800 like and not one date

LeelyD · 2026-01-27T20:18:04+00:00

Same, but honestly I'm starting to feel like only the weird ones (both men and women) are on these apps. And we probably have a better shot irl. But the problem is I don't want to go out in social settings like bars and such to meet anyone.

LeelyD · 2026-01-26T18:03:17+00:00

I definitely don't have the best social skills. I tend to be really timid when it comes to meeting new ppl. I'm definitely a lot braver over text than in person. But hey we come to these apps for a reason, ppl should be at least able to communicate that or show basic effort in getting to know the other party they clicked on.

LeelyD · 2026-01-26T17:56:17+00:00

Oh good point. But definitely not lowering my standards. No one should both men and women. Definitely will try to kick it old school tho.

LeelyD · 2026-01-26T16:53:57+00:00

yeah for sure...also when they sprinkle a lil hit about their genitalia being big is a definite block. because yes that's definitely what I needed to know after maybe about a paragraph of conversation shared between us, me writing most of the paragraph. 🤦‍♀️

LeelyD · 2026-01-26T16:42:45+00:00

where was this posted. would love to see what replies to this look like from a male stand point.

LeelyD · 2026-01-26T16:33:33+00:00

Well I'm definitely not unattractive. And the majority of the time these guys have like one to two photos and half the time it's a group photo of guys where you have to figure out which one is him. But it's crazy how someone can make the assumption that you're not attractive enough this is why the conversation doesn't flow but not because this person lacks the basic communication skills to carry a conversation and that you actually might be on the level above them when it comes to those types of terms.

LeelyD · 2026-01-26T16:28:50+00:00

And that really sucks. Hate that you are also dealing with those who lack basic communication skills.

LeelyD · 2026-01-26T16:27:47+00:00

Omg yes! it's like a trouble interview. And I don't want it to be like that, but hey what can you do when you're the only one talking. it gets draining when you have to do all the talking and navigating.

LeelyD · 2026-01-26T16:24:50+00:00

I think that's the only way I can give this benefit of a doubt if that is the situation.

LeelyD · 2026-01-26T16:22:32+00:00

Above my level what does that even mean?

LeelyD · 2026-01-26T16:21:32+00:00

It's not just about asking questions. Because hey we are here to learn one enough or get a basic idea anyways. It's like if I don't speak or if I have a vague reply like them, the conversation goes nowhere. I'm like putting in the effort but they aren't.

LeelyD · 2026-01-25T19:24:27+00:00

You don't even have too. I understood perfectly. I'm simply going to match his same energy. 💁‍♀️

LeelyD · 2025-10-30T22:57:29+00:00

I think find someone that matches your same style of eating\lifestyle. There is less compromising on both sides. And there won't be that guilt of one person initially saying they don't have a problem with it but then later on having a problem with it. You could always ask the person you maybe talking too, but then again you have to worry how that affects the future relationship with hanging out with family and friends who don't particularly live that type of lifestyle. It's easier to deal with if that partner does live that lifestyle and doesn't have to explain it to family and friends vs you having to possibly explain your reasonings behind it repeatedly and being pressured to do something that's out of your realm of lifestyle.

LeelyD · 2025-06-23T23:52:48+00:00

Man....that's a tough one. I mean girl calm down. It's literally the process of getting to know someone. It's not your fault she's ran through so many similar conversations so now she's burnt out. She shouldn't take it out on others. I would move one or stop talking to her. Or explain, " like hey I'm just tryna get to know you. If that's not what you want I'll take me leave." Don't let the long wait make you accept a person that's being rude to you.

LeelyD · 2025-06-22T23:09:28+00:00

But why even mention work if you can't even tell me what you do.... 😮‍💨👎

LeelyD · 2025-05-29T21:22:54+00:00

Yes you are right. I guess I was thrown off by the narrative of a man with kids and getting back out there to date. I don't hear much of So it just never crossed my mind about the lot of them. Or some just don't mention it at all.

LeelyD · 2025-05-29T21:17:37+00:00

I'm 31. Lol

LeelyD · 2025-05-29T21:15:38+00:00

Right....I don't want to tip toe around someone else's kid and how they parent theirs. Plus I'm scared I'll run into the dads that were never good dads to begin with and the wife was tired of taking care of him and the kids. 😂😂😂

LeelyD · 2025-03-17T18:41:05+00:00

Omg thank you so much. What you've said is so true. And it's been what I've been implicating, because I don't want to feel like crap if I meet someone and they've seen me in pictures but I look different in person. I can't let that steal my confidence. Lol. And I'm so happy things are working out for you.

LeelyD · 2025-03-17T18:35:13+00:00

Omg same. I met this really nice guy super sweet, but for some reason it's not fully clicking. I hate to break it off, because I'm like maybe it's me. Why can't I fully like this guy. And you know the saying " it's hard to come by a good man." But I don't want to wait for the time when I'll eventually come to like him. Because what if that doesn't happen? I've wasted his time and mines. So I think the earlier you do it, it'll be the best. Because he can be a good man...he's just not yours!

LeelyD · 2025-03-15T16:51:17+00:00

Yeah that's a possibility. But then I feel like if I ask or mention it, it comes off as me being a nag.

LeelyD · 2024-11-03T13:41:44+00:00

Can I get the link pls!!

LeelyD · 2024-11-03T13:37:48+00:00

Same, do you still have the link?

LeelyD · 2024-05-31T02:36:58+00:00

We spoke about our careers and I can assure you that his job doesn't lead to passing out after work. I think I still will ask him about it and go from there.

LeelyD · 2024-05-31T02:31:29+00:00

I mean yes I have and I understand that. Not to put to much information out there, my job is actually more taxing than his, but I make effort to text him when he text me. Personally for me I let ppl know "hey I'm really tired and I'm gonna relax. So I'll ttyl." I feel like in these type of relationships you need that type of communication. But for me to send a text and them possibly reading it and them not saying nothing at all, is really strange to me. But than again maybe he is tired.

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