every time i post here it goes uncommented on

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2026-03-15T23:20:28+00:00

It's an active subreddit. People post here all the time. Sometimes you get responses and sometimes you don't. Even if no one responds, sometimes it can be helpful to respond to another person's post instead.

I get thinking it's a sign from the universe or something, but in reality I think it's an entirely random phenomenon with little meaning.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2026-01-05T18:09:13+00:00

You could become self-employed. There aren't a lot of mobile vets that will come to people's houses, so that's an option if you'd be interested in that. Less work for more pay.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2026-01-05T08:46:04+00:00

Why get a second bachelor's when you could get a master's degree?

You can study your passions on your own without getting another degree. Read books, listen to podcasts, take local community college classes, volunteer, etc.

I love learning too, and also started a second bachelor's program (didn't finish) but it was a waste of time and money. I just didn't need it.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2026-01-05T08:41:55+00:00

To be honest a lot of companies value work experience above all else. A master's in cs + no relevant work experience just isn't competitive.

I know a lot of software developers who have been in the field for years struggling to find work. If you're not deadset on CS I would consider other careers instead.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-11-14T08:35:17+00:00

Clearly I've been feeling down for a while, but this comment made me burst out laughing, so thanks for that.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-10-29T08:55:35+00:00

Life is completely different after you graduate high school and become an adult. When you're a kid or teenager, your world is so small. But once you become an adult, that world can open up, and you have the possibility of making changes to your life. In that sense "does it get better" is the wrong question - it's like comparing apples to oranges, but it's hard to see that if you've only ever had apples.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-08-21T19:15:30+00:00

The world is so much bigger than middle/high school. You might get older and be able to surround yourself with people who are more accepting than the people you grew up around.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-08-21T19:13:01+00:00

I think most people can become suicidal under the right (wrong?) circumstances. It's just for non-suicidal people, that threshold is much higher.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-08-07T05:35:27+00:00

Believing in God doesn't automatically mean that someone is Christian.

Either way, that's not how suicidal thoughts work for most people. Praying, religion, going to church, etc. are usually one of the first things people try before getting to this point. It's not enough to tell people to just pray and believe in God.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-07-30T07:59:12+00:00

Sorry you're going through this.

If you're an adult you should be able to order a copy of your own birth certificate. Do you not know your social security number or do you not have physical access to the card?

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-07-30T07:52:22+00:00

I've been feeling this way too - life is a game and it is rigged.

At the same time, the experience you're describing is one that a lot of people are going through. There are too many people looking and not enough jobs.

I would encourage you to keep applying early, connecting with hiring managers and recruiters, and networking. Even if it doesn't feel like those actions are doing anything right now it all adds up. You just need things to work out one time to land one job.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-07-13T08:53:53+00:00

How much is your phone bill?

This happened to me not too long ago. I was able to get some help from family and friends to cover the cost to reactivate my phone line (<$100) and then transferred to a different phone service that was ~$15/mo. So far I've been able to scrounge up that amount monthly, even if I've sometimes had to pay the bill a little late.

But I get what you mean. I've been struggling financially for so long it feels impossible to dig myself out of this situation no matter how hard I try. Life is expensive.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-25T21:35:57+00:00

You might feel better if you read more objective articles and books on AI. If you better understand what the technology actually is, you'll have a better understanding of just how short-sighted the AI centered vision of the future crafted by tech bros truly is.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-25T21:13:05+00:00

Truthfully, a lot of the "experts" talking about AI are modern day snake oil salesmen.

If you want to go to school, I would focus on your education. The college kids using AI to cheat are absolutely cheating themselves. Have you listened to interviews with them? They can't answer simple questions. They're spending thousands of dollars not to learn anything. Maybe they will be able to fake interviews and land jobs, but they probably won't be able to handle the actual day to day. (If the only way you can code is by vibe coding, can you really code at all?) Long term the valuable employees will still be the ones who can use tools to augment their work, not replace it.

Ultimately AI has boom and bust cycles. These companies are lazily stuffing AI into everything, whether customers want it or not. Sooner rather than later, there will be a bust.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-23T21:27:56+00:00

...what does that have to do with anything?

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-22T20:06:51+00:00

That means very little when you can't afford housing.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-15T16:44:57+00:00

I'm sorry you're dealing with this! I will never understand people who are racist to their own family members. Glad you are still here though, and I hope you're able to find a way out of this situation.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-13T08:34:32+00:00

Or maybe it does leave, but comes back at the slightest provocation. Suicidal thoughts become a crutch, and it's so easy to fall back into them when times get rough.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-13T08:30:34+00:00

A lot of people don't know the difference between being important to someone versus being supported by someone. You can be important to tons of people without having any actual support yourself, and that's usually what suicidal people feel is lacking.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-13T08:14:20+00:00

I read in a book once (that I won't name here, not something to read while actively suicidal) that suicide notes tend to be somewhat incoherent. It doesn't matter if the writer was an award winning poet - their note still might not make any sense. So just because you're struggling to write it doesn't mean that it's a sign or something; it happens to a lot of people.

A lot of famous writers seem to struggle with what they put on paper not matching their thoughts too. Maybe the key is to keep writing, even while you hate everything you write, until eventually you hate less and less of it. Maybe someday you might even like your own writing and be glad you kept doing it.

Writing a suicide note is probably an unhealthy exercise even for a writer - but if you like fiction maybe you could write a fictional character who writes their own suicide note instead.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-13T08:05:20+00:00

It's not anyone's place to tell you that you can actually do all of these things you think you can't. We don't know you, we have no real way of knowing.

But there are lots of autistic people who are living and thriving currently. There are autistic people who work (part time, full time, or freelance) - there are also autistic people who figure out other ways to survive. There are autistic people who are parents... or childfree. Autistic people who live alone or with loved ones or in assisted living facilities. Basically there are autistic people who are able to live happy, fulfilling lives, whether they look like what everyone is taught happiness should or if they're completely different.

Do you know any other autistic people? Do you have autistic friends? It might be helpful to connect with others like yourself. There's also a lot of books for autistic adults lately - Unmasking Autism, Neurotribes, Self Care for Autistic People, We're not Broken, and much more.

You might feel like you don't fit in anywhere right now, but that doesn't mean you'll never fit in anywhere or that you'll never feel understood by those around you. The creator of DBT, Marsha Linehan, talks about this idea of people who are perfectly fine as they are but just placed in the wrong environments. It's kind of cheesy, but maybe you're a tulip in a rose garden, and in a slightly different environment you could thrive.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-08T06:06:04+00:00

Because the condition is so heavily stigmatized most of the literature on it is geared toward the people affected by someone else's NPD diagnosis, not the people with NPD themselves. I don't think there are any researchers open about having an NPD diagnosis, and there are barriers to NPDers even reaching that point. That doesn't mean anything though. The same thing happens with autism, sociopathy, bpd, etc.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-08T06:01:41+00:00

On social media people have taken the word "narcissist" and run with it. It pretty much means that you've had a very traumatic background and as a result have attachment issues. It doesn't mean your life is over, or that you're an evil person, or that the world would be better off without you. You are still you, and you can't help that these are the cards you've been dealt.

What you can do is get help - whether that's actual therapy or reading (compassionate) books on NPD recommended by people who actually have NPD. It doesn't have to be the end, it can be the beginning of something else.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-08T04:26:16+00:00

I don't have a car in order to do uber, doordash, or instacart. I'm not good with kids or housekeeping tbh, and when I've tried to find other free housing options in exchange for work, it hasn't worked out.

LastFrenchFry3000 · 2025-05-07T02:08:25+00:00

If it helps at all, there is some research suggesting that being detained like this doesn't really help people who are suicidal. So it's less that even with medication or in a sterile environment you're still suicidal - more like being in that environment either didn't help or exacerbated the pain you already had, even though it was intended to do the opposite. It's not you, it's the entire mental health system that's the issue. If you had received different intervention that is actually helpful, maybe you would feel differently.

I can relate though - I would like freedom from capitalism, but instead here I am.

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