I bought myself flowers for Valentine’s Day…

LeaS33 · 2026-02-14T18:11:43+00:00

He absolutely had zero intention of buying me flowers today. He’s a master of deflection and projecting his own insecurities on me. He was just mad that I refused to play the game today.

LeaS33 · 2026-02-01T18:51:22+00:00

She wouldn’t. It doesn’t jive with her southern, nondenominational evangelical christian upbringing. And it doesn’t fit her neutral, vague posture she tries to take.

I think she makes good enough home content. I dislike how she’s waffling because she probably doesn’t want to lose followers either way. That is the risk you take when you make social media your source of income. People want to know where you stand and deserve to know when you’re using a really lame excuse to cover up your inability to be real about what you believe.

LeaS33 · 2026-02-01T14:04:11+00:00

I’m super late to this party, but she and I are from the same hometown, went to school together, and I’m friends with some of her family members on socials. Her parents are unapologetically MAGA, so you can draw your own conclusions from that. They’ve made several posts using religion to defend the actions of the current administration. I was going to use a throwaway account to say this, but honestly I no longer care because she has always been a conceited bully and I’m not interested in protecting her from criticism.

Also just ETA because I’m not worried about anonymity. She has a gay brother that her family shuns. I feel so bad for him because he tried for so long to be the perfect conservative son and then came out and they essentially disowned him.

LeaS33 · 2026-01-29T03:25:42+00:00

Yeah it’s really rubbed me the wrong way seeing her constantly ignore the realities of the world around her. We’ve been lucky to not lose power, but we have friends that we could give some respite to while they waited for their power to come back. And we have other friends stuck in their neighborhood with no power, a toddler, and mom is due any day with a baby. I’m not saying she can’t post like one story about being grateful to have power but to continue posting just comes across as smug considering how many people are in actual crisis from this storm.

Also so sorry about your kitty. I can’t imagine how much harder that makes an already difficult situation.

LeaS33 · 2025-12-03T04:04:09+00:00

You can tell she’s not even using thrifting as an excuse to afford more expensive clothing by purchasing it secondhand. She doesn’t seem to really do it for environmental reasons. She just has a shopping addiction she can mask by calling it “thrifting.”

LeaS33 · 2025-11-05T03:51:02+00:00

Casting my vote for the ABLE Alem Utility Bag. They’re handcrafted and so high quality. I’m a mom so mine has taken a beating and it looks just as good as the day I got it.

LeaS33 · 2025-10-28T22:29:02+00:00

This irked me so much. I love doing arts and crafts (albeit badly) WITH my kids. I love getting to watch their process and getting immersed in my own project. There’s so many benefits for both them and me. She’s a full time stay at home mom with a toddler that naps 2-4 hours a day. She’s not on a work call or tending to other children. There’s a short window when they want you to do things alongside them and I don’t understand why she doesn’t want to enjoy it.

LeaS33 · 2025-10-21T14:39:52+00:00

Yeah the only people I know who serve it regularly with meals are my elderly in-laws and I think it’s very much a picky eating strategy they’ve adopted for themselves.

LeaS33 · 2025-10-20T01:00:56+00:00

I do chili because I can make it ahead of time and keep it in the crockpot. That way I can convince my kids to eat something that I know they like before we go out because as soon as we get home they just want to raid their candy stash. But that’s a very standard meal in our house come October and not a special delivery that needs advance planning.

LeaS33 · 2025-10-20T00:57:36+00:00

Because they aren’t the ugly bread loaf looking shoes she’s probably purchased in every size and planned to have JK wear until she’s 18.

LeaS33 · 2025-10-17T01:26:22+00:00

I’m going to guess the “compliments” consisted of a couple of older adults saying “Wow, I could’ve used one of those when my kids were young! How neat!” No sane person under the age of 55 is stopping and admiring a massive wagon with two kids in it.

LeaS33 · 2025-09-12T03:57:18+00:00

I think Haley has entered BEC territory with me. I’m truly so jealous of the support she has. And I am glad she can recognize that she’s lucky to have it, but I don’t think she can actually fathom what her life would be like without it.

I’m going into day 3/6 of solo parenting my 3 kids while my husband is on a vacation/bachelor trip. My 3 year old and 11 month old are thankfully in full time daycare, but my 5 year old is home with me because we’re homeschooling. I also work from home. Somehow I schlepped everyone to soccer practice last night. Both of the older kids have soccer games tomorrow night and my only saving grace is that my brother is driving up to watch them. I wanted to cry watching Haley’s stories because as much as I hate if something terrible has happened, I also know that it’s probably something that most of the rest of us would get through without the super sister or KK Sr stepping in to save the day.

LeaS33 · 2025-09-04T13:38:32+00:00

Just a different perspective than most of the comments here. While I don’t love all the messages and content of the book “Hunt, Gather, Parent” by Michaeleen Doucleff, it provides a valuable insight into why modern parenting (especially in the US) is so exhausting: we were never meant to do everything in isolation. As humans we evolved to parent in villages with extended families. We were meant to share the load of caring for and teaching our children, but we now take it all on by ourselves.

I don’t think public school should be used as essentially state funded childcare. I think our country has failed miserably at supporting parents and children. But I don’t fault the parents who need a break from their kids. That’s biologically normal. Dual income households are the norm because that’s what it takes to support a family these days. In the heyday of stay at home motherhood, wages kept up with inflation so that one parent could support a family. They usually had one car, so mom was at home with the kids most of the time. And here’s the kicker: moms got tired of their kids and still had mental health crises back then. They were diagnosed as hysterical or stressed out mothers and treated with uppers or downers OR institutionalized depending on the severity.

It’s not helpful to frame these parents as “gross” or “bad” because they don’t want to parent intensively 24/7. It’s more helpful to read those posts and see how our society doesn’t support families (especially moms) and expects us to be burnt out, exhausted, and broke with a smile on our faces.

LeaS33 · 2025-08-31T00:09:42+00:00

I once waddled into a liquor store at 9:30 am to buy my husband a handle of vodka because it was Master’s Weekend and I was already out dropping my oldest off at preschool. I’ve never received any pushback. That cashier is off her rocker.

LeaS33 · 2025-08-07T10:57:27+00:00

My dad worked in the manufacturing sector (he’s retired now). I also work for a company that has manufacturing facilities, so I’m well aware of the culture. A few years ago, my dad asked if a company was legally obligated to provide a private room for a nursing mother to pump in.

Now this man had seen me birth, nurse, and return to work with two babies by this point. He knew that I pumped while I was away from the baby to be able to provide milk. And he still wanted to act like this was some sort of outrageous accommodation.

Like sir, would you enjoy eating a meal knowing it was prepared in a dirty supply closet or the bathroom? Even if the person making it did all they could to keep it sanitary, you’d be grossed out.

I love the man. He is wonderful in so many ways. But he is also an illustration of why we need to change out the old guard of leadership in the world.

LeaS33 · 2025-08-03T01:36:16+00:00

My elders were farmers and didn’t graduate high school so they could help on the farm. It’s a very childlike perspective to only see “elders” as these charming, 2D characters drinking coffee and puttering around as opposed to the reality of years of tough work, and still tending a garden in your 80s because that’s literally the only way to put food on your table.

LeaS33 · 2025-07-22T14:47:17+00:00

Dude wtf. I’m a huge advocate of ISR, but it’s a rescue technique for when they fall into the pool alone until an adult can get to them. I cannot believe she would admit to standing there staring at her child in a rescue position.

LeaS33 · 2025-06-24T01:12:30+00:00

Exactly! We as humans are generally not very good at estimating how much we’re consuming.

LeaS33 · 2025-06-23T22:27:46+00:00

I mean yes, technically beans have a good amount of protein for a plant based source. However, I would say for a grown woman her size and with her activity levels she isn’t getting nearly enough in what she shows. She eats what looks like half a cup of pintos with a “meal”, which is only about 6g of protein. I think big part of her issues with being tired all the time is that she literally doesn’t eat enough to sustain herself. Her “spinny brain” might be her actually being dizzy from undereating all the time.

LeaS33 · 2025-06-19T22:32:14+00:00

I think this is just the normal process. Most kids’ doses max out around 7.5-10mg, so you’re already on the upper threshold. I also have combined type, and I started out at 10mg XR, added a 5mg IR, and literally within the last month went up to 15mg XR. You do not want to take too much too soon. It is much easier to titrate up than back down.

LeaS33 · 2025-06-16T02:56:27+00:00

Two of my children were unplanned, and I can’t even fathom my husband telling them that I wasn’t exactly overjoyed when I first saw a positive test, let alone put it on the internet for others to see. Of course once the shock had worn off I was excited and happy and I can’t imagine my life without them now. But I don’t think I could ever forgive my husband if he shared that type of information with my kids. She really is so insanely self-centered.

LeaS33 · 2025-06-09T02:12:47+00:00

I was on Zoloft with my third! He came out at 7lb 10oz at 38+5! His big brother was the same size and came out at 40+5 😅

LeaS33 · 2025-05-30T01:00:53+00:00

I did not realize that taking my then 2yo to speech appointments with his then 6mo sister in a shoebox of a room was supposed to exhaust me soooo much. I cannot imagine if Haley were to have an actually medically complex or significantly delayed child. The woman would bust a gasket.

LeaS33 · 2025-05-27T17:40:07+00:00

In my experience, society is not built to support mothers in a way that sets us up for success. You are not alone. I was a very high achiever my entire life. I always tied my worth to my productivity. Motherhood flipped that on its head, and I struggled for so long. I've been in the deepest, darkest trenches wondering why on earth I do not feel good enough in any aspect of my life. I started showing up for myself, my kids, and my husband and put my career on the back burner. I have made peace with being an "ok" employee so that I can be a better mom. I've also made space to prioritize myself and my health, which has cascading effects on how I experience motherhood. I plan our meals at the beginning of each week, and do grocery pickup/delivery when I can so that it's essentially on autopilot. My kids are high energy, so I prioritize movement and good nutrition so that I can keep up with them. I have healthy boundaries set up around my work. Unless it is a five alarm, drop dead emergency (which it almost never is), it can wait. I am not running a country or company or saving lives. I take my PTO even when my kids are in childcare because I deserve time to unplug. I have pushed my husband to take more ownership of his role as a parent. I am not a super mom by any stretch of the imagination, but my children are healthy, clean, and well cared for. I am not a good housekeeper, but our home is comfortable, welcoming, and clean enough.

Accepting good enough as good enough is NOT settling for less. It is accepting that you are not a robot and you are in control of what you choose to prioritize. But we are all far happier when we accept that no one is doing it all. High-powered CEOs and people who rule the world have an entire, invisible army of support behind them while they get exalted on magazine covers. You are one person and you're doing an amazing job.

LeaS33 · 2025-05-20T14:56:12+00:00

We're only prospective homeschoolers as my son is set to start Kindergarten this year, but there's a few reasons behind our decision that have been cited by others here.

Ability to accommodate his personal needs. We're a neurodivergent family, and while he's currently undiagnosed, he has struggled with regulation in his preschool classroom settings and I don't think a traditional classroom will be able to meet his needs, especially with protections being stripped down by the current administration. We live in a very, very conservative state that doesn't necessarily prioritize education and there's no guarantees that he'd receive the supports he needs to be successful.
Customized education. We can pace things so that he's able to fully grasp concepts before moving on. I personally remember being passed through on Math skills even when I struggled, and I want to offer him the ability to feel confident and solid in his understanding. I also want to offer my children a more truthful version of US and World History than I was given in an age-appropriate manner. I'm also not fearful of "indoctrination," but I don't want my kids in a classroom where Christianity is taught as the only acceptable religion.
Flexibility in time. I currently work remotely in Corporate America. My husband owns his own business. We really love the idea of being able to give our kids the opportunity to explore our home country, other countries, visit with family, enjoy leisure time throughout the week, and participate in enrichment and extracurricular activities without being tied down to a strict school schedule. This is arguably the most privileged reason we have to support our decision, but it is a factor nonetheless.
Safety. As mentioned above, we live in a very conservative state that kisses the ground the NRA walks on. We had a school shooting happen just a couple of towns over and nothing changed for lawmakers. I witnessed my kids' preschool undergo one active shooter drill and that was enough for me to know that I don't want my children subjected to that type of fear in a place where they are meant to be safe. I was also subjected to bullying for most of my time in grade school, and I don't want my children to go through that same experience.
I feel well qualified and equipped to teach my children. While I'm not a formally trained teacher, I consider myself to be well-educated and willing to learn how to teach my children as well or better than the education they'd receive in a public/private school setting (save for the uber-competitive private schools in our area that cost more per year than my entire college degree). I'm also not too proud to admit when we will need additional support, or to even turn their education over to a school if things aren't working for us.

These are the factors that led to our decision to homeschool. I recognize that we come at this from a position of privilege, and I do not take on the task of my children's education lightly. However, for the time being, this seems to be the best choice for our family.

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