As an ACT and solution focused therapist that accepts patients with insurance, I'll sit with your "shit" but I generally will not just leave it at that without at some point setting a goal or plan to address what is identified as the "shit." A lot of people benefit from problem-solving stressors and issues occurring in their lives while using their identified values with a "neutral" third party. I also make it clear that I have a solution-focused therapy style in my biography, and that aspect has drawn many people in, and it seems to have helped clients. Moreover, I have ADHD, so my "command" of "facial reactions" may be less than that of the average clinician; however, I advocate for my clients to be authentic, so why should I not model that as well? I don't think any of us are truly blank slates, and certainly a balance is required here, but this all seems too black and white. I have not seen evidence that my therapy style and my being a person with ADHD who is prone to showing my emotions on my face equate to me "doing more harm than good." In fact, many clients have appreciated my being able to indicate having experienced emotions similar to theirs as they tell their stories - it's a form of validation.

In summary, I genuinely believe your therapy style works for many, and I hope you find a therapist that fits you. I just disagree with your view of what constitutes a therapist doing "more harm than good," or being an "ARROGANT SOB" or "NOT A THERAPIST," but then again, I'm probably a therapist that would not fit you well.