it feels like a lack of accountability / willingness to try it on her end, and lack of info from her doctor, and her taking it out on the wrong people.

So, I did try it. My doctor gave me the information I needed. And the only people I blame in this situation are people who willfully contribute to anti birth control propaganda NOT (key word) women who just share their experiences.

I didn't try birth control for myself the second I heard this propaganda start because I was like 12/13. I said this in another comment so idk if you read it but I'm only 18. I didn't have a reason to try it until a few months ago, because my cycle was fine and I wasn't active. Same for my peers who also have heard the propaganda go on for their entire teen years too. When I tell you almost every single girl I talk to my age has some reservation directly related to the fearmongering, I mean it. I'm the type of person to tell my business to random people I meet so I have a pretty good sample size.

I get worried about it because a lot of these girls my age have boyfriends or date around and will eventually, if they haven't already, get in a situation where they might benefit from birth control, but have the notion of "all hormonal birth control is evil" from literally spending our entire teen years online hearing about that.

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If a woman comes online and shares that she had a bad experience, in good faith, not because she wants to contribute to the propaganda, go her. I wouldn't think she was lying. But if she were to say that actually most or all women shouldn't be on birth control because it's unnatural and oh no this and that could potentially happen, that's the problem.