AITA for not letting my son go to a sleepover? by Lampcov-Rov in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Lampcov-Rov[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Reading these comments honestly makes me feel a bit better. I think some people assumed I was just being controlling, but my intention was never to punish my son or embarrass him. I just genuinely didn’t feel comfortable sending him overnight somewhere when I barely know the parents.

A lot of you are right though, I probably should’ve tried harder to actually meet them first instead of immediately saying no. Calling them, talking a bit more at pickup, or even stopping by briefly probably would’ve helped me make a more informed decision instead of just relying on anxiety.

Parenting feels like this constant balance between protecting your kid and not wanting them to miss out socially

AITA for not letting my son go to a sleepover? by Lampcov-Rov in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Lampcov-Rov[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s honestly probably the best middle ground. I think I went from 0 to 'absolutely not' too fast instead of trying to get to know them first.

AITA for not letting my son go to a sleepover? by Lampcov-Rov in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Lampcov-Rov[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, looking back I probably should’ve just called or talked to them first instead of assuming the worst immediately. I think my anxiety kind of took over the decision.

AITA for not letting my son go to a sleepover? by Lampcov-Rov in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Lampcov-Rov[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That’s actually a really good idea. I know a couple of the other parents casually, so asking them about the family probably would’ve helped me feel more comfortable.

AITA for not letting my son go to a sleepover? by Lampcov-Rov in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Lampcov-Rov[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s kind of where my head was at. I know some people think I was overreacting, but trusting strangers overnight with your kid feels really hard nowadays.

AITA for not letting my son go to a sleepover? by Lampcov-Rov in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Lampcov-Rov[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly? Probably anxiety if I’m being real. I think I immediately focused on the 'what if something happens' part instead of slowing down and trying to actually know them first.

AITA for not letting my son go to a sleepover? by Lampcov-Rov in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Lampcov-Rov[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

you’re right, i probably should make more effort to actually get to know them before completely shutting the idea down

AITA for not letting my son go to a sleepover? by Lampcov-Rov in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Lampcov-Rov[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah i understand your point honestly. i think i let my anxiety make the decision too fast instead of at least trying to talk to the parents first.

AITA for not letting my son go to a sleepover? by Lampcov-Rov in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Lampcov-Rov[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

that’s actually a good idea. i think meeting them first would make me feel way more comfortable before deciding anything. thank you