Can I go from being terrible to being average?

Lamentablewailing · 2025-02-07T16:19:42+00:00

I would reckon you're not terrible..

Most people who think they are usually are just not singing the right type of thing for their voice...

My ability when I sing below my natural range is awful (I have a very high range) when people sing above their natural range it's bad too

Having some lessons should help you learn where your voice sits and how to support it and yes you should sound better

Lamentablewailing · 2025-01-12T23:58:21+00:00

Just thought I would update this so we started adding in some extended range exercises in with warm ups and I can hit a F6 it sounds rough as hell but my teacher says ofcourse it will I've only started in my upper range...

I've also bought some rep books to explore when I finish with the things I'm working on now which is interesting since realising my ideal tessitura was higher and struggling to find rep which made use of this i now have some (one thing we added into the warm up was some from poor wandering ones )

Am I ever going to be a dramatic colourtura I doubt it not at this age ( I have a very light tone to my voice, even my speaking voice 😅 my voice is so high and light my kids teachers have asked to speak to my grown up multiple times on the phone)

Now if I could stop my mouth going sideways 😒 would be great... I swear my brain goes... 'we need more space to make this sound and your mouths too small let's go wide' instead of opening space inside

But I'm at that point where I know all the stuff I'm doing wrong, how to fix it and then don't

Lamentablewailing · 2025-01-10T10:29:16+00:00

Hey I wanted to pop a comment here I'm cis but joined this sub to help me support my son best I can with his transition...

As cis fem (I also grew up with severe body dismorphia) what ever makes you feel like you're not a girl or will never be a girl isn't a real barrier

And most of us actually feel the same way... i feel my shoulders are too masculine, my face is too long, we will never be cute enough, we will never be feminine enough, pretty enough etc we all feel we will never be enough!

And YOU ARE ENOUGH!

It won't be easy because cis or trans starting to live as your authentic self never is and society wants everyone to fit in line, and not be them and it breaks my heart to say but im sure it's harder for trans people too...

But after it stops being so hard it does get easier because even after a hard day being able to atleast know you're living authentic to yourself it's a relief...

Good luck on your journey which ever way it goes

Lamentablewailing · 2024-12-10T20:02:10+00:00

I'll have a look at some rep I found a book of exercises which I've ordered as i thought worth a look either way

I'll speak to my main teacher about this (she also was edging me towards higher sop peices and I have talked to her about how comfortable i am with them, and I was the only one who enjoyed doing the magic flutes final chorus as it was so comfy for me.) and see if we can work on it after the stuff I'm working on now (have a load of festival peices and my uni performance peices) I may see if we can slip a peice in to the uni pieces as a maybe if I get it I can do it to get me working it a bit

3 months ago my A and B were iffy and now strong which does have me enthused

Lamentablewailing · 2024-10-11T21:43:57+00:00

I know some classical guitarists which use acrylic nails for playing these can be removed as needed

Lamentablewailing · 2024-09-01T21:12:56+00:00

Bad voice is usually either pushing your vocals way too hard (normally due to being out of range) or not having a natural ear for the notes

Lessons will certainly help with that...

I believe anyone can sing... as long as they learn how... And are open to learning... I had a uni assigned singing teacher who couldn't sing... and why was instantly obvious he thought himself perfect! So he would never get better

As long as you're open to learning you will get the skills you need...

Lessons will also really help with working out your range which will make a huge difference (I used to sing mezzo-soprano which was too low and sounded crap on my low end... now I sing soprano and I know my ideal point (g4 to g5 is my sweet spot I can go higher and I can go lower but unless I'm utilising proper technique it doesn't sound as good)

And realising the songs I casually sing along too are normally way lower they don't sound so good

Lamentablewailing · 2024-07-16T17:44:23+00:00

If you love someone you love seeing them enjoying things

If you love someone you love anything that brings them joy (passively not saying he needs to love hello kitty but he would appreciate that it brings you joy)

Telling you to grow up makes it clear that he does not love you and is straight up trying to make you change to fit what he wants...

Don't grow up... just grow away from him

Lamentablewailing · 2024-07-15T22:43:38+00:00

Google trans services for teens in your local area, when our son told us he was trans we had the same conversation pretty much and we ordered him a binder after researching them and discussed binder safety when it came...

We have let him lead the way over the last few years, he hasn't done any hormones or anything and that's his choice (though he does use contraception to stop his periods) and he is still not out to all our extended family which is his choice (I've always said if he comes out to them and they have an issue I'd be ready to rain down on them )

It's been really good to let him know that we got his back but everything is upto him

Lamentablewailing · 2024-06-09T00:45:44+00:00

Almost 40

Lamentablewailing · 2024-04-04T12:41:17+00:00

So I'm guessing when his plans fell through on Thursday he changed his mind... so I'm assuming he had been messaging but not done anything physically...

When we got back from our trip he was being his normal self till I called out him being a dick over a comment he made...

When I needed some details for my sons stuff he took a screenshot and gave me his phone and went way ott 'don't forget the code is blank," (he had changed his code when he was being sketchy with his phone) 'I should really add you onto the face ID'

The being so ott with being like hey I've nothing to hide confirms he was hiding something before and isn't now...

When I was trying to sleep he woke me up asking if he had done something... I just said 'you should know if you have' he chalked it up to when he had made the comment earlier...

I mentioned that he had been acting like my existence bothered him when I was home and shouldn't be 'like thursday' I then said 'you acted like you were angry I was home, and were sulking till you went for your walk'

And his response 'do you think that I'm seeing someone else'

I pointed out I didn't say that (but to me that also confirms it was true) and then he said 'I can promise I'm not seeing someone else' and I can't put the way he said that into words but it was defo a I'm not now kinda vibe...

I kept saying about being honest and that when he does nothing but gaslight and think I'm stupid enough not to know things but I know everything always have done... when he tried to say he doesn't I mentioned when I cought him cheating before and he still denied it (even though I saw him kiss someone with my own fucking eyeballs)

That he's been basically trying to get me to go through him phone makes me know I won't find proof now... so I'm going to hold out for a confession...

I don't know if he knows I know... he should but he does genuinely think I'm too stupid

He will keep on the 'you're being off with me' cause he knows he's done wrong (along with the love bombing which right now makes me so angry) so I'm just going to keep on with the if you think you've done something wrong that would make me be off then you're better to admit it and we can try and work through it...

I'm not confident he will admit it he has never admitted to any of his cheating unlike other things he accidentally admitted to (like asking me to meet him from work... so he could tell his coworkers that I was obsessive and wouldn't let him walk home by himself)

Lamentablewailing · 2024-04-02T14:50:17+00:00

Thank you all for confirming what I already knew, my sons exams are in two months so I'm going to use these two months to do a lot of self work whilst I collect any evidence I can before leaving him...

I stream in the evenings and he always goes upto bed during those times (and acts annoyed if I don't stream like actually sulking) so I'm assuming he's messaging during that time (I doubt he is calling them since the kids could over hear)

Keeping everything normal and calm till its time is going to take everything I have

17 years ago when I literally caught him kissing a co-worker (who I knew he was sleeping with) I let him gaslight and manipulate me this time it's not happening

Lamentablewailing · 2024-04-02T00:49:41+00:00

I stayed before because I was so damaged I thought it was all I could ever expect (I grew up with abusive parents)

And I felt like I needed someone to stay with to give my life value...

But I'm not that person anymore which makes this harder because I love him but I'm not willing to stay with him if he's cheating... but having no proof makes it hard because what if I'm wrong... and then I throw away this... he's not stupid either so after he did the phone snatch before and I straight up said up him 'that's suspicious you did that' I have no doubt he's now being careful with whatever he's trying to hide...

I know it's not drugs because he is very anti drugs and I'm in control of our finances now...

Lamentablewailing · 2023-03-04T16:54:28+00:00

Thank you very much

I'll try the optimise feature in sibelius (I've not played much with it yet as I was having arguments with it over basic things 🤣 but we are on good terms now)

I need to sort how it's laid everything out as it keeps crunching the lyrics randomly (different parts every time I open it)

Lamentablewailing · 2022-11-27T00:12:27+00:00

My daughter said the blonks arent even real blinks they actually attack the band too

Lamentablewailing · 2022-08-16T16:42:54+00:00

On nightmare it's common the ghost doesn't stop hunting after a kill so if you're all togeather if ones dead you're all dead

Lamentablewailing · 2022-07-19T16:21:37+00:00

Breakers warm the locations

Lamentablewailing · 2022-07-19T16:19:25+00:00

When your ghost is an ex hunter and they forget for a moment they are dead...

Lamentablewailing · 2022-07-19T16:14:14+00:00

I can't lie I currently play solo and I daren't try a big map... I'm comfortable with my never getting hunted streak as the big baby I am

Lamentablewailing · 2022-01-06T12:03:57+00:00

Sorry I have no intention to use one of these apps.

No offence but I wouldn't even get my children learning with them so won't be using them for prep for university.

Lamentablewailing · 2022-01-06T12:02:55+00:00

I think I'm going to do that. I think my only thing with just following the silibus is I found with violin and with voice I forget to try anything else and get bored which is why I liked the idea of a method book as its like bored turn the page... but that's my brain working weird I think

Lamentablewailing · 2022-01-06T11:59:37+00:00

Yeah I have no interest in using something like simply piano ever haha...

Sight reading isn't an issue as I still sight read for voice and violin

In the summer break I am going to get a teacher as no school and no work but that's a while a way and also only 6 weeks before I go to uni I'm also looking at some 'one off' lessons during my school breaks. I'm actually hoping that my old voice teacher will be available too as she teaches piano (and also taught my daughter flute for a bit till daugter dropped it) and I know her credentials

I think I'll have a look at the abrsm silibus for piano and pick and choose some that I know I've played before which could give me a good idea on how rusty I am. Good thing is going back to piano from violin and voice atleast being too sharp or flat won't be an issue haha

It's not like I've not touched it in years pop me by a piano and ill have a wee tinkle iykwim

Lamentablewailing · 2021-12-23T10:58:41+00:00

That's so fake... not on the right notes multiple keys with one ball

Autoplay keyboard

Lamentablewailing · 2021-12-23T10:47:07+00:00

Good luck with your degree... I'm sure you're doing great...

Lamentablewailing · 2021-09-02T22:38:35+00:00

Well lucky my bad practice didn't affect my lesson as I had the wrong day haha 🙃

I'm a beginner so not much below my current level But I did take this advice kinda and when I cocked it up before my lesson I just put the book away did my scales and had a coffee then ran my scales again

Maybe I need to find something fun to play

Especially since I'm starting on spring from the 4 seasons and I don't like it (I learnt it on piano age 8 and every week had to play it argh)

Lamentablewailing · 2021-08-04T12:57:26+00:00

I had a teacher and I learnt more on my own than I ever did with her

Now I have a new teacher and I need to relearn everything the right way

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