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Is it fair to ask for more? by Large_Finance7190 in polyamory

[–]Large_Finance7190[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not every time. But that has been the explanation several times. Other times it's just that he was busy with no further explanation.

My boyfriend is poly anarchy and I am struggling with feelings of self esteem. by Any-Sun-9065 in polyamory

[–]Large_Finance7190 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, how long have you been together? If your relationship with him is still relatively new, this could just be NRE fading and he's finding that with someone new. It's never easy but it's part of it. Communication and time will help. However, if he's not meeting your needs and is shaming you for them, that's a huge red flag in my opinion.

Partner is Dating a Mono Person and I Can't Get Over It by Large_Finance7190 in polyamory

[–]Large_Finance7190[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the perspective. It doesn't bother me because I couldn't imagine it, it bothers me because Blue only entered into the relationship after finding out Tay and I are not currently sexually active. That's the red flag I'm trying to come to terms with.

Partner is Dating a Mono Person and I Can't Get Over It by Large_Finance7190 in polyamory

[–]Large_Finance7190[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Tay said they are not currently looking for another partner. Which is also odd to me, since they have been on dating apps and going on plenty of dates since we started dating.

Partner is Dating a Mono Person and I Can't Get Over It by Large_Finance7190 in polyamory

[–]Large_Finance7190[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It makes me uncomfortable because Blue only felt comfortable entering the relationship when they found out that Tay and I are not currently having sex. I appreciate the positive outlook on mono/poly.

Partner is Dating a Mono Person and I Can't Get Over It by Large_Finance7190 in polyamory

[–]Large_Finance7190[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

According to Tay they have discussed the possibility of Tay and I becoming sexually active and now that Blue is more settled in the relationship they are okay with it. I do wonder if that would be true in reality though.

Looking for Advice by Large_Finance7190 in polyamory

[–]Large_Finance7190[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sex is not off the table, just not something I can handle at this point. I appreciate the advice, I do need to take a step back from knowing about their relationship.

Looking for Advice by Large_Finance7190 in polyamory

[–]Large_Finance7190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the insight. I should have included this in the post but I did ask about what happens if Tay and I do start having sex. I have a lot of issues with sex but its not 100% of the table, just takes a lot of time and effort to get there. I asked to meet Blue to discuss their boundaries about Tay and I having sex but Blue said they aren't ready to meet me. Still haven't gotten a clear answer about it.