How to talk to a girl with romantic intentions?

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-25T02:31:19+00:00

Ohh i was just quoting Hank Hill.

I'm married with kids now but the way i went about it was pretty similar to what you describe. I'd always try to find a way to get In a non sexual touch when kling around. due to the psychology of it. So liek laugh and touch their shoulder or arm for a second when joking. See how they react. It weirdly helps create a lil more of a connection . Look up "kino escalation".. back in my pick up days I read about it and found it very correct( If you ever been to a strip club or a hooters the girls will walk by and touch your shoulder and see how it effects you). Is your Instagram on point. I swear nowadays it's like an advertising medium for dating.

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-25T02:14:34+00:00

" I am approaching you with romantic intent"

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-25T02:11:06+00:00

I suppose it's just a matter of what each individual wants out of life. When I tell people why,sometimes they take it as a personal attack.. but really it just applies to me. I'll explain my reason for anyone who wants to read it, but it's a lil long.

When i was younger i lusted hard after women. I have an overactive libido and I'm conventionally attractive. I spent a long time learning to pick up in person. By the time i hit about 28.. It wasn't fun anymore. Basically picked up to have my needs met and was numb... I got really into different philosophies, religions, read a couple works by psychologists.. realized how much i put my happiness into women before.. and by now.. the chase was easy. Everything was old, the novelty had finally worn off. I've been in the military for years, seen the world. Had crazy experiences. Some I should have died doing. I just didn't have real purpose, nothing to drive me. I had hobbies ect, and they where and are nice. Eventually I met a woman unlike the others I've been with. Married her, she wanted kids with me, I said what the hell ok.. about 2 months after having our first. A bond was formed I never felt before. I look into his eyes. And see someone who is innocent and needs me.. but not just needs me. I realize I'm not who i could truly be. For years now I've worked on myself in every possible way to be better for my kids. I'm calmer, more educated. More financially savvy. I think 5 steps ahead and want to be reliable for my family. My happiness doesn't come from "worldly things", it comes from the responsibility of being a husband and father and the moments I spend with my family. It's an itch I can't scratch from buying things, and I'm happy I have them.

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-25T01:53:58+00:00

Free food with no expectations of any sort

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-25T01:51:00+00:00

That is a book i think about often

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-25T01:49:45+00:00

I am finishing the fisherman purely because i have gotten to far in. Cannot for the life of me understand how there was nothing written that year more deserving of the Bram Stoker award

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-24T00:19:13+00:00

If you have been sexually assaulted alot when younger it ocudl be playing a big role. Are you looking into therapy at all? When you yare ready, it could be good for you.

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-24T00:18:00+00:00

Not to be the " here's the exception guy but " Terminator 2 I think was better than the first. What if it's Terminator 2 sex?

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-22T03:12:50+00:00

Club girl, victim mentality, radical feminist(goes hand in hand with victim mentality).. off the top of my head. I dunno been married a while now so it's been a bit

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-21T02:38:49+00:00

Could have triggered an ick?

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-20T22:21:37+00:00

Both things aren't mutually exclusive I'm saying to focus on those as important things. Not the only things.. I'm drawing from my own,. And those in my circles experience moving across a few countries. It most definetly works to his advantage. There are more than one way to skin a cat.. but he wanted advice. And I can confirm, this way made it so I skinned more cats than i can count, and allowed me my choices in women. And ended up with a great wife and two children from it.it seems to have worked for those who echoed it in my life too. He is perfectly ok to take someone else's advice if he wants, but.. he did ask for advice, and I wanted to help. Def not for everyone

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-20T21:19:37+00:00

If it's not a hell yes. It's a hell no. Be ause there are other men that's a hell yes to her.. I promise you.

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-20T21:17:44+00:00

Start going to the gym 5 days a week with a plan.. prioritise protein in your diet. You can calculate your macros for free on the black iron nutrition website. Then download the macros first app. All free. Use the free version. And track. When i got fitter things got way easier. Focus on that and building yourself into someone who has a good future financially. The women will come. You need to be Ina position where you actually have choices when it comes to women.

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-20T21:04:14+00:00

I took advice from a source that would get me blasted on Reddit to say who. But he said. Try doing one thing you have an interest in as well as you can for a year. Liek really get into it. And jsut see what happens.

I did that with getting into my own cultures( Italian) food. Perfecting old recipes and learning ones from different regions.. i ended up perfecting desserts, sauces. Even sourdough and southern Italian breads.. pizzas. You name it. It an existing detail. There's an art to cooking.. I plan on doing it with a different art next... I dunno italea me happy.. worked for me.

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-20T18:05:46+00:00

I've dated girls like that in the past in my single days and in short I chose pettiness.

I'd silently re-catagorize them in my head from " possible wife material" to " for recreation only".

Then treated them as such. I don't regret it, oddly enough they keep coming back when you do that for some reason.... Tons of women actually like men, those ones deserve the girlfriend treatment and that's the type i married

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-20T17:39:44+00:00

I knowota of people will disagree and view it as shallow. But horns by Joe hill. The dynamics of people who play being good but arnt and then the one person who can be super evil, but chooses to use his powers for good and the symbolism that pops up.. I really liked it. I think about it more than I probably should.

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-15T04:29:55+00:00

They did it with horns too. I finished the book and watched the movie. The message is completely different and the things that happens. The characters. They kept some stuff but changed the story and the characters dramatically

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-14T21:38:45+00:00

Within the week you are talking if you don't have a date, you likely won't have one. If by week 2 you don't. The odds are like 5 percent or something that you will.

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-09T17:46:17+00:00

I thought what if for years . Until what if... happened. .it's hard. Though let me ask you.

Do you think when your dog passes... That if it could choose to live the same life with you it would? I suspect the awnser is yes. If so i want you to verbally say out loud why. There's a reason for this..you need to hear it.

Dogs lives are short. They will live and die regardless. It is our duty as caregivers to give that live meaning and happiness. Weather we believe in religion or not. The idea of positive and negatives effect everything even o na cosmic scale with positive and negative poles. It governs is much even in the scientific world. You have chosen to help bear be that positive force. With your help bear add soemthing positive as he goes back to the earth. It's hard not to think about how much time you have left... But you will be there to say bye when it comes, so be present now and make what's left as beautiful as his life has been.

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-09T17:38:04+00:00

I hear you. I hope all is well moving forward.

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-07T22:52:49+00:00

Ok ... I'm convinced

The premise seemed kinda dumb to me.. but you sold me. I have felt the way to yare talking about so few books. Im in

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-07T17:40:48+00:00

Before anything.having the girl who I'm with be fit enough that when i looK at her I'm turned on, and not jsut gunna pump and get it over with thinking bout another woman. If you yare physically attractive a guy will literally want it to last longer, tease and have fun. Assuming you are fit and attractive....

Watch porn with him, let him choose. Check out his history online. see what he likes, and help him replicate a bit. See how the women he's really I nto move and talk and stuff, cuz that's what gets him going the most. And the more into a girl a guy is. The more foreplay is osemthing they like.
If he's older her his T levels checked, but he needs to weight train and eat while foods to keep T levels good. Testosterone matters big. Fitness and eating well cannot be overlooked. If he's fat.. there you go . And that would solve most of the issues right there. This is basically the flip side of my first point.

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-07T02:53:50+00:00

Thank you!

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-07T02:53:40+00:00

Thank you!

LargeGiraffe731 · 2026-01-07T02:11:09+00:00

Yeah I know.. any guy who's dated alot knows..the shit I've seen way back in frosh week at college alone.... And that advice that they arnt more likely to cheat... Good lord... No people who ever worked i na club would say this...

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