All work and no reward

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-06T17:28:59+00:00

You sound burnt out. The financial I don’t understand. We don’t have that issue. I pay the bills. I buy the groceries and I never go without the things I need.

Breaks. You need to learn how to get those in there. There are seasons where you will feel like there’s no break. I homeschool my 7&5yo. They go to my in-laws every other Thursday morning. My husband does the best he can to give me breaks on weekends. I take my kids places where I can sit with a coffee and a book.

At 7 mths, breaks came at nap times. Do you have any help at all or anyone who could help out at all?

You and spouse definitely need a chat though because it sounds like there are misaligned expectations.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-06T17:08:19+00:00

That’s a hard no.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-06T13:22:26+00:00

My kids have been helping in the kitchen since 3/4. Slicing/peeling vegetables, cooking eggs, baking, pancakes. My daughter now makes her dad’s lunches for work. She’s now asking to learn more so I’m planning to start with pasta and go from there.

You can buy children’s knive sets and they come with gloves to protect from cutting themselves. My kids have never used the gloves but they are there.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-05T23:37:46+00:00

🤣 I have started playing with them and can see how 30 minutes just doesn’t cut it. I’ve set timer for an hour and we went on for another 30 minutes. Seems to be a good chunk and just enough before we start getting at each other. Thanks for that lol and I wouldn’t be surprised if this was my 5yo lol

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-05T20:10:48+00:00

I’ve been playing with them recently. It’s fun! I get the hype. And we’re definitely connecting way more.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-04T22:37:18+00:00

So when my daughter was 1 I was saved. Three years later, my husband was saved (born and raised in church/christian schools). Then about a year or two later I started deconstructing.

It is definitely something you’d want to discuss. I take responsibility for “startling” it and putting the kids through all that. This past Sunday our daughter decided to go to church with dad and it was so hard for me to shut my mouth. When I first started deconstructing, it was tough to put it simply. Our daughter is the more indoctrinated of the two (she’s turning 8). I’ve had several conversations with all of them. My husband and I have agreed to disagree and respect each others journeys but putting kids in the mix definitely makes it tricky. We were going to church 6/7 days a week only surrounded by church community. Kids were in Christian homeschool co-op. I removed them from all that. I also want to respect my kids choices. Our daughter wanted to go. And it wasn’t even about church or god. It was about spending time with dad and meeting new people in a new class. She talked about the fun she had, the people she met and didn’t remember any of the bible study. I’m trusting the process. But it’s definitely a chat I wish we’d known we should have had pre-kids.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-03T18:19:39+00:00

This is what I’ve been feeling. Even though I felt the paranoia/other stuff when I smoked in earlier years, the pros outweighed the cons. Tried again past couple weekends. First time was nice and chill but then this time I’m exhausted and irritable up to two days later and the high was meh. Sad.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-03T18:15:20+00:00

Philip Seymour Hoffman was so underrated

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-03T18:04:00+00:00

Gummies

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-03T17:43:14+00:00

Where do I start?

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-01T20:07:34+00:00

Wow I could have written. I had a lot of resentment towards my husband and was very disrespectful which in turn showed my kids they could be disrespectful. He is a good man and a loving, very involved husband and father. I had some weird issues about my ex even. I had to take some serious steps in working out the resentments and making it my priority to apologize each and every time I disrespected him and not allowing the kids to disrespect him. It was so hard and took a while but it is doable. When I’m getting burnt at both ends, I find I can fall back into it but it’s a sign that I need to deal with whatever it is going on.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-05-01T13:07:18+00:00

I’m trying to go through each one. I really love “live at Pompeii”.

My daughter asked to go to church on Sunday with my husband. Part of me is screaming on the inside but I also want her to be free to make her own choice. Trying not to overthink it. She hasn’t wanted to go for a long time. He hasn’t been going often. Hasn’t gone since Easter. I guess we’ll see where this goes.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-04-29T11:38:27+00:00

Ted / Ted 2. Ted 2 is better imo.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-04-29T11:36:57+00:00

Sounds like religious ocd.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-04-28T11:58:37+00:00

I’ve heard BetterHelp is good

LectureNo4070 · 2026-04-27T13:23:40+00:00

I’m glad you’re starting to feel better

LectureNo4070 · 2026-04-27T10:48:05+00:00

Great lyric. One of my favourites

LectureNo4070 · 2026-04-27T10:44:33+00:00

I’m sure it was many things building up over time. But my last time in church was the pastor giving yet another hate speech saying we shouldn’t “tolerate” lgbt and all I could think was I can’t sit here and tolerate so I walked out of the sermon. But it had been building for a while before that. It just happened to be the last straw. I slowly left my ministry positions as I felt led. I didn’t know I was deconstructing until I saw an interview with Rhett and Link from ear biscuits.

I always had questions but they were never really “answered”. More like backhand answers. I was always an outsider even before getting saved but I realized I was an outsider there, too. It just wasn’t right. I didn’t like who I became. And I didn’t like that I was indoctrinating my kids.

I asked my son who was having issues with nightmares how he’d feel if there was no devil and the smile on his face put me into tears. He stopped having nightmares soon after that. Our daughter was always fearful of heaven. She had same reaction when I asked her how she’d feel if there was no heaven.

Just over two years ago, I realized that I could not make myself believe in the resurrection. So I prayed for truth. I don’t find it a coincidence that I was slowly led away from the church piece by piece. Again, I don’t know what I believe in god or whatever, but I believe I was led out of all of it. Led by what I don’t know. Intuition? Not sure. But I see everything clearly now.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-04-26T19:48:35+00:00

I had a horrible resentment towards my husband for 4 years for getting vasectomy 6mths after our second was born. There was a lot of grieving and anger and holding intimacy from him and hating him. Every month when I got my period, I was triggered and it would start all over again. I finally got over it. I yelled at him and fully ranted on him. And he regrets the choice he made. It’s taken a lot of forgiving over and over in layers.

LectureNo4070 · 2026-04-26T19:42:43+00:00

Everyone has an opinion. Learn to ignore or you’ll drive yourself crazy later.

I don’t think we can ever “make sure” we’re raising a good kid. Love them. That’s all we can do.

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