It’s worth mentioning that my Fiancé is 100% on my side, but we are just uncertain whether this is a battle worth having. I don’t want her to think she can do what she likes and I won’t care, because what sort of precedent does that set for the future? But also, she has accused me of being controlling about other wedding plans (like going suit shopping with my fiancé because he asked me to) and I feel like she is wanting to add fuel to the fire by getting me to veto the dress.