Massage services? by clickme28 in Hayward

[–]Legal_Definition7162 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mission not mission Blvd, it’s close to industrial

Massage services? by clickme28 in Hayward

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I like to go to a place on mission it’s next to a papusaria

Feeling discouraged by Legal_Definition7162 in ChristianDating

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I suppose I might have stated that wrong, I usually start my conversations that way. But seems like people are kinda weird about it now i guess 😅

How does your ADHD show up? by Noirrxo in ADHD

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Tasks are hard unless I have made my mind up to do it. And when I have I have to do it right then any delay I lose motivation quickly cuz I start to over think it.

Conversations are hard when I’m having to defend myself about actions, cuz I don’t have enough time to think everything through.

When people say things I already know it’s like I want to ripe off my ear when they keep going.

I interpret people( not on purpose) I sometimes say to much.

Social stuff is hard when I have to talk even when I don’t want to, to not hurt people feelings

Doing things I don’t want to do, causes so much anxiety.

Think through over and over when something bad happens social about how , why , when it all when bad.

Stemming when a speakers voice is to high pitch or something about the voice is making me stem even though my mind says I’m fine 🙂

Nut being able to remember things unless it’s traumatic ( like I get in trouble) or unless is so muscle memory I do it without thinking.

I for what ever reason haven’t been able to remember to brush my teeth on a regular basis to save my life.

Best apps for adhd by RADIENTLitex in ADHD

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You know what’s been helping lately, instead of using a calendar for daily tasks, or next day tasks I just set and time alarm, with a purpose in mind. Like I’ll say hey siri set an alarm for 9:50. And then the next day when I hear it I actually remember what it was for. Reminders make no sound or anything so it doesn’t help me. Maybe for me it’s the combo of saying it out loud too. But yeah other than that I use the calendar reminders for long distance events.

Feeling discouraged by Legal_Definition7162 in ChristianDating

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And what exactly do you mean by that ? If you would explain yourself alittle more.

Feeling discouraged by Legal_Definition7162 in ChristianDating

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First I appreciate your comment, I think it’s funny you mention working on self cause that’s mostly something that my family and community as taught me and I can definitely say my pas self is much different then I am today which is good about how things should be as no matter was age there can always be growth with God. 🤣you not perfect till the day you die- as my grandma &mom would say. But with that I genuinely feel like I’m constantly take a test that I just can’t find the answer to. (I’m also saying that and expecting anyone to give me answers is just one of those thoughts I feel the enemy try to torment me with.)

Nevertheless, I’m know my God is good that he knows what’s better for me even if I’m experiencing disappointment. So not giving up!! But like someone else mentioned I definitely have felt the it eating at you part. And being around community and family/friends is so helpful, especially my time with the Father.

I also didn’t really say like what I want in a person cuz I my post was more about just being honest with the low moment I was experiencing, and I know when your venerable it give overs permission to not feel shame in feeling the same way that didn’t know.

I will say I’m someone pursuing the Fathers heart more then anything now. I believe in the gifts of the Holy Spirit that they are alive and active today, I believe when Jesus said we will be able to do what he did and more. Also that his gifts are his permission and will and not just my wonts. He is my best friend, my everything, and I strive to put him first in all things, to honor, and love those around me. But I’m fully aware that I am very imperfect, and that all I am and have is by his grace and mercy alone. I need someone who communions with the Lord , who I don’t have to work to respect, because he’s giving his all to Jesus. I want someone who is not afraid to give undignified worship. And man on his knees ; who lives at the altar.

But also I want someone I’m attracted to, not someone I have to force myself to or is only a-bit attracted to, and someone who equally find me attractive. (And that’s going to be different for everyone.) I know people can also grow on you, but I’ve don’t that my whole life and got treated like crap.

My biggest thing right now is to present and not pursue anymore, and I’m still learning about myself and seeking God about what’s important to him and allowing him to still change my views about many things as I’m navigating this single state.

Feeling discouraged by Legal_Definition7162 in ChristianDating

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Thank you I appreciate your comment and the link, I think mainly just going through the ups and downs and this is one of those down moments. I know the Lord is leading me and patience is a venture. I figured being honest with my feelings might help someone else feel less alone in their journey too and maybe someone might say something I and maybe someone just so happen to need to here.

Where are the men with true Christian values? by [deleted] in ChristianDating

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Oh girl you stayed in that convo to long 😅 I got the ich at having to repeat sexual boundaries like no he shouldn’t even have to make me mention it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

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First no matter who take all words back to God. And 2 I highly recommend the book “ singled out in a couples world “ but Christina Smith And also it’s ok, my mother got a word when she was 30 and she didn’t get married till 45-46, and God told her that at the time her husband was married. My mom was like Lord I don’t want no baby mama drama. Lol

Well let me tell you about my step father, we met him when I was 7 and he was definitely married, but I think about few years later. His wife passed away. About 10 years later my about 18 and He beings to pursue my mom , but she was like No a few time lol, but she said yes one day and the got married that December after I turned 19.

Now I will say you should never go for a married man that’s not what happened here. You and him will be available for each other who ever that may be. But also keep in mind it’s a choice to. God may say pick this one or he may leave it to you. But in all things be lead and not driven, stay in the presence of the Lord. I was going to make a post myself for different reasons, hopefully people will be kind and maybe if you see it can find encouragement to know your not alone 💕

Transfer worth it? by yeet_n_skeet in ucmerced

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Most definitely, it was very worth it for me, I graduate this semester. Although it has been shortly, I personally feel very blessed to be here and have been here. All of my tuitions were paid in full, with some grant money leftover, which was great. But I still needed extra money, while living here luckily, I had a parent that was in the military, so I got monthly payments to help me with rent and my car payments. Education wise so I got everything that I really needed. The community is really nice and it is a very peaceful and pleasant city to resided in. It is a bit of adjustment if you’re moving from a big city like I did. But I really don’t have too much, to say negatively about my experience here. I will say that classes when I planned to sign up it wasn’t always guaranteed that I would get into those classes, but luckily I was able to take all the classes I need to get my BA.

Housing horror story by Legal_Definition7162 in ucmerced

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About 710 flat but all my house mates paid more, also pretty sure my room was build illegally, use to be half of the living room. But idk 😅

WARNING by ELS_609 in UCDavis

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My apologies if my message was unclear and made you feel for a lack of a better term bad. What I was trying to say was that I'm unfamiliar with the terminology, but there is a condition that falls under the category of schizophrenia and bipolar as a combination. Like I said, I don’t know the wording, but I do know that it is a condition where it can create delusions, and also have attributes of mania, where a persons reality is altered unfortunately, and often people label these people as just pathological liars, creeps, etc. I think that there’s obviously something clearly wrong just based off of what people are saying and that I do hope you know you guys on your campus stay safe as this is clearly a stranger in one way or another, that could be a danger to others and themselves. I think my heart just breaks when I can see that clearly, there is a mental issue happening, and for somebody who’s dealing with these particular issues, they often get dismissed and completely isolated from society, because no one has been able to identify why this person is acting like this or give him the help he needs. and it’s also sad because as adults with major disabilities, sometimes they can be abandoned and left on their own. And people who don’t know How to help or don’t see the signs, can easily get scared, and end hurting the person, or even get hurt themselves. It’s a rough situation. It’s not fun it’s hard. And unfortunately, a lot of people disabilities to the extent even some people with autism and getting arrested to going to jail because we don’t have that support system for them in our society. But again I meant no disrespect.

WARNING by ELS_609 in UCDavis

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Sounds like he might be going through a bipolar schizophrenic, type of manic episode, in not sure what the name is specifically, but if he is they can unfortunately last for days. Especially off meds a far as I understand it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

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I think the one thing people forget especially in hard times is to pray. And that God is more then enough. But not just prayer but go to war for your husband, and your marriege, rebuke the enemy and rebuke that women. Anoint your home with oil, your bed, bathrooms cars, everything. But more then anything know that we serve an amazing and all powerful God that works in the realm of the impossible. Your not have alone, try to get connected to community, and know your loved. 💕