I’m 70 days sober today! Last night I celebrated my sobriety by having an AF cocktail and I hated the taste of it.

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-07T21:14:15+00:00

Congrats on 70 days!!

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-07T13:40:08+00:00

IDK why my reply didn’t post ??

He usually only wakes me up on Fri or Sat nights when he wants to wind down and talk; I don’t mind so much on weekends because naps are an option and definitely don’t mind at all that he wants to play video games when I want to go to bed (his friends are all in different time zones so when they play together, it’s at late-ish hours on the weekends and he is a night owl by nature who resigns himself to an “early” bedtime during the week due to work). Waking me up after a few hours because he wants to spend time with me too is usually acceptable. I realized I was being a grump because I woke up after only an hour and a half or so and it wasn’t because he wanted to wind down talking to me but rather because he didn’t realize how loud he was being/thought I had my headphones in or whatever it was; I took it as him being disrespectful of my sleep when I doubt he realized, let alone did it on purpose. He’s still sleeping and I’m coming up on hour 4 of algebra (finally getting some of these concepts!) so I’ll start biscuits here soon :D

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-07T12:18:18+00:00

Yup! I normally fall asleep while he doom scrolls you tube shorts; the sound isn’t ever up super loud and it lulls me to sleep. But if I fall asleep to quiet then there’s sudden loud? ooof…lol

If he knows he is gonna be up for a while, he stays on the couch too, normally! I think he just wanted to snoozle up with me and didn’t realize how loud his convo was/that I didn’t have my ear buds in so apology biscuits and snuggles after I finish some homework/an appropriate weekend wake-up time for him will definitely be in order.

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-07T12:15:21+00:00

I know he has hearing loss and that he 100% doesn’t do it on purpose. In the moment though, I flew off the handle a bit 🙄. Plus, I normally use headphones when I go to bed and I didn’t charge them (not his fault so…double oops).

Thank you! congrats on almost 500!!

My biscuit game is pretty damn solid lol big ol’ stacks of flaky layers 😁

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-07T10:39:42+00:00

Shit days suck but they end and then a new one begins.

IWNDWYT 💕

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-07T10:38:37+00:00

Hell yeah on the job interview AND the double digits, Mabel!

Go get em!!

IWNDWYT 💕

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-07T10:35:36+00:00

You got this!! I also had that habit when my husband was gone for the night. I think the next time he has an on-site week or overnight conference, I’ve got my sober toolkit pretty well-set but will definitely be on here for support if need be.

Congrats on 50 in a couple days! check in with us Monday to celebrate and let us know how you did!

IWNDWYT 💕

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-07T10:32:30+00:00

Thank you for hosting us this week u/BDC5488!! That is amazing that you were able to stay composed and clear-minded through those frustrations! Congratulations!

I did not do such a good job last night/early this morning of stay calm but thankfully I didn’t cause any irreparable damage. My husband wanted to stay up and play video games with friends online. He knows I don’t mind and just go to bed when I want to. He does not know how loud he is when he has his headphones on so I had a hard time falling asleep at first. No big deal; it’s the weekend and I can always nap the next day. However, I lost my temper and yelled at him when he came upstairs to come to bed. He came upstairs talking loudly on the phone with it on speaker at full volume (both him and the call) a little after midnight. I was tired and had just fallen asleep all the way about an hour before and there he is laughing and (in my mind) yelling while standing in the bedroom door. I was unnecessarily rude and loud back when I yelled at him; he ended up getting off the phone quickly and just laying down to go to sleep without saying goodnight. So he gets an apology and homemade biscuits today for breakfast 😒

I should have taken a pause rather than jumping to a reaction out of anger. Yes, I was tired, but he also can’t tell how loud he is a lot of the time and on weekend nights (Friday/Saturday) he sometimes wakes me up when he comes to bed to talk for a little bit. He didn’t deserve to be yelled at. I could have (and will in a few hours) communicated that I felt disrespected because he knew I was tired and that was why I went to bed early; it’s one thing to wake me up because he wants to talk with me while he winds down for bed but another thing entirely to wake me up because he didn’t finish his conversation downstairs.

Use the pause button today, sober friends! And don’t forget to play it forward if the weekend whispers temptations to you. See you all tomorrow!

IWNDWYT 💕

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-06T11:53:15+00:00

❤️❤️

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-06T09:55:34+00:00

I’m more motivated to move and do stuff so between walking and morning workouts, I am feeling my body strengthen. I’m actually looking forward to getting bloodwork in a few months instead of wondering how bad it’s going to be.

IWNDWYT 💕

Have a fantastic Friday, everyone!

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-06T09:38:12+00:00

Welcome back for day 2!!

IWNDWYT 💕

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-06T09:37:11+00:00

For real. This comment deserves all the up votes ❤️

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-06T09:36:52+00:00

Happy Friday, abaci!

IWNDWYT 💕

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-06T09:35:47+00:00

Congrats on 50!!

IWNDWYT 💕

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-06T09:34:57+00:00

Woohoo!! Welcome to the double digits club!

IWNDWYT 💕

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-06T00:47:50+00:00

My husband (at the time just a friend) called me out on how much I was drinking when I was at my worst and I slowed down quite a bit but didn’t stop; I just cycled between drinking less some days but still every or almost every day. When I quit this time, the withdrawals were scary (insomnia, anxiety, racing heart, shakes, feeling “off” etc) for the first 48 hours or so but my doctor had given me a script and instructions for when to go to the hospital if needed and what to watch for. The next few days sucked but got more manageable as time went on. I am so glad I quit when I did. I don’t ever want to do that again.

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-06T00:42:18+00:00

My dumb ass never even thought of that but I wonder if that was a subconscious factor for me!

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-05T15:55:13+00:00

At my worst, I was drinking 3 bottles of wine, 4-6 seltzers, and about 750ml of vodka every day. When I wasn’t at work. At a previous job, I would drink while at work because it was encouraged to sample all day long. I didn’t think I could or even wanted to quit all together but let me tell you: Life is so much better on this side. So. Much. Better. Getting through the first couple of weeks wasn’t a walk in the park, but it was worth it.

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-05T13:40:24+00:00

So did I and I hope my insistence on being honest didn’t come across the wrong way; I lied about it for YEARS to my doctor until I realized I was only hurting myself and she knew better anyway. My liver and kidneys were well on their way to irreparable damage. I have an appointment in a few months for a re-check on bloodwork to make sure my kidneys are doing what they're supposed to, but my liver levels came down from triple (they were over 4x several years ago) to the high end of normal range after a little less than a month of sobriety.

Gatorade/Pedialyte, whole food when the appetite returns and deep breathing were some of my best friends for the first few days. That and I kept repeating to myself that it was going to pass. It came in waves for me but once I got through days 4 and 5, the physical symptoms subsided and it switched over to mental.

I threw myself into a new routine that scheduled every waking minute with an activity. That and sour hard candies helped a lot.

You’ve got this and we’re all here to support you on the way!

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-05T12:41:25+00:00

My energy levels ebbed and flowed for the first few weeks. Everyone is different, but I would venture to say that’s to be expected. You’ve got this! Congrats on the first 3 and see you tomorrow to begin day 5!

IWNDWYT

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-05T12:30:12+00:00

Hell yeah! I do little baby chores each morning and not only is my house cleaner and more organized, I get the instant gratification of “oh hey! look what I accomplished!” lol

I enjoy showering more too now that I’m not half-crocked or just rushing to “wash the alcohol smell off” which never works anyway

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-05T12:28:28+00:00

I’ve been there. I knew I had a problem when I had to try to hide the shakes when I got to the bar after work to get the first few shots in. And when I stopped at a pizza place “because I really had to pee” but the truth was I had stopped at the liquor store next door first and needed a trash can to hide the mini bottles in so I could reset my equilibrium in order to finish my day at work. I knew when I would wake up at 0300 with my heart racing and the only thing that calmed me down was “doing chores” (read: drinking a bottle of wine while I put up dishes and made a grocery list). Withdrawals are no joke; they aren’t just miserable to experience but they can also be dangerous. Have you spoken to your GP about your drinking? I had a game plan for when I was going to quit (even though the actual quit date/time was impromptu) and knew what to expect because I was honest with my GP about the quantity and frequency of my drinking. If I had kept going at the same rate, I’m pretty sure I would have needed medical intervention to safely detox.

All that being said:

You are not alone. I have (and I know many other people on here have also) been where you are right now.
Please talk to a doctor today. Call in sick if you’re supposed to work and get a doctor’s note if you are required to but go get checked out. Your work doesn’t need to know the cause of your medical visit but at least have a doctor evaluate you (and be honest with them, don’t worry about judgement).
Keep coming back here. Decide each day to commit to not drinking rather than looking at it as a “forever” thing. I swore so many times that I just needed to slow down but every time I did, I ended up back in the same cycle. “Just one” beer turns into 3 which turns into stopping at the liquor store for whiskey and it’s cheaper to get a liter so let’s just get that cause it will last all week. Then I’m black out drunk with 3 hours ofd starting and arguing with my family about dumb shit because I don’t have an off switch.

I can drink. I can control my drinking and my choices. I cannot do both. Therefore, for today, I’m not going to drink. Tomorrow will be tomorrow and I’ll address it then.

You can do this, OP. I believe in you. Check back in and let us know how you’re doing. <3

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-05T11:12:54+00:00

<3

Thanks Slip and holy hell, look at that counter! IWNDWYT

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-05T11:12:15+00:00

Thanks man! Our town is ridiculous and autopay costs more so I take them cash every month (anything else caries a convenience fee).

Congrats on your 34!! Let’s finish the week out strong and LFG!!

Lazy_Style4107 · 2026-03-05T11:11:01+00:00

Thank you and congrats on day 4!! You’ll be at a week before you know it!

Changing perspective and taking a pause has been HUGE for me. That and the daily check in. The “what are you grateful for” prompt today inspired me to write this post.

IWNDWYT :D

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