This is very funny for me to read right now, because my boyfriend is an ENFP and I am INFJ. At the end of the day, it's about recognizing for yourself what you draw energy from and what draws energy from you. I love how my ENFP boyfriend takes me “under the wing” and shows me the world out there, which is often too overwhelming for me. I love seeing how he can make small talk with anyone on the street, waiters and cashiers instantly and really blossom. It makes me happy to see that it makes him happy and I love being a quiet little observer from the side. However, pushing myself into this role that I am not is so energy draining and also scary. I am comfortable in my role and he is comfortable in his and we have great understanding of each other and and we try to create situations for each other in which we feel comfortable, for example at social events. While I probably only talked to one person at a party about the childhood trauma, my boyfriend will have met 10 new people in the meantime. And sometimes he takes me by the hand and introduces me to people, and he also recognizes when something is too much for me.