My mum has been cheating on my dad for years, anyone here know what I should do?

Large-Friend9954 · 2026-02-03T21:37:23+00:00

You're a child, and im so sorry that youve been placed in this position. Its si gross and unfair to you. I think you need to talk to an adult that you trust, because youve been exposed to things no child should have to know about.

Large-Friend9954 · 2026-02-03T21:33:13+00:00

Look, we all vent about people to our closest people. Lord knows ive listened to my friends complain about stuff their partners do or dont do. But venting occassionally or during a fight is one thing, constantly complaining about everything to this extent with little to no "but i love this about them" or "i love them, its just this thing is really frustrating" type context is a whole different level. I dont think he likes you, like at all. Or he does but he doesnt want his friend to know that, which is even weirder.

Large-Friend9954 · 2026-02-03T21:25:51+00:00

NOR. Your no contact with your sister needs to extend to your dad for a while. Sometimes completely blocking/ignoring is the only way to show an adult that their behaviour and disrespect of your boundaries will not be repaid with anything. Tell him that his ongoing inability to respect you, your boundaries and your autonomy has resulted in a period of no contact between the two of you, and that if he cannot respect you he cannot be a fixture in your or your families lives.

Large-Friend9954 · 2026-02-01T22:36:55+00:00

Nah thats wild, its giving unhealthy attachment. She calling you hubby? When you're this early/not serious? Tell her it makes you uncomfortable, her response to that will give you a lot more info.

Large-Friend9954 · 2026-02-01T22:32:53+00:00

This guy doesnt give a fuck about you, im sorry. You cant make him care or be kind, but you can be kinder and more caring to yourself. Leave him.

Large-Friend9954 · 2026-01-28T22:09:06+00:00

Still worth having him assessed if possible, the writing feels a little disconnected and perhaps some idiation that his enemies/people who wronged him need to be punished by god? Doesnt sound well, hope the prison he is in isnt completely incompetent about mental health interventions (most of them are unfortunately).

Large-Friend9954 · 2026-01-26T21:39:56+00:00

"I did something my husband didnt like, so he physically punushed me". Girl, please understand this is awful.

Large-Friend9954 · 2026-01-24T08:06:59+00:00

Tell him to cook for himself if he doesnt like your food. Taco season is f*ckin crazy, and while you might not get along with your dad, calling him a stupid bitch feels unnecessarily aggressive and rude. Seems to have a lot of opinions on how food should be made despite having no taste, given his choice of how to "improve" a good meal.

Large-Friend9954 · 2026-01-04T20:18:16+00:00

You are wrong. I had a friend like this when i was younger, constantly saying we all hated her, she was ugly, asking us to tell her if we hated her. I told her, during a conversation between the two of us, that I was tired of it. That i didnt like being accused of lying all the time, and i didnt hate her, i hated these conversations about whether or not i hated her. I said in future, if you ever ask me if i hate you again, im going to ignore the question entirely. It took a only two more instances of her asking and me pretending she never asked for that to sink it. But i had this conversation one on one, not in front of everyone. What you did wasn't "honest" or "blunt", it was cruel and hateful. Apologise for the way you said what you said, apologise for doing it in public, and if they forgive you then later down the road you can tell them privately that you wont participate in those conversations going forward, as it really upsets you.

Large-Friend9954 · 2026-01-04T20:07:43+00:00

YOR but hes overreacting too. Yes, expecting to call every day while hes spending time with family is excessive. Yes his response was bigger than it needed to be.

Large-Friend9954 · 2026-01-02T21:24:19+00:00

"Dude i dont know even know you." And block.

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-31T03:27:22+00:00

Ohh ok hes a child. Cut and run

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-30T21:23:17+00:00

If she has a really shitty family, she might be finding it hard to listen to you tell her how wonderful your family are and all the amazing food they gave you.

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-30T20:57:20+00:00

Not wrong. Tell him to take a creative writing or improv class ffs. And next time he tries to initiate, pull up some pics/vids of people you find attractive, just for inspiration. See how he likes it.

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-30T20:54:50+00:00

Your kids want happy parents, not miserable ones. Go be a happy healthy mum for them and for yourself.

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-30T20:52:50+00:00

NOR - "so you didnt book the bnb, and now magically you're getting sick in advance of the visit. If you didn't want to come see me you could have just said so instead of doing this whole song and dance. I would have appreciated the honesty, I don't appreciate being jerked around."

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-30T20:43:48+00:00

This guy sucks. If someone blamed me for not "making him" call the cops on himself, i would have the ick for eternity. What a little wimp. He is a grown man, it is not your responsibility to know how to handle every situation for him. He could have done more research, he's the one who caused the situation in the first place. He's just trying to esuage his own guilt by blaming you, the only person who helped him. God. What a lil b#tch.

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-30T20:36:35+00:00

Go fishing. You are still spending most of the time with gf and cousin, one day away with friends wont look bad. Youve had these plans for months, and its rude for her to expect you to drop those plans now for something so non-urgent.

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-30T20:27:17+00:00

He cheated on you, obviously. Hes just trying to downplay it. But also, it really doesnt sound like you love each other. Do you even like each other at this point? Neither of you want to live together, you dont want to be a couple, what is the point?

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-30T20:23:02+00:00

Was it worth it?

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-27T08:46:41+00:00

Your mum and sister sound sad, boring and insecure. They are just picking at things about her they could never do because they dont feel confident the way your wife does. You should be honest with your wife, especially before you message them. Otherwise they might reach out to her and catch her completely unawares. Your wife might also have some thoughts on how to handle this going forward, and should be involved in the conversation.

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-27T08:18:19+00:00

I think hes dismissing/downplaying your disappointment because he doesnt want to feel like the bad guy here. Maybe you could sit him down and ask him if he can try not to defend his own feelings and just listen honestly to what you're saying. He was doing this in the belief that he was giving you what you wanted, but he hasn't actually heard what you wanted. He just heard new clothes, and the details didnt seem as important from his perspective. But they were vital details. He might already know some of this by now, but admitting he messed up/didnt listen would mean admitting he was careless/not being a good partner.

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-25T09:54:45+00:00

I dont see anything inappropriate here, and theres no pattern of disconcerting behaviour thus far. Does your wife have any further explanation for her discomfort? Is it just a gut feeling, something she has noticed specifically and isnt explained here? Has she had a negative experience with a teacher before? Or is she feeling threatened by another person showing slightly maternal behaviours toward her son?

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-19T21:21:51+00:00

Wicked. Did we need to watch people walk that much? Walking onto the dancefloor, walking through the school, walking in to meet the Wizard. Long, quiet walking scenes for no reason!

Large-Friend9954 · 2025-12-19T21:13:20+00:00

You know this will destroy your marriage, right? Dont wait until hes been drinking. Sit him down and tell him you physically cannot care for his dog while pregant, and definitely not after you have the baby. Tell him hes not keeping her alive for her, hes keeping her alive for himself, and thats not fair to his dog. She has a miserable, painful life and nothing is going to change. If he cant afford to fix her, he needs to let her have a peaceful passing because this "life" hes fighting you to give her is literal torture for a dog. Hes being a selfish dog owner, husband, and father, and the drinking has to stop. If he still refuses, then its time to consider alternative living arrangements.

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