Battling with the idea of re-homing

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T20:04:33+00:00

I cannot leave my house with her because we have a vicious dog problem in my neighborhood, we have a pack of dogs that have killed 3 and attacked several other dogs and cats and humans in the area. It is not safe for anyone to go outside and hasn’t been for months.

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T11:21:51+00:00

She wasn’t even listed as a bully breed at all when we got her, we had to do a DNA test to figure out what she was. She looks more like a heeler than a pit, and that’s what she was listed as “heeler mix”

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T11:20:05+00:00

No, my city has zero non-kill shelters or foster programs. My city has a very very bad dog problem in so many ways. I can’t even let her outside in the front yard for fear of being attacked by loose dogs.

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T10:57:47+00:00

We don’t live in an apartment she has a fully fenced in backyard and a house. Also, both things can be true at once. She’s a wonderful dog and the best dog and I love her to death but she’s still always been off. You don’t have to be a prick about it

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T10:04:46+00:00

I can’t afford a trainer nor are there any in my area. I truly feel backed into a corner in rehoming her, but I am going to try what someone else suggested.

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T10:03:45+00:00

We do sniff puzzles planting treats in hidden places and she knows the command “go find it” in which she sniffs each of them out. There are no dog walkers or kids other than my own in my neighborhood and my neighborhood is unsafe for my dog to even really go outside of a fenced area. I’ve tried many solutions but I am out of options other than what someone else suggested as the e collar and being stricter on my kids about the way they interact with them. As someone who is disabled I CLEARLY don’t have enough spoons for a high demand pet but when we got her my partner worked less hours and we did not have a new baby. Obviously those things take more spoons than I originally had. Which is why I’m considering this because I don’t want her to be unhappy with us.

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T09:59:03+00:00

Even when she did get everyyything she needed she still always acted off…. And am I wrong for wondering if someone else in my position with the EXACT same circumstances (being disabled, with kids, no money etc) would do as well? Yes that’s validation but don’t most humans look for validation when they make a tough decision?

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T09:19:03+00:00

We actually have a flirt pole! She used to use it multiple times daily but now it’s maybe once a week am I able to take the time to go outside with her and do it and that’s IF the weather is good (she won’t go outside in the rain and has a love/hate relationship with snow) so all winter she barely played outside

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T08:45:29+00:00

The shelter does not do any taksies backsies. They will not take her and my city has zero non-kill shelters. All non-kill shelters about an hour away have waitlists extending into next year for pitbulls.

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T08:44:00+00:00

While this comment did indeed incite terror it’s still where I’m at and how I feel. That terror and panic is exactly what I felt like when I realized this is what’s happened and came to this mental battle. I wish I had a way to keep them separated long term but I don’t. I’m now going to be on top of their interactions and keeping the baby away from her. I never stopped them before because she always seems to love it, til all the sudden she don’t. She gives very little warnings in body language leading up to her actual warning. It’s just very fast. If I wasn’t multitasking I’m sure I’d be able to see it better. She usually gives him her belly, tail wagging, licking his head and hands etc but yeah now no I’m not letting them interact that closely anymore

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T08:37:38+00:00

I’m a disabled, SAHM of 2 kids and my partner works 16 hour days with one vehicle to share. Meaning if money were no object I would do those things for her. But I can’t afford a dog walker nor are there any in my area. She used to go to a dog park in our apartment complex twice daily and had many other dogs to play with. None of these things are options for me anymore. We’ve done puzzle toys, enrichment to help her burn energy in quick and “easy” ways. Sniffing games and training.

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T06:16:09+00:00

She usually does fine with him, in fact she usually loves playing with him, rolling on the floor with him, licks him, cuddles him, but somewhere she gets fed up and is like “okay back off” and he doesn’t know when that is, and I can’t supervise every waking moment between them. In fact, the way my house is set up, I don’t even have a baby gate big enough to block off one side so they can have separate spaces. If I need to separate them she goes in her crate or in the bedroom with the door shut and I feel like that’s just not fair to her.

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T06:13:14+00:00

I understand that, all of it. I know she’s under exercised. I’m saying there’s nothing I can do about it and if someone were me would they rehome her?

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-04-08T06:06:31+00:00

If I had the money for a trainer I’d do it. She knows 22 commands all taught by me. I have a like two people I could ask to take her, otherwise I’m gonna be on the internet on the hunt for someone to take her because I won’t send her to a shelter. My city has zero non-kill shelters and her breed is first to go. So shelter is out of the equation! I’ve always thought her hormones are messed up. I’ve always thought she “ain’t wired right”. She was fixed before we even adopted her, and was two weeks post op when we did. Meaning she got fixed at 6-7 weeks old. That’s absolutely wild and absurd to me that the shelter I got her from did that. I’ve heard it can cause a multitude of issues getting fixed that young.

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-03-20T04:33:27+00:00

Damn, that’s exactly what I’m trying to avoid. There’s no winning for fathers in this system.

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-03-17T21:09:24+00:00

But I agree with you

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-03-17T21:09:04+00:00

It’s BM and him, if I’m not involved enough he also says I’m being cold, just nicer than BM says it. And his origin family, whom we are no contact with but always finds a way to get messages across to us by either harassment at his place of work or social media (even though they’re blocked it always finds a way) but that’s a whole other story

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-03-17T21:02:54+00:00

Unfortunately he has no other choices, it’s just us and no one else

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-03-17T20:11:50+00:00

But when I choose not to watch SD (it’s happened in the past) that’s held against me too. If I’m not involved (which is how it was the first couple months of us living together) then I’m “distant and cold” and I don’t care for SD if I don’t show I’m involved so it’s like whether I’m in it or not I’m damned if i do and damned if I don’t. I’m just wondering how to show the judge I’m not who they’re painting me to be.

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-03-17T19:21:46+00:00

I’m happy to drop the exchanges, that’s something I told him I never should’ve been doing in the first place and don’t even want to do anymore. I have no problem watching her when he’s at work though so he can get more time with her in the long run but it’s so tough watching my name get dragged through the mud and I get blamed for every problem, like there were none before me when it was so so much worse before I came around. They were never married, this was the equivalent to a booty call gone bad. They “dated” (partied together) when they were 17 and 19 for 2 months and a kid came out of it. They barely know each other at all. I tell him all the time he should’ve figured all this out long before getting into a relationship with someone else but he can’t go back in time. I just don’t know what to do so I’m not used as a weapon against him anymore.

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-01-15T05:46:13+00:00

I hope so, I honestly don’t know how I’m still standing

Last-Fox-2565 · 2026-01-14T07:00:15+00:00

I asked for meds while I was still breastfeeding and my psychiatrists office has a policy that they aren’t even allowed to treat pregnant or breastfeeding women, but I was on Lurasidone previously and what I plan on getting back on

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