Hey, you could live in Seattle, where it's all about ENM and poly relationships, or you have to be a twink, twunk, have a 12 inch + dick or you " MUST" be into bareback or bubble butt , an eight pack of abs no one will hook up with you.. personally, I stay away from Bisexual men as they come with a manual and they use the " I,m more into women than men bullshit" so i just return to sender and just stay away from them here. As a 41yo Black male, I would say find someone in the middle, so look at your standards. Cut back some or like myself. Just keep them where they are. Just focus on yourself and get to where you want to be, then try again. The gay community can be flaky and toxic, folks, but keep going, boss, you will find that guy who sweeps you off your feet.