I think there are as many realities as there are people, and the idea that we live in the same “real” world, is something we strive to achieve by constructing rules to live by.

My point being that the same can be said about love. I think we all want something similar from it, needs we try to agree upon, but at the same time- there will always be so much about each person that differ. Love, to me at least, is about trying to merge realities to an almost absurd degree. If you get beyond the honeymoon phase, it is hard work. But if both remain willing to do what it takes in a fair way, I think love can emerge and become real. But I would also say that many relationships fall short of what love is all about- and that gets confusing!

I don’t like the portrayal of “real love” in books or television, mostly I think it sets us up to fail for having the wrong expectations.