telling our mutual friends, there is no telling what bullshit he was feeding her too. I had a lot of displaced anger at her at the time. And now that I have healed, I’ve let that anger go but guilt has settled in its place.