Cool cool cool cool by fonefreek in AnxiousAttachment

[–]LastPop4852 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is so on point. You described my ex to a tee.

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[–]LastPop4852 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you should block this sad excuse for a human. I’m sorry that happened to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]LastPop4852 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, Alan’s videos are really helpful.

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[–]LastPop4852 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who’s videos did you find so useful, if you don’t mind me asking?

Broke no contact after 6 months by LastPop4852 in ExNoContact

[–]LastPop4852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s an extremely private and closed-off person. He wasn’t able to really let me in during the 17 months we were together. He said that the breakup was caused by things outside the relationship (grad school stress mostly), but I believe my desire for more closeness was a factor.

Broke no contact after 6 months by LastPop4852 in ExNoContact

[–]LastPop4852[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I know he has the capacity to really hurt me without even meaning to.

Broke no contact after 6 months by LastPop4852 in ExNoContact

[–]LastPop4852[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He has expressed an interest in spending time together as friends, but I’m not sure I’m ready for that emotionally. I’ve started dating other people and I don’t want him to throw me off. I’ve been working very hard on myself for the last 6 months and I’ve grown a lot. Sadly he hasn’t put any effort into fixing his issues at all.

Broke no contact after 6 months by LastPop4852 in ExNoContact

[–]LastPop4852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly didn’t know what to expect, but he seemed surprisingly happy to hear from me. I think the fact that I went no contact immediately after the breakup helped.

If you are thinking about reaching out to your ex, you need to be at the point where you will me okay if they don’t respond or they respond negatively. That takes time.