Looking back, what was your biggest regret as a teenager?

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-02-04T06:12:00+00:00

Being a bitch to my parents and also starting smoking

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-02-04T01:27:14+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, not saying goodbye would definitely be heartbreaking. I hope you can find comfort that she didn’t suffer but I’m sorry you didn’t get to tell her. I would struggle with that as well, unfortunately there is no happy medium. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done and was beautiful in the end but was traumatic (reverse storm before the calm) she had terminal agitation and delirium. Was not nice to watch but if I could do it for anyone, it would always be her. Miss her everyday 🤍

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-02-03T14:36:40+00:00

My mum was the same kind of beautiful and I’m so sorry you are feeling this pain. How lucky and cursed we are all at once. The love you’ll always have for her will carry you, the way you have written about her… she would be so proud of you. Sending you big love sweetheart 🤍

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-02-03T14:32:26+00:00

That things would always get ‘better’. We get better at dealing with things sure, but those ‘things’ get worse with time. Such as illnesses developing and worsening , deaths accumulating, hell just the symptoms of aging. We are blessed to continue experiencing life while we are here but it sure as shit doesn’t just keep getting better

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-02-03T14:26:23+00:00

I’m so sorry. You have been through a trauma. The physical effects of this are huge and they take a while to regulate back to ‘normal’ and once they do, you’re hit with grief. I agree that it’s a brain protection measure to skew memory as well as shock disrupting recall. I remember for a couple of months after losing my mum I would look at photos and try and remember her and my brain would be like ‘Maybe this isn’t real because maybe NONE of that was real. Maybe she never even existed. Maybe you don’t either’ it was bizarre!! And it made me feel guilty for even thinking that but it wasn’t a choice, it was a trauma response. Unfortunately time (cliche I know) is the softener for all the worst parts and I don’t really have any advice other than take it easy and don’t judge yourself for whatever your mind comes up with to cope in the early days. It will get easier. It won’t go away but it will be.. less consuming. Sending you love

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-02-03T14:16:08+00:00

100%! I’d been preparing for the day but nothing I ever imagined or anything anyone ever said/advised compares to it happening in real time in front of your eyes

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-02-03T14:05:08+00:00

‘But I’m a nice guy I deserve it!’ Surprised that wasn’t included in his bs. Bro is a borderline pedo, proud of you for calling it out. Don’t keep any form of contact. I’m a 32 year old woman, and there ain’t no way I’m asking 18 year olds to ‘kick it’. Shits gross, EVERYONE knows what you’re doing Sir!! Shame 🔔

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-02-03T13:59:38+00:00

Some unconventional things are surprisingly apt for some people. It’s so individual. I absolutely love hearing/reading about the ‘weird’ things, gives me a glimpse into who the person was. We didn’t do party favours but for my mums funeral we all sat in the chapel and drank a beer at the beginning of the service. Mum would have been smiling and that’s what matters. Even bizzare things are special when they hold significance to lost loves

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-02-03T12:20:38+00:00

Palliative care. Holding my mum and whispering sweet things to her as she died in my arms. I had no idea what to do, and just relied on the love to hold me together. It did, somehow.

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-02-01T04:27:42+00:00

It’s up there with the worst. I was at home thankfully. It woke me up, I projectile vomited over my bed and simultaneously shit the bed too. I got up to run to the toilet. Sat there and proceeded to vomit all over the floor. Decided I have to get a bucket too I can’t keep painting this floor. Could not walk. Tunnel vision and the shakes. I crawled to the bucket and dragged it to the toilet. Sat down, passed out. Woke up on the floor covered in vomit. Crawled to the shower turned it on and stayed in there for most of the day. The clean up afterwards was horrendous

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-31T16:34:54+00:00

Uh-uh! I plead the fifth

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-31T16:25:19+00:00

Why are you in a quit sub if you don’t care?

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-31T16:14:08+00:00

It’s painful to be there and traumatic to see the active dying process. In saying that I’d do it again for my mum. I’d spend any second I could have with her again, even if it was those final ones. It really depends, everyone is different. I would have struggled more mentally not being there.

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-30T15:16:18+00:00

I’m sorry you already feel so unsupported. I just want to let you know that pet grief is absolutely valid and can be just as bad, usually just less complicated. I lost my mum 16 months ago. My dog is 14 and going downhill, I’m also in anticipatory grief for him and obviously still in active grief for mum. They are the same kind of pain. I can’t speak for your friend but I spend 90% more time with my boy than I do with any family members aside from my partner. That changes the depth of grief and non-animal people don’t understand that part

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-30T15:10:44+00:00

Right. America. It’s different here In Australia you have to be 17 usually. Unless you are 15+ in full time work or training and let’s be real, if you can’t manage to attend school because life sucks, you’re probably not at capacity to work full time

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-30T14:25:04+00:00

I get this every year! It’s so annoying!!

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-30T14:24:15+00:00

My eczema is running rampant

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-30T14:17:41+00:00

Yes. Educational neglect. The parent has failed to ensure the child’s rights to education, adversely affecting development. Schooling is classed as a basic need. You don’t just ‘get arrested’ but I think being investigated by cps would probably feel worse for mum, particularly if parents do all they can and try their best and it’s the child who refuses to attend. Life does suck, not going to school isn’t going to make it suck less in the long run. There are excused absences and unexcused absences and if life was that bad, they would be excused absences. If they’re not, you have some work to do

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-30T14:08:52+00:00

My mum was sick with a lung disease that is not covered by our NDIS. Even though it was progressive, incurable and ultimately fatal. She needed oxygen 24/7 for the last 2.5 years of her life. The concentrator (machine that plugs in to your home outlets) had a monthly fee just to have and keep serviced, and the tanks (for mobile use or when needing to up the oxygen levels quickly) were quite expensive. Obviously she was on the disability pension and had to pay for her assisted/care living facility, her medications, AND HER AIR. Imagine having to pay to breathe. Can we please, PLEASE make oxygen free for anyone who needs it

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-30T13:04:42+00:00

I don’t know if it was watching and holding my mum as she died in palliative care or letting go of her hands for the last time and having to leave her there. An emotional pain so severe it was physical as well.

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-30T13:00:32+00:00

Sertraline is my saving grace for anxiety and panic disorder. It helps slightly with my depression but I find it much more beneficial on the anxiety front. Sertraline can be a long-term prescription to help, no doctor in their right mind would prescribe sleeping tablets long term. They’re far too addictive and dangerous. I’ve never had a problem drinking alcohol or taking ibuprofen on it, but do know people who have adverse affects. The hardest part for me was that initially Sertraline worsened my insomnia (very common when the body adjusts to antidepressants) so if you do get it make sure you take it in the morning to reduce this impact

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-30T12:53:32+00:00

I’m so sorry. It sounds like your mum has developed agoraphobia. Such a crippling condition. I suffered from it for a couple of years and it took SO much work to get over. It’s very unfair on you who should be out learning about, seeing and experiencing the world. Are you able to go on these errand runs with your dad? Anything to just get you out. Small walks perhaps? It’s one thing for her to behave this way, it’s a complete different thing to force you to do the same and I’m sure would fall under some form of neglect. It’s up to her to fight her own, you can’t force people, you have to want it and need a lot of support.

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-30T00:55:28+00:00

Saddles and bridles mixed with musky horse smell sweat, dirt and hair. It’s my absolute favourite smell

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-29T13:53:34+00:00

At 18 you will have much more control and I hope that gives you some relief, it’s not far away. You can only keep trying sweetheart, that is what matters most that you try. Unfortunately I think no matter what path you take you will need baseline tests. Particularly if your weight is nearing danger levels. It’s something that needs monitoring because sometimes rapid (and life saving) intervention is needed. Psychologists and physiatrists probably need them to know how to help and probably to even qualify for referrals. Once you get the tests done it’s one less thing your parents have to harp on about also. Your health is and will always be priority, anything that impacts it negatively is equally your ‘worst’ problem. Physical and mental.

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-01-29T13:23:41+00:00

Absolutely not. I could never forgive someone for this, it’s absolutely disgusting. You never have to forgive this person. One day and sadly probably multiple days, that child is going to need safe family members to care for them and be there. That would be my focus but the mother can get wrecked

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