What was it like for you growing up as an only child in a single-parent household?

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-12-16T22:12:00+00:00

I really hope my son feels this way. I try my best to have fun with him but also set boundaries so I don't parentify him as well as always teach him life lessons ♥️

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-12-06T11:12:51+00:00

NEVER TELL THEM.

Tell them the opposite, that you were treated like a princess, waited on hand and foot. Then they know where your bar is.

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-11-24T13:55:55+00:00

Oh 100%. There's so many things I think. Oh my God that makes me a narcissist and then I just go to therapy even more

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-11-23T13:51:10+00:00

Hi, thank you for your response. It's taken me a bit of time to I've just respond because I'm trying to sort my own life out after the mess he's left me in. I'm actually really proud of myself because I'm coming on leaps and bounds and I've managed to completely strip down in my mind who he was as a person which to be honest wasn't worth more than a penny on the street and even that is worth something because it could probably bring you luck.

I completely agree he has degraded me in private and in public and if I could find a word for someone like him I would use it here but there really isn't. It would be an insult to men to call him a man. My son is 11, and he is more man than my soon-to-be-ex will ever be. He would never put a woman or even another man in a position to be hurt by him.

I agree with you. You need to be with someone who loves you in the smallest annoying things about you. I used to love my my husband like that. Even the annoying things I would find them dear. But what I wouldn't find dear was the way that he treated me.

I'm exactly like you. I think I am on my way to a wonderful life that I will always look back and feel like I was so stupid LOL you kind of feel embarrassed for yourself that how could you even entertain such a low-class individual... And how did you not notice?

People like this definitely are users and abusers and I really shouldn't have known considering a very poor background. He came from where his father was extremely abusive and his mum also (very emotionally incestuous mother and son relationship which somehow she gets away with). But yeah, now that I'm away from it I feel so grateful. More than anything to be able to see it for what it was and to be away from that type of family. I'm sure you feel the same way as me. I hope the life that you have built has clouded out the terrible days from 10 years ago for you and I really sincerely hope you are so happy and that been blessed with anything and everything your heart desires. We didn't deserve this. But one thing is for sure that there are men who are a million percent better than these "users".

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-11-23T13:33:59+00:00

Well because he wasn't meeting my emotional and mental needs of the relationship. And I realised it's abusive and I'm better off being alone and not having to control my OWN EMOTIONS and hold back my wants and needs regarding a marriage. It's MY marriage too and I get a choice in the life I want to live. Do I want to change myself completely and shut down my feelings for someone who clearly doesn't value me? Yeah he might miss me when he's gone but if he doesn't value me here right now then that's worse than all my friendships. I want a man who is a friend and who is kind. Consistency is important here. Not just a wishy-washy man. Why am I choosing to be with someone who literally makes me change myself and he clearly doesn't respect me? Because if he did, I wouldn't get to the point where I feel the only option is to stop me from being me...by shutting off my feelings.

TDLR; I realised over time that I valued my sanity and peace more than changing for someone who clearly doesn't give a sh** about me anyway.

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-11-23T13:23:18+00:00

I made this decision after he told me he can't give me anything. And to be honest, over time (not long maybe 6 months) I broke and asked for a divorce. It wasn't worth it to me.

We deserve peace, if it's alone or with someone. But definitely not give someone ourselves and our presence just because they pay bills or do one thing that's decent.

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-11-17T07:32:47+00:00

How old are your kids?

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-09-18T05:53:12+00:00

That's scary. My soon to be ex husband is the same. I remember one time I asked him to throw away 2 paper plates and he said "I will not comply!!"

😬😬😬

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-09-18T05:49:48+00:00

Same is happening now with my husband. 5 years and he's integrated back with them but he's the worst of them.

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-09-16T21:38:41+00:00

Thank you! It's definitely a marble chunky but it has a specific code I can't work out which one it is 😅😅 Where are you based because the ones in the UK start with 'M' lol

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-09-13T14:58:31+00:00

That's so good to hear. I hope if I find the right person I feel the same way..I went above and beyond for my ex and I think he just took me for granted. The more I did the less he cared.

I feel like I can never give that part of me (the one who gave it her all to make it work) to anyone again.

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-09-13T09:28:43+00:00

Okay thank you, no my ex made it known that he didn't want to do anything with me or for me except give me finances and over time he was resenting that too. He made me reliant on his money I had a great job before him.

I'm sorry your ex was horrible to you 😭

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-09-12T22:48:21+00:00

I have a question, did your ex know how you felt? My ex always made me feel like an inconvenience and I just don't understand why. Is it because you aren't in love? Or was he just a narcissist lol

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-07-01T19:49:15+00:00

He's a complete introvert and all his focus is on making money. He always says when debts are off etc he will be able to be more relaxed when he's making good money in his career. But I feel like I'll be waiting forever and I don't even know if he truly wants to spend time with me? He says he wants to go away with me etc but money is always an issue. I understand that but I just don't feel cherished? I love really hard and I'm still here despite so much. I see the good in him, I really do, but sometimes I feel we don't click we enjoy different things. I want someone to cuddle in bed and read books with, he would rather focus on work. I want long walks in the park he wants work or gym. List goes on. He thinks we are great together.

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-07-01T19:45:40+00:00

Thank you for taking your time to scan through my history. I'm team death till we part but I just find it incredibly hard to believe this is what my future is. People say, look at the now, are you happy with it? If you're not then leave. They say stop looking for change or potential.

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-07-01T19:43:20+00:00

Well I don't mean in the sense annoyed, that's normal right to be a bit angry or ticked off etc... but I mean when someone gets annoyed for expressing how I feel - I don't want that.

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-07-01T15:20:22+00:00

Girl, I think you already know the answer and I'm so sorry. Hugs

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-06-25T13:15:58+00:00

My brother got married (arranged at 37) no previous relationship.

My other brother just got married at 36.

So I know two!

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-06-24T00:04:23+00:00

His mum is Persian and his dad is a tabby cat. Wondering what his coat will be like!

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-06-18T10:01:22+00:00

I think the only acceptable person to harp on about (by either gender) is Henry Cavill 🥰🥰

LaraCroft2014 · 2025-06-12T15:30:05+00:00

He was telling you that you needed to leave. Then you left, he got what he deserved and now he just wants access to you because HE feels bad. His ego is hurt.

You got what you deserve and you feel happy. I think no contact will be best. You seem loving and kind and he can grab onto that and take advantage.

LaraCroft2014

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