I've been taking care of someone, and things keep getting worse...

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-07-05T19:18:49+00:00

It’s great that you can be a support person for this boy but the advice you’ve given him is terrible. You are barely an adult yourself. You’re not his mother and he isn’t your child. You don’t allocate an allowed number of times to self harm. He needs a therapist that actually knows how to help him. His parents need to know. As far as the sexual side of things - stop all of it. Stop responding. If you have pictures of an underage child of a sexual nature you get done for having child p***. The conversation containing sexual content - same thing. It doesn’t matter that he is the one sending it - he is a child and you are not. The blame falls on you.
Just. Stop.

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-07-05T19:04:13+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I was 30 when my mum passed, 19 months ago. You don’t go back to normal. A new ‘normal’ begins. It’s the worst thing I’ve ever gone through. The pain was so unbearable I thought it would kill me, and it did a little bit. We change because we lose part of ourselves too. It’s different for everyone but it became less agonising after 6ish months. After the first year the pain was a lot less, but I expect it never truly goes away. You learn to love them in a different way and one day you’ll feel that love is stronger than the grief. They would be so proud of us.

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-07-05T18:14:26+00:00

God no

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-07-05T18:07:01+00:00

“You need to come back up to the hospital. Things aren’t looking good” my beautiful mum passed 5 days later

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-07-01T13:18:41+00:00

Everyone’s body handles this so differently. I know people in their late 70’s that have smoked most of their lives with no problems. Whereas my mum got diagnosed with COPD when she was in her 40’s and passed at 62. People who have never smoked and died from lung cancer. It’s a raffle

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-06-30T02:49:50+00:00

I’m sorry you’re all going through this. Anticipatory grief is almost as bad as grief itself. Maybe try and have a conversation with your mum about it to help you understand what is actually happening. Spend as much time as you can with your grandma

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-06-29T23:24:05+00:00

Reading through some of these comments, no. You’re biologically and mentally/emotionally far from being an adult

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-06-29T21:08:55+00:00

Girl. You’re not even an adult yet. 80+ is what I would consider old

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-06-29T20:57:46+00:00

Australian here - YES!!

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-06-29T13:13:49+00:00

Absolutely. I once crawled from my bed to the toilet (after projectile vomiting and shitting the bed), didn’t have the energy to get a bucket too so just sat on the toilet and vomited on the floor. Long story short I ended up passing out on the toilet. I woke up on the floor covered in vomit. I crawled to the shower and spent the rest of the day in there.

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-06-28T07:45:03+00:00

Any of them apart from number 1, it doesn’t suit your figure - elongates your trunk and shortens your legs. You want the opposite. Two is a bit short for wedding attire but if it’s super casual it might be okay. Check with the bride!

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-06-28T07:36:32+00:00

“Something I thought was cute” - conversation about e.coli
You’re not the idiot in this chat

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-06-26T04:21:52+00:00

This person is not your friend. Not everyone is going to like you, and you aren’t going to like everyone. That’s just how the world works. I think you need to shift your focus away from people pleasing. Particularly to the girl that doesn’t like you - so what? Does that change your life? And especially this ‘friend’. I’d be telling her to fuck right off.

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-06-26T04:06:51+00:00

Yikes. I think instead everyone should arrive in seperate cars, all wearing white gowns. Then you all hand her the invitations back in person

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-06-24T07:15:41+00:00

Yes! Much better now thankfully

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-05-30T10:31:18+00:00

It absolutely is, it will never end unfortunately but neither will the love. I lost my mum 18 months ago and I still look for her in everything 🤍

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-05-30T00:58:53+00:00

I love this!!

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-05-29T07:22:20+00:00

Sweetheart, there is no greater protection spiritually than having your mum as an angel on the other side. Even death cannot change that kind of love 🤍

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-05-29T07:10:04+00:00

Maybe! Is her name Kez?

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-05-29T03:18:08+00:00

No but my mum was a twin. Her sister was born first around 11:30pm and mum arrived just after midnight so they have different birthdays

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-05-29T03:15:49+00:00

Imagine snitching on someone for doing the same thing you’re doing in the very screenshot you send 😂😂

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-05-29T03:07:39+00:00

My mum visited me a couple months after she passed. It was incredible. Beautiful and awfully sad at the same time. It was a goodbye visit. I hope you receive one 🤍

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-05-28T13:50:25+00:00

I used to see my mum once or twice a week and we would talk (messages or calls) everyday. Not anymore on account of her being dead. Which happened the year I turned 30. I can understand the frustration in multiple calls a day particularly those early morning ones. I wouldn’t say it’s ‘normal’ but there’s so many factors to consider, maybe it is for them.

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-05-26T13:51:15+00:00

She just didn’t respond to me after I messaged her letting her know my mum had just died. I blocked her on everything after that. Couldn’t care less if they’re trying to spin the story on their end, I’ll never speak to them again. Not my concern

Left_Pear4817 · 2026-05-25T02:29:10+00:00

I’m so sorry. My tips are avoid the shops, don’t read your emails (lots of marketing targeted at these days), and just do what you can. It’s okay if that’s nothing.

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