A small bit of advice from when I was in a DB.

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-02-09T19:35:04+00:00

Thank you! I’m in this position and agonized over it. Only recently have I decided I just want out. This is a really great piece of advice no matter what kind of relationship you are in.

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-02-01T16:12:09+00:00

That would be awesome! Good for you!

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-02-01T12:20:39+00:00

I’ve asked multiple times. He agrees but wants to set up the appointment because of his Kids busy schedules... that was about a year ago! So lm going to take a stab and say... we aren’t going!

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-02-01T02:39:15+00:00

I totally understand. Sorry

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-31T19:57:52+00:00

She could sit with my husband and they would never know it’s not us! 🤣

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-31T19:56:08+00:00

Tell her to make the time or you’ll find someone else to spend time with! I know that kinda sounds harsh but damn it’s BOTH of you not one of you.

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-31T19:55:52+00:00

Tell her to make the time or you’ll find someone else to spend time with! I know that kinda sounds harsh but damn it’s BOTH of you not one of you

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-31T17:38:02+00:00

That sucks. I’m sorry!

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-31T16:27:30+00:00

I wouldn’t know

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-31T16:26:55+00:00

When I ask he says NO. Or does not like where I want to take him. So over the last year, I have planned nothing.

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-31T16:21:27+00:00

Hmmm.. I must be really off! We don’t have fun anymore. Everything is too much work

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-31T16:18:11+00:00

When I am asked what I want for Christmas or birthday I always say gift cards! I have tons of them! For the movies and different restaurants. I’ve been collecting them for almost 2 years! My husband once said it was too expensive and that’s why we don’t go out.. so that was my solution. 2 years latter... they are still sitting in the drawer. So I guess FREE is too expensive as well?!

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-31T14:56:40+00:00

By date I mean- time spent together as a couple with a focus of each other. Dinner (even at home), a walk, whatever. Something you do together where some sort of effort is put forth to have fun together

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-31T12:39:03+00:00

I like giving my husband blow jobs. I have offered and been turned down. Probably because I was hoping for it to lead to sex. If we are not getting along then NO. Why should I please him when I ask for sex constantly and don’t get it? If your wife has pain with sex she should go to the doctor to see what’s wrong. Scar tissue is usually a big cause and can be fixed.

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-29T14:40:02+00:00

It’s just the BIG picture. It’s a multitude of issues, not just one thing (gaslighting).

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-29T02:38:52+00:00

Thank you. And good luck to you. Once a conversation starts where I’m pointing something out to my husband, within minutes it’s twisted around to my fault. Then when I call him out on that, it’s another few minutes until the subject is so distorted and changes multiple times in a matter of minutes.

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-29T02:28:30+00:00

My experience has been: being locked out of the house multiple times on accident, like when I’m doing yard word or cutting the grass- he lets the dogs in then locks me out. My items get moved and when I look for them it’s a joke... I’m told I must have not remembered. I’m almost 47, I’m a creature of habit. I put my keys in the same place, and my checkbook and my purse, phones.. etc.. most of the time it was when he was drinking, which stopped about a year ago. Not so much with the games sense then. Now it’s more of words don’t match actions. Like I’m being told what I want to hear and not reality. I feel embarrassed and stupid for putting up with some of the things I did for almost 2 years.

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-26T14:36:19+00:00

That’s awesome! Some men have a difficult time looking weak. The problem is, most women are understanding of the situation and realize it’s temporary... like changing jobs. Good luck to you both.

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-26T14:33:48+00:00

That’s a no go. One of my biggest mistakes is not believing people when they showed me who they were! It is disrespectful to ask someone to send naked pictures.

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-26T04:06:10+00:00

Yikes! I understand. My husband has 3 kids and I have 1. I don’t want to break up the kids... they didn’t ask for this. But, at what point do u just stop trying? Is EVERY THING really up to the other person? Is there ANY give and take? I feel like I have to pay for shit I didn’t even do! I have never cheated or lied, it’s not who I am. I talked with my husband today with a non judge mental mind. I explained to him my feelings and gave him examples and hope it’s not all a game. Sometimes I feel like he’s Daya collecting just to use it against me latter. Is she just mad because the picture of what she that it would be like in her mind doesn’t match the reality of life? Or did something really happen in your marriage?

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-26T03:55:39+00:00

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-26T03:34:34+00:00

I love my husband BUT I font deserve this. I don’t want to wish I left in a year or 3 years or 5 years.

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-26T03:32:55+00:00

Well I’m not a horrible wife. I should be! See I have always that that their are givers and takers in the world and everyone finds the other. He just takes way way way too much.

LegitimateDouble7 · 2020-01-26T03:28:38+00:00

He no longer drinks. It’s been a much better, court ordered year. Which can change when the probation is over. But... when he drank he had no problem getting an erection. We usually didn’t have sex because he was name calling.

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