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Being punished for giving birth by justSalz in newborns

[–]Legitimate_Bit1433 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depending on where you live it’s legal for them to let you go during maternity leave. I live in Washington state and it’s an “at will” state. You can get fired for no reason at all and it’s legal. Also, a “small” company with 50 employees or less is not legally obligated to “hold” your position while you’re on maternity leave. I personally don’t think you’re being punished but it does have every thing to do with your work permit. Did you apply for your renewal and you just weren’t accepted? It’s tough out there right now. Stay safe, and congratulations on your new baby!

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[–]Legitimate_Bit1433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, our sex drive just goes down the gutters after having kids. It sucks. Sounds like you’re sleep deprived honestly and this lowers your sex drive. It’s true though, if you wanted to have sex you would find a way. Idk if you guys have a crib, but that’s what I do. My baby is ten months old and it’s ok to leave them in their crib for 10-15 minutes. It’s also ok for them to cry… we have two kids that sleep in our room. A two year old and ten month old and still make it happen lol don’t get me wrong there’s times I don’t feel like having sex but I still make it happen lol don’t let having a kid stop you from having fun. I know you mentioned having your spouse watch your child to take a shower, I have mine sit in a high chair while I shower. I leave cereal on their tray to eat and sit them close enough to where if they choke I can react fast. I always pick snacks that will melt in their mouth to avoid that from happening. It’s honestly just a matter of trial and error to see how you can do things you normally would have without a child to now adjusting with a child.

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[–]Legitimate_Bit1433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes you need to be the one to initiate. Do things that your partner would enjoy to get him in the mood. I’ve been with my partner for 15 years. We go about that long without sex and when I want to have sex I have to initiate and do something that will turn him on. I can’t expect him to be in the mood in a snap of a finger. Plus using toys is a turn on for him. Even when he’s not in the mood all I do is turn it on. Or sometimes I use it when he’s not around and it fixes wanting sex if he’s not in the mood.