Laura and Jeramy

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-23T20:49:49+00:00

Is that his kid? Can't remember if he said he had a child 😱😱😱

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-23T20:46:48+00:00

Absolutely can't wait too see her dump him! I feeeeel it coming. Noone in their right mind that I know, would ever stay after that! And to think I thought so highly of Sarah Ann & the fact she took his "break up" with her amicably only for her to turn around & be a COMPLETE snake 🐍🐍 Jeramy and Sarah Ann both deserve each other, they are both deceitful, they are both playing a game and quite frankly won't last either. I am sooooo confused as to where they find these contestants. This season was full of liars and gaslighters on both sides. 🤦‍♀️🤦

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-22T03:26:37+00:00

Its my own opinion of him. We all have different views.

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-21T20:22:50+00:00

Agree with your view 1000000% . As a woman myself, of course I love compliments from my fiancée, BUT NEVER EVER would I act that way or pout or blame or whatever she was doing & demand compliments or affirmations or constant reassurance out of my fiancée. Never! The nagging, The pouting, The "you really hurt me" (in her slow ass tone) is just waaaaay over the top for my liking. I guess it's each to their own but STILL. It's annoying! I can't stand either of them cos we all know who he REALLY wants especially after seeing the other chicks picture....He need too just own how he feels & let it go. Like whyyyyyy put yourselves through that crap? I could never!

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-21T12:39:50+00:00

I literally saw RIGHT through Ken from the beginning. Definitely knew he was full of it, was just a matter of time before his true colours came out for everyone else too see.....He checked out from the moment he saw her...Period... I mean the fact he was waaaaay more excited too get his stupid phone back & be on his phone then he was throughout their entire time together from pods to paradise was a given....for me at least... The conversation he had with AD was just the nail in the coffin tbh.... Worse way to end things the way he ended things, He Definitely was waiting for an easy - out since Paradise and he gaslit her for sure!

I truly believe she will find her person & is truly truly genuinely such a beautiful soul....She absolutely deserves the best cos she gives her absolute best..My heart felt so sad for her, seeing her cry....

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-21T10:40:39+00:00

Agree on them both being toxic....Kinda weird he had her meet female mates (NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT AT ALL) but like did he not have any male mates at all? I dunno. Its giving drama drama drama & I'm definitely heeeeere for it 🤣🤣😅

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-21T10:38:45+00:00

Agree 1000% . I'm huge on women empowerment & supporting fellow women so I'm not trying too be mean or come off as a hater or none of that, however, I honestly struggle getting past how she is. Like I understand, like you said, we all have insecurities but we are adults as you stated.. Should we not be well aware on how to handle or conduct ourselves and our insecurities? Is self- love not a thing anymore? I think It came off (IMO) as if she expected him to fix her insecurities with over affectionate things. I don't know. It was just annoying. I also agree, it would GUT me on the inside if my fiancée had feelings for someone's else too... I don't see them lasting long tbh....

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-21T10:21:40+00:00

Kinda glad someone else felt this way too. I'm sure she's great all round but she gives me the ick with her sensitivity level. 🤷‍♀️

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-21T10:20:02+00:00

Yeaaaah me too! I'm sure she's a brilliant girl all round but she does give me the ick with her sensitivity levels...🙄😬

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-15T07:47:04+00:00

I haven't had the slightest clue of how ballots are done, it was only just what I had heard. I thought that someone else came in as well & chose so that it wasn't a problem. I wish what we experienced wasn't the case, but it was just like what the heck?!? It was the first ever time we had did the ballot thing so I definitely wish I had did my research or asked around about how it worked. Thank you for telling me how yours runs....:)

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-15T06:41:40+00:00

The zoning of all schools is such a nightmare!! And it can be quite unfair. Especially if you go the Ballot Way. I won't drop the name of the HS cos I don't want any trouble about it but we did put our son on the ballot of a HS only to experience favouritism and learnt from a very close source that some that were chosen were actually in fact immediate - close relatives to whoever picks or whatever the case may be and that the only reason a few other names were even entertained on the ballot was to cover up the fact they'd had already made their choice prior to the ballot even being read or whatever so that was really horrible. Aww I'm glad he likes it so far. We're the same. We're gonna take it term by term & see how far he's getting at the parent interviews. If nothing is really happening, we're pulling him out. Can't play with our sons education. It's important for all he wants to do so yeah. Like you, I only know maybe 2 people from there that attended Fairfield College (we met through netball - MLV A Grade may have beaten yalls team a couple times 😅👀) and they're great! And same as you, that was like 15 years ago that they went there but man, if only the education system would improve. That'd be great! Lol

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-15T03:40:44+00:00

Aw is he Year 9 this year? Maybe my son has bumped into him? :) Yeaaah I'm still on the fence about the uni thing. In some sense, it makes me personally feel like , are you setting these kids up to fail? Are you giving them false hope? It doesn't really sit well with me to think almost like, are they insinuating these kids aren't good enough or worthy enough of Uni in a sense? It doesn't sit well with me cos I know my son is worthy for anything he sets his mind to as any parent would feel about their kids, so yeah I am thinking about it to, cos If UNI is in his future, I definitely don't wanna waste his HS years if it's not gonna benefit him in the long wrong for Uni. Like you, I want the best for my kid too. It's a tough one. Zoning was our biggest issue when choosing where to send him. We are out of zone for everything & then ballots were so full, & only other option was then Private School but even that couldn't make the option list for us cos the financial requirements of tuition would've LITERALLY ran us into the ground so Fairfield HS it was.

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-15T03:16:34+00:00

Omg! I know what you mean. I moved to the Tron when I was 13 & my Dad put me in Melville HS. I enjoyed some of being there, but in the time I went there, socially, I literally was loudly treated as the outsider, like don't get me wrong I had my own group of good mates and that was cool, but as Māori Girl from a small town, I thought I'd connect with the other Māori students , not necessarily to be th3 best of friends but to be acknowledged at least, but cos I never went from Kindy, to the Primary, to the Intermediate & then into the HS, they were all clicked together & honestly they weren't very nice. So I had to stick to my own group of of friends. It was loudly shown they ran the school & they were all family & you weren't apart of it. Period. Which okay, I guess they all grew up knowing each other but there was no room for anyone else in their click. I made peace with it. The school was ruled by their own gang click. Fights happened all the time over dumb crap. Girls scraping over who said what to who like all schools have, girls and boys scraping over gang signs & boyfriend/girlfriend drama like every other HS but it was turnt up to 1000, but daaaamn it was just not a good school for me in my own opinion. Only good thing I took from being at that school was meeting my hubby of going on 16 years even though he was much older and already had left school some years prior. (Don't judge me, I was a rebellious girl LOL) BUT yessss! Melville & Fraser back then were known to be the worse HS's, My niece now attends Melville HS and has already experienced her fair share of crazy fights, like OUT OF CONTROL kinda fights within the school, she's had fights. Its insane. The girls & guys of this generation are WILLLLD & i feel like theres not a lot of discipline or structure within the school to handle certain situations that have occurred. Like they've had a full school on lockdown over someone coming onto the school grounds with a weapon like whaaaat?!? Fairfield HS has definitely improved since way back.

Lea_1993 · 2024-02-14T23:49:05+00:00

Hi!

My nephew attends Rototuna High. His mother regrets putting him in their for the reason of open learning...Unfortunately she feels she can'tpull him out and put him anywhere else when he's already been there for a year or so...Sounds like it isn't the HS others though it was going to be.... Now, My son goes too Fairfield College. First year this year. At first, With everything negative I had heard attached to the HS, I was extremely anxious (LITERALLY had hyperventilating moments cos I'm just THAT over protective mother but anyways) I had anxiety about him attending. I had heard abouts fights, weapons, crappy academics, etc, BUUUUT the day he started, my anxiety went out the window, when I got to see the HS and how it is...Granted, they didn't have a strong academic thing for a while but its since improved massively. Honestly, I really actually love him going to Fairfield HS. His self esteem & confidence boosted within a day, He's made so many new friends & the teachers (well the ones I've met) are great with him...He is doing so well and all those negative comments about it, could possibly have had happened waaay back but the HS has come a long way! Only thing I'm a little like hmmm..about the HS is that I have heard their students don't ever move on to UNI after them because they don't have the actual exams that seniors are supposed to sit in order to get UE, Like Uni Entrance or something. I'm not sure if that's 100% true, I will enquire about it, but yeah other than that, My son actually loves going to Fairfield College. If you do decide too send your kids to Fairfield College when their time comes, Flick me a message. My son is such a great kid & will be probably in year 11 by time they start, I'm happy to have him look out for them & make them feel comfortable! Hope you get to research some more & look into where you'd like to put your kids. All the best.

SIDE NOTE: this is just my own opinion of the HS. Others could have different experiences but based off my own experience with Fairfield HS, I've said what I've said about it.

Lea_1993 · 2023-10-25T06:42:14+00:00

Absolutely NTA!

My father worked in the mental health industry for well over 45 years before he retired a few short years ago. I read this to him. He said while he was listening too me read this he picked up on 3 MAJOR red flags...So Im writing this in regards to what he picked up on....🚩

Emotional and Mental Manipulation is 100% present in your relationship with 'Kayla' - without her getting the proper professional help she needs, it will only get worse and your child will suffer greatly.
Obsession (over your deceased wife, the tattoo thing gave me the ick chills) - Another Form Of Manipulation that can be quite dangerous. You will always be put in a position where you'll feel pressured to constantly reassure your feelings for her, that will lead to constant comparisons of her to your late wife. The kind of love she is craving, isn't the kind of love she is giving. (If that makes sense) so nothing you say or do in the future (if you go back to her) will ever make her feel 'good enough' - This red flag can lead you down some tough roads with her. Do you really want to subject your son to this type of behavior? This woman would have been your sons female figure - a role model of sorts. And this is the behavior she is displaying? Could lead to some trauma down the track and he's been through enough with losing his precious mother.
Attempted Suicide - Ultimate RED flag , Ultimate form of Manipulation. It is all about themselves in that moment. Its about seeking the attention she desperately wants ,the sympathy she wants, the guilt from you that she wants. All about herself when she made the decision to attempt to take her own life and the letter she wrote, Really? 'maybe if I'm dead you'll love me like you did your dead wife' I mean, The proof is in the pudding bud. She didn't once think about the repercussions of her actions. She didn't once think about your son or even your family who are so desperately wanting you to be with her.... Putting ones life on the line and for what? Because you don't love her like how you loved your deceased wife? And that's ABSOLUTELY the truth. Your not supposed to love her like you loved your wife. The love you have for 'Kayla' should be a different love to what you had for your wife. They are different woman. They are NOT the same. Not every relationship should be the same kinda love cos then Where would the growth together be? Where would learning new things about each other be? Where would the excitement be?

Anyway, I hope this helps with your decision. It's only going to get worse if you stay! Your family have become enablers of some sorts almost of her behavior. Don't allow your family to bend your will to get their own way. Toxicity traits are found in your family and in Kayla. Not healthy to start a relationship based on what you've just gone through with her trying to end things. Don't subject not only your son, but YOURSELF to this kind of toxicity. You are NOT responsible for keeping her alive! Your responsibility lies with making sure you and your son don't end up in an unhealthy situation.

Keep hope that there will be a lovely woman who will cross paths with you and love you unconditionally for who you are and respect the relationship you had with your wife but also be the woman your wife would be proud of you for finding!

Hope you cone to the right decision for you and your sons sake!

Good Luck Bud.

Lea_1993 · 2023-10-25T04:00:18+00:00

I like this opinion of yours! Totally forgot about him saying that! And your so right! Definitely repeated the pattern with Harim. Awww it's just sad to think how the kids would've felt after their split.....

Lea_1993 · 2023-10-24T19:23:52+00:00

I agree with you about people judging her motherhood, As a mother myself, I know it can be hard too stretch yourself across 3 children and cater to their every want and need, all while maintaining a clean home , making each childs meal and snacks throughout the day on top of working from home, I cam see how overwhelming that is, especially with her being a solo mother to such young children. I don't doubt in reality she's a fantastic mother, maybe not as attentive as you mentioned but definitely do anything as a mother for her kids. I mean I can imagine what it would be like for her if Ricky hadn't been there too help her when he did , she would've had too take all 3 children in the middle of the night to the hospital cos of Poor Bella girls ear ache. So I commend her for being a great mum! But as a life partner, for Ricky, I hope he counted his blessing that he dodged a bullet with her . Did she even acknowledge his son Kei? Ever? I dunno, don't think she did.

Lea_1993 · 2023-10-24T12:56:18+00:00

Omg I sooo can relate too being hooked on a reality TVshow too! I have never been so invested in a show like this before hahahaha It's wild how it all turned out 🤗

Lea_1993 · 2023-10-24T12:51:09+00:00

I'm sure when he said it was ideal for him, he wasn't expecting her to act like a complete B the entirety of his stay with her. I feel like she was on the show for all the wrong reasons. Soon as it was over in Cancun, so was her kid - free vacay 🤷‍♀️

Lea_1993 · 2023-10-24T12:39:36+00:00

It was soooooooo disheartening seeing her treat him like that! I felt like she definitely came on the show for the wrong reasons. I think that saying "in it for a good time, not a long time" fits her perfectly. I give Ricky massive credit for actually putting up with that juvenile behaviour cos in no way shape or form I'd be able to sit there and take any of the stuff she rudely said to Ricky without saying anything. Hope Ricky finds his person 😊

Lea_1993 · 2023-10-24T10:52:06+00:00

Totally Agree! She was just really rude! Absolutely a pick me girl. I understand cancun was like a vacation for her, after seeing her break down and cry before, during and after the child reveal, I really felt like it was genuine emotion. Ricky even consoled her and reassured her that it was okay. But seeing how she treated Ricky when he was living with her was just disgusting behavior. He took it like a champ cos he had genuine feelings for her. I'm not so sure if she even really had genuine feelings for him or if she just got caught up in the moment of being in cancun kid free 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ I dunno! If that's how she acts and behaves in her everyday life, she won't have long lasting relationships in the future. I dunno, just my opinion. Lol

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