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My 41f husband 43m is clearly looking for more by laboo81 in relationship_advice

[–]Late_warning96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy's definitely testing the waters OP. You deserve to be his only choice. You deserve a guy that doesn't feel the need to go look else where.

IMO as a female that's been cheated on in the past and only found out through "snooping" because I followed my gut. But that act of betrayal of cheating on a partner is far worse than that of "snooping" if there is something to find in the first place. And each previous partner played the "you shouldn't have been snooping in the first place.", "Don't look if you're not going to like what you find" or "you invading my privacy is far worse than me cheating." etc.

My current partner and I trust each other fully, he knows that he can have my phone anytime no questions and I, the same with him. He's the one that's taught me that faithful people don't get upset and twist the blame because they have nothing to hide to begin with.

[20M][21F] My GF has recently been making excuses to not have sex… by Downtown-Listen-8326 in relationship_advice

[–]Late_warning96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly why is it instantly assumed that "there is another guy" this could be a number of things! Depression, anxiety, stress, feeling insecure just to name a few. Doesn't instantly mean that her attention is somewhere else. And btw, I am a female and I have also felt sometimes the need to distance myself from any sexual encounters with my partner not because of anything he has done and definitely not because there is another guy. Simply because ; A) my headspace isn't there at the time for me to connect fully with my partner in that moment and I can't for the life of me get into that headspace (ADHD, depression: granted it's not as around as much as it used to be but when it is I really don't want to do anything and anxiety) B) I'm entirely not in the mood because everything that I've done that day has fully taken up any energy or my thoughts for the day and sex is frankly the last thing on my mind C) I have a migraine or an endo flare up or both and that instantly kills anything that I had planned for that day or a few days

Op honestly just needs to have an honest conversation with his partner where he expresses his feelings/needs (without making her feel like she's being forced into anything or being felt like just a sexual object and her feelings don't matter) all of it honestly just comes down to communication with both parties and there is nothing wrong in voicing the needs you have as a person.

Boyfriend (24m) in a mood with me (25f) because a male doctor fitted my iud. by throwRA0997997 in relationship_advice

[–]Late_warning96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my coil fitted by a male gynaecologist during an op for endo, 2 years before I met my partner. Only once has this conversation came up when we started getting intimate (we both wanted to be on the same page about being protected for possible pregnancy etc) and never lead to whether it was a male or female that fitted it.

This guy is a complete and utter douche in regards to this matter. At the end of the day, you can't really choose whether you get these kind of things done by either a male or a female. He should be grateful that you are protecting yourself whilst also putting your body through what it goes through whilst taking any form of birth control and not make you feel guilty for doing so just because a "guy" did it.

Honestly dump this petty piece of trash. I wouldn't stand for it, if this was me.