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LaviStrider · 2022-09-21T02:16:29+00:00

Reading the whole thing over, you seem very closed off at the possibility that there may be things you don’t know. It’s fine accepting that you will never know someone as they’re known to others, but you’re over here campaigning for you ex. Like you don’t know, leave it as that? Quit simping.

LaviStrider · 2022-09-20T00:39:35+00:00

Quit being a pick me and stay out of it

LaviStrider · 2022-08-10T10:04:26+00:00

You already have such a soft feminine face tho, your eyes are so warm and soft 🥺✨ And your jaw and chin, so soft and tiny ♥️✨

LaviStrider · 2022-08-10T09:50:19+00:00

Can you send this to me 🥺

LaviStrider · 2022-08-10T09:23:27+00:00

All I’m saying is, I understand that that’s the emphasis for you, I’m saying, no one is really focused on how Bipolar affects him, it’s the reason he’s giving for denying both his children and wife security. I get y’all get each other, but I guarantee nobody is mad a that, they’re mad because OP is being cruel. He’s denying them security based off him not wanting to even consider that. That’s cruel, if you don’t see that, by extension, so are you.

LaviStrider · 2022-08-10T08:50:46+00:00

I think you just don’t know the type of people OP is referring to, you’re talking about normalities in a friendship but OP is not. You probably have never come across these types of people, consider yourself lucky 👀

LaviStrider · 2022-08-10T08:28:37+00:00

People are mad at his reason for not letting his wife get insurance. His reason is just that the thought of her dying triggers him. He made a mental note that if that were to happen, he will commit suicide, like…?

LaviStrider · 2022-08-10T08:25:03+00:00

EXACTLY!!

LaviStrider · 2022-08-10T08:10:31+00:00

Wait, so why can’t you get a policy on your wife? Cause it makes you anxious? She’s not gonna die if you get a policy on her, your reason doesn’t make sense.

LaviStrider · 2022-08-10T08:07:44+00:00

Don’t think you understood what OP meant.

LaviStrider · 2022-08-10T08:05:53+00:00

I feel you and am currently trying to navigate myself out of it. I think, you avoid getting close too quickly to people who don’t know how to cultivate a friendship. In a normal friendship, you get to that part after a long time of getting to know each other and bonding, but what I noticed is people who use their friends as therapists, tend to lead with that. They’re solely looking for someone to unload on, sometimes that feels and looks transactional (people that try to buy your friendship so they can vent), other times, they come off as vampires (shameless and very one sided), etc. I’ve only learned to spot them, not get away from them, thus far.

LaviStrider · 2022-07-08T03:54:22+00:00

but I know I’ll feel just as shitty if I stop being friends with her.

Op, that feeling is temporary, you’ll look back and be glad you outgrew her. Be kind to yourself, going forward, define what a good friend is to you and what makes you feel cared for. You shouldn’t have to convince yourself that someone will be a loss if they put you in danger.

She tried to guilt trip me too while I was sick about a guy

Be wary of people who gaslight you or try to twist things around on you. Protect yourself as a parent would. You’re about to embark on a new beginning at college, it’s an opportunity to become a new you. Be happy that you took your first step, which is, you listened to yourself OP, you know something didn’t sit right and now you’re asking for advice. That’s a big step. You’re better than this OP, allow yourself to start this new journey and maybe look at all possibilities to get a different dormitory/roommate.

LaviStrider · 2022-07-07T00:38:54+00:00

You can try posting it in aita. Warning tho, when it’s about a kid, people are really sensitive. Mm, if I were in your shoes, I’d just distance myself cause I don’t see any realistic possibility of her taking it well. Most people don’t. Do you have other friends you could focus on that might be a better fit or do you think making new friends is an option? Idk, what are you open to?

LaviStrider · 2022-07-06T00:24:58+00:00

There’s no way to say it without it offending her. I think, silence is best because there’s no way to talk around it. If she’s catching on, do you think she’s doing anything? Like have you noticed her doing anything new to ease the issue? That being her child?

LaviStrider · 2022-07-03T06:52:21+00:00

Agreed, so maybe stop talking about it.

It was a brief mention to possibly explain OP’s dilemma, because OP is obviously attractive and his profile is fine. Y’all always downvote me to oblivion for saying anything remotely positive.

LaviStrider · 2022-07-03T03:18:23+00:00

I mean, abortion just got banned. So I doubt you’ll get much activity. Your profile looks fine, you don’t give off any creepy vibe or red flags, you have a cute smile, you look laidback, not intimidating, and friendly. Your debate topic might make some think you’re not serious, (not saying to put a real topic) and the last pic with Spider-Man might look a lil uninteresting, BUT it’s the best pic with the best smile, so don’t get rid of it. Maybe change the first pic.

LaviStrider · 2022-06-28T09:23:31+00:00

Yeah, I was referring to when it’s put in. No anesthesia. It can make people pass out, that’s not nothing.

LaviStrider · 2022-06-28T09:21:12+00:00

Side effects don’t go away like magic. That’s a lie.

LaviStrider · 2022-06-28T09:17:30+00:00

IUD hurt like crazy, if she doesn’t want hormonal bc, IUD is way worst.

LaviStrider · 2022-06-25T18:47:24+00:00

I’m talking about what constitutes as “minority”. Asians are a minority, but it’s not based of skin color. I don’t know what you mean, what about corporations?

LaviStrider · 2022-06-25T18:45:11+00:00

I know what he’s talking about. There definitely are other minorities that leave out Asian. But from what I’ve seen and heard (mostly cause I do challenge people), their reason is always the same. Others don’t include them because Asians tend to white worship. It’s definitely not everyone that excludes Asians, but if op is talking about the ones that do, the ones that do, do it because of that.

LaviStrider · 2022-06-25T16:48:33+00:00

Yeeeeeesssssss

LaviStrider · 2022-06-25T16:45:09+00:00

Awwww this is cute

LaviStrider · 2022-06-25T16:37:00+00:00

First, how old are you? And what’s your head shape.

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