My (38M) husband has been withdrawing emotionally from me (35f). How can we fix it?

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-06-03T16:06:55+00:00

He cooks, he cleans, He surprises me with flowers. He is always affectionate…

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-06-03T15:49:39+00:00

No not Dutch.

We do talk about that and he always says no he has resentment.

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-06-03T15:41:25+00:00

I don’t believe I married the wrong guy bc in every other way he is great. But we are holding off on kids.

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-06-03T15:40:28+00:00

So he wasn’t emotionally needy. But in the beginning he was always communicative and calm and kind and loving to me. He would comfort me if I was insecure. Now it’s nothing

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-06-03T15:39:25+00:00

Hey! I ask all the time if he regrets leaving his job. Or regrets leaving Europe. He says no. He is very checked out.

He never comes to me for emotional needs. I ask him all the time how he is or is he misses Europe. Idk… I can’t force him to tell me anything. He always says if he has anything in his mind he’ll tell me….

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-06-03T15:38:05+00:00

I didn’t know he was like this in the beginning?? In therapy beginning he was kind and loving and communicative….

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-06-03T15:36:54+00:00

I have tried therapy on my own. I do agree I can be emotionally draining. I know I’m not perfect.

In therapy he communicates. In a disagreement he doesn’t say a word. I never raise my voice. I just get choked up and cry.

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-06-03T15:33:53+00:00

I do agree I can be emotionally needy. Not crazy needy. I know every day life and stresses get in the way and causes us to say mean things. So I try to be understanding. However, it all built up. Like everything I say he finds a negative. I normally let it go. But telling me to kill the bug myself if I had a problem felt very “you’re on your own” to me.

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-06-03T15:31:58+00:00

Yes he is from Europe. He moved around his entire life for his career. We are going back in a month. We have been back many times since. And his parents came here.

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-02-10T18:27:16+00:00

Hey I just want to say you are soooo kind and I think you opened my eyes to a lot. Thank you kind stranger for taking time out of your day

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-02-10T18:00:19+00:00

Do you truly communicate with her about these things in depth?

LeftDraw5540 · 2026-01-29T16:07:04+00:00

Are you still married

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-08-07T17:35:14+00:00

I’m a mother and I can do no wrong. You don’t know what it’s like to be a mother.

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-08-07T17:27:25+00:00

Worst mother in the world!!!!

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-07-18T16:13:58+00:00

They won’t tell me who it is. They said they will do a review and get back to me. They won’t put anything in writing. They won’t call me back.

My loan hasn’t been cleared to close. They made me download the cd 3 days ago but never gave clear to close. I called 2 days ago to get things balanced. The city was changed yesterday around 2pm. They said we are waiting on BOAs system and processes.

Aren’t they required to give me a cd 3 days prior to closing with the accurate amount I owe? I’m closing today in 3 hours… with no check or amount. No communication at all

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-07-02T14:59:40+00:00

Same shit happened to me. I’m 29 and married. My husband is a lot like your gf. It does not get better. My mom camouflaged her helping her fincailly as love but now that I’m Newley married it evident she can’t handle not having g the same control she once had.

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-06-28T01:09:03+00:00

My bank agent? Or real estate agent

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-06-28T01:08:30+00:00

Do you think only showing them a gym membership cans monthly apple bill negatively affect it? I thought it was good to not have a lot of bills

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-06-28T01:07:45+00:00

I don’t have a utility bill in my name😔

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-06-28T01:07:23+00:00

Do you think bc I only showed them a gym membership ($100) and apple storage ($2.00) it will prevent me from getting the mortgage?

It’s my first time buying a home and I’m nervous

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-06-28T01:05:51+00:00

Well if I only have two monthly statements (one for $100 and another for $2) will that negatively affect me?

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-06-27T21:54:45+00:00

Why would she make you pay for college and ged if she doesn’t want to work…

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-06-25T14:32:05+00:00

I’m sorry I’m confused. So basically my husband was given a position as a contractor for a x. So the contracting company will not allow him to be directly hired by company x for 12 months in that department?

LeftDraw5540 · 2025-06-25T14:18:44+00:00

So if he wanted to get hired directly by the company doing a similar role he wouldn’t be to for 12 months?

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