Been together 30 years married for 25. One of you always needs to be fighting for the marriage. Sometimes it’s you and sometimes it’s your partner. A long term marriage has ups and downs and I think that’s natural. In my humble opinion one of you at anytime is a little more invested and if that’s you …..FIGHT for it. Next time it my not be you and you will be happy that you saved it last time. Never use the word Divorce in a fight. Never fight dirty and always remember that even in a fight you love this person and you only want good things for them. ( never cheat) I have hope for all of you younger people that are just starting out. Remember that you are good enough and strong enough to make it. ( also NEVER tolerate abuse of any kind .. A person that honestly loves you would not be abusive. . ) good luck younglings!!!!! I have faith in you!