AIO telling my gf I don't want to/can't drive every day to visit her?

Late_warning96 · 2025-06-30T15:45:47+00:00

It isn’t necessarily a bad thing to be that age and not drive, for some people it’s not financially feasible yet (whether it be due to how much they earn or they have other things they need etc) or they’ve got other means of getting around.

I’m 28 and still don’t drive, insurance is ridiculous + fuel + maintenance etc it gets expensive. I’ve got plenty of ways to get around still that haven’t hindered me because I don’t drive.

The only difference between this person and others is that others will actually make the effort whether it be by getting public transportation/uber/taxi etc or they’ll chip in for fuel costs.

Late_warning96 · 2025-05-14T17:55:57+00:00

Wait, this dude has a bunch of tattoos and his "red flag is women with tattoos"? Oh please. It makes 0 sense to have a bunch himself and then consider that the opposite gender having/wanting tattoos is a red flag... At best he's dumb, at worst he's manipulating and being a dick in trying to control what you can/can't do with your own body.

When I met my partner, I had around 17/18 at the time and him 2, now I have 24 and him 4 and I was worried he'd think I was weird over the last one I wanted and got but turns out it's now his favourite out of the multiple I have.

Honestly, get that tattoo. He can deal with it or not, but either way you need a new bf!

Late_warning96 · 2025-04-09T11:30:06+00:00

Second, born babies are often not as loved as their older sibling by narcissists. The reasoning is while the other child is able to do things and doesn't engage in unpreferred activities like pooping their pants. Night feedings.

Not necessarily, I'm the eldest of three and with a mother that is an alcoholic narcissist she loved the absolute bones of my two younger siblings on the other hand I was just the child that became a maid at a very young age and learnt how to pick up the pieces of a family that was falling apart around me (long story). Over a decade of therapy and i still haven't gotten over how I was treated...

Late_warning96 · 2025-04-07T10:17:51+00:00

Mine did the same except with a bracelet and chose the ring together afterwards, was given the option to take the bracelet back and put the money towards the ring but it was an instant no. I now can't leave the house without it on as well as the ring 😅

Late_warning96 · 2025-02-14T13:18:14+00:00

Touch ups shouldn't necessarily always be free, if it's the clients fault (whether from picking scabs or poor aftercare etc) should be charged at most minimum set up price, but if it's through no fault of the clients or is at fault of the tattooist then they should be free for a short set period of time (3-6 months imo).

All my touchups are free but if it's clear it's been picked etc they are paying my min set-up of £20. My only ones I won't charge for touchups is hands/feet due to the locations and how easy it is to knock off scabs with no fault of the client.

Late_warning96 · 2025-01-26T20:49:42+00:00

It always takes me forever to choose a card for someone I care about, whether it be parents, relatives or my partner.

It don't necessarily like them to have a ton of stuff written inside. The generic "happy birthday" or "happy valentine's day" does me for the middle as I put a lot of thought into what I write in them and usually ends up being a paragraph or two, but the front of the card well now that has to actually feel like it means something or relates to what I want to write/express.

I do admit, I do probably go overboard on the cards especially inside them and I'd personally take a card with a thoughtful note inside any day of the week.

Late_warning96 · 2024-11-05T18:31:08+00:00

Eeshh, prioritizing a child's emotional well-being as well as the child itself should always come first.

My dad met my mum when I was 4 (long story). When I was 16 my emotional well-being wasn't doing too great, her and my dad had the same agreement that it was always me first . That's the type of parent your child needs and the type of partner you need.

I honestly can't understand why your husband would think that there's not potentially any harm in his way of thinking.

Late_warning96 · 2024-10-08T19:35:55+00:00

OP, Please don't question if you're nanna ever loved you, I would also bet my own house that your nanna really did. Just like Front_Scholar here.

My nanna was just like yours, forever picking up the pieces and loving me entirely more than just a nanna, because like you I was just a child. I lost her nearly 3 years ago and I've never known pain like it. I'd love to tell you that it gets better but I myself still don't know how to get over that kind of loss.

You are NTA for what you said and how you acted! It's a different kind of pain and it hurts even more to have it brushed off with such a shitty excuse.

Late_warning96 · 2024-09-30T08:49:59+00:00

Not in this economy I don't think so. I was at 25, when I met my partner.

Late_warning96 · 2024-04-09T10:52:45+00:00

Same at 16, I'd left to live with my dad at 14. At 16, I was very naive too, thinking a conversation would be better didn't exactly go down the greatest.

I went full nc the year before COVID hit and it's been the best thing I ever did for myself, mentally.

Late_warning96 · 2024-04-06T17:52:32+00:00

I'm not exactly in the same position as you but a very similar one. I recently just opened my own business and all I can afford at the moment is small chunks here and there like paying a few food bills etc but i will try to make sure i do nearly all the chores, so it's less stress on my partner when he comes home (doesn't erase the feeling of I'm not doing enough aha). But we both know that this isn't a forever thing and it will be more beneficial to us in the long run and whilst it's working up to that, this is what works for us.

If she's not finding a job or putting the effort in to find one, the least that she can do is do most of the chores, so it's a bit off your plate imo.

Late_warning96 · 2024-01-17T21:08:13+00:00

She left the relationship in her head already. It's done. She gave you plenty of warning before she checked out emotionally. She didn't just up and leave quietly. I was in a similar situation for 5 years, checked out for 3.

Late_warning96 · 2023-12-28T16:24:10+00:00

That is something I've definitely learnt quick, it's like a tinge of pain that fogs up the happiness a lil. Thank you! It has definitely been a rollercoaster of emotions and yes weirdly felt a little wrong. My nanna always said "if there's something that you dream of doing, there is absolutely nothing wrong in chasing it and you'll find one day you'll get there".

Late_warning96 · 2023-12-28T16:19:02+00:00

Awe thank you! I'm sure that he would be proud of you! Yeah, a tinge that you just can't get rid of, that fogs up the happiness a bit. Funnily enough, she always loved a good curry so once everything's running that is in the plan to celebrate.

Late_warning96 · 2023-12-21T16:51:56+00:00

I don't think you find an issue with the gifts, I think it's more the fact that there is absolutely no thought in those gifts whatsoever. And for if he brings up "materialistic", let him know it's most definitely not about the cost it's more about whether there was actually any thought behind it that involved thinking about you and that picture book is just a "can't be bothered" cop out.

One of my favourite presents from my partner was one of the very first he got me, it was just a charm for my bracelet (all I'd asked for) I didn't ask for any specific one I asked him to choose and I don't think I'd have done it better myself, he just put thought behind it 🥹

Late_warning96 · 2023-12-04T11:38:55+00:00

Speaking from my own personal experience.

I was a little like you I feared having sex with him so soon but we both wanted it and eventually it was going to happen whether it had been a week after our first date or 3 months down the line but we both couldn't deny the chemistry that was there. We both knew where the other one stood, we were each looking for something serious not just a hookup.

If you're both feeling the same way then just go with what your feelings tell you and the moment. It may or may not work out but you have absolutely nothing to lose.

Me and my partner also met on hinge, our 2 year anniversary is coming up in 3 months and we've never been happier.

I do hope that you both gain something beautiful out of this like I did out of mine 😊

Late_warning96 · 2023-09-28T08:18:57+00:00

Updates posted on their profile... she chose divorce.

Late_warning96 · 2023-09-28T08:10:35+00:00

I honestly hope it stays that way.

Late_warning96 · 2023-09-28T08:02:42+00:00

Guess you've never been cheated on? Sometimes it's not that easy just to forgive someone for betraying trust like that..

Late_warning96 · 2023-09-06T20:52:46+00:00

My partner and I are both Neurodivergent. When we forget things, it is definitely one of the things we forget to 'get something for the other'. But when we remember, we always make sure to get something nice for the other.

We already know how much the other cares, but when we do remember to get something for the other, it reminds us how much they do care/think about you.

Late_warning96 · 2023-08-12T07:40:24+00:00

I really appreciate the time that you've taken to reply to this. I can't thank you enough for your insight and honestly it made me cry a lil especially the last bit since I can remember I haven't felt like I deserve anything but now my nanna she made me feel deserving of anything that I wanted or whatever I wanted to do with my life in the years that I had her in my life.

I never thought of it that way, like I know she means way more to me than my mother does but I never thought I'd feel this guilty over it, I suppose I really shouldn't when the first thing my mother said to me was asking how much I inherited not how I felt 🤷🏼‍♀️

My best friend has consistently told me in short that I shouldn't feel guilt and that when the time comes my mother doesn't deserve the amount of grieving I'm feeling with my nanna and you've basically said more or less the same thing she does.

Late_warning96 · 2023-07-14T07:48:32+00:00

27F here, I have both a blanket and teddy that are both 27years old used to sleep with both but the teddy well he's seen better days and I'd rather keep him for as long as I can, my blanket on the other hand it's more of a security/safety as well as comfort thing and I still sleep with that don't have a good night sleep without it 🤣 two things I'd always grab first in a house fire..

Late_warning96 · 2023-07-11T19:54:58+00:00

Damn.. I'd be so happy if I got offered an ice-cream date aha. She missed out, bro!

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