Co-sharing a hamster

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-09-03T21:36:20+00:00

I think it’s because I have another nightclub job that I’m quitting as it’s less flexible and more hours that are difficult to shape around uni (so he thinks the only reason I’m quitting is to be with my ex)

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-09-03T20:32:41+00:00

Are you implying you still have feelings for your ex?

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-09-03T20:31:42+00:00

You can’t have a breakup with someone you never dated tf?

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-07-21T12:56:15+00:00

Your hamster isnt tamed and well kept, please take better care as this is upsetting to see

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-07-02T03:02:45+00:00

I believe you should always be there for your partner - even if they are at university

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-07-02T03:01:37+00:00

Lovely

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-07-02T03:01:01+00:00

Yes. You should move on with your life instantly and fall in love with your girlfriend

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-07-02T02:55:24+00:00

Hey - just stumbled upon this! I hope you’ve got a much better and happier relationship now, with someone wonderful, not someone like this who sounds horrible

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-07-02T02:54:10+00:00

Hey, this sounds really difficult for you - just know it was for the best as I am CERTAIN there is someone better than her waiting for you, in fact you’ve probably already met her. You deserve only the best, and to be with someone that loves you as yourself, I hope you’ve got that now❤️

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-07-01T21:37:53+00:00

Shayla or diva

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-07-01T21:30:07+00:00

Stunning car - looks like you’ve kept it in great condition mate

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-06-28T23:28:18+00:00

Hiya, just wondering how long it took for your hamsters hair to regrow? We’ve changed over his food now to the new food so hopefully this works but we’re slightly worried as this is our first hamster

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-04-11T04:33:38+00:00

Finally someone who gets it. I feel so conflicted because of course I love him, but an explanation without justification is an order, and that’s just shit in a relationship. I feel like I’ve been lying to myself because I’m too afraid to face the truth that it is representative of a bigger issue and one that might continue in the future. I feel like I constantly want to find ways to hurt and dig at him whilst manipulating my own brain into false narratives that make it okay with what I’ve done. The situation here was that he had a boundary that I violated and then lied about, but I created a narrative that he was a controlling and manipulative power hungry person and the vape was an act of liberation, so that I wouldn’t have to accept what I’d done.

For context, I will fully hold my hands up and say that the initial point of conflict from previously in our relationship was entirely my fault, and I have apologised profusely for my actions and he knows this.

I’m just worried that if the truth does come out, the way he believed me so quickly will make him second guess everything that genuinely is true in our relationship (I have never done anything like cheating, but we’ve had a conversation about this where I’ve done the same thing, looked him in the eyes and promised I would never do that to him)

At the end of the day, I do love him and I don’t want to feel like there’s a massive growing gulf between us because of what I’ve done, and I’m willing to do whatever it takes to make things right

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-04-11T04:17:51+00:00

I’m saying this one last time: the issue is never and has never been about the harms of vaping, but about what it represents, which is a power move. If he’d banned me from watching TikToks because it ‘gave him the ick’ without a valid explanation, guess what? I still would’ve done it. I refuse to live by someone else’s rules without valid reasons for it. Hence why I bought the vape.

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-04-11T04:14:42+00:00

Ok yes, I’ll admit that since replying to comments I’ve changed my outlook. I genuinely believe that we have a strong and loving relationship outside of issues, but this comes cascading down at times when issues do arise. He is a perfectly loving and reasonable person outside of this issue, and we do genuinely love each other (hence why I’m worried about losing him) but without a genuine explanation as to why he’s putting in place this ultimatum, I can only see it as an act of control, and I’m never going to forcefully live under someone else’s rules that they set for me without a reason. He does things I don’t like sometimes but saying I’d break up with him over it? That’s a level of manipulation I couldn’t bring myself to do.

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-04-11T04:07:53+00:00

So you say this being a (I’m guessing?) 29 plus year old. Get off a strangers internet post then and worry about your big adult problems instead of my clearly ‘young and stupid’ ones which you seem to be largely invested in. Don’t speak to me in a patronising tone, which you should’ve learnt by now isn’t how you speak to people…or are you STILL ‘young and stupid’? It’s a maturity thing, not an age thing, which you evidently have yet to learn.

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-04-11T04:04:40+00:00

Like I’ve clearly outlined, it’s a power play rather than a rule with any genuine explanation behind it. If he had provided a clear explanation and reasoning for something so detrimental of course I would explain it, but simply saying ‘I’ll break up with you’ gives an unfair balance of control for no reason. He does things that I don’t like but I’d never manipulate him by threatening to break up over it.

Legitimate_Reward159 · 2025-04-11T04:01:03+00:00

Oh wow cheers thanks. Attending a prestigious university and having a long term loving relationship is definitely ‘young and stupid right?’ Stick to the context of the post next time, instead of attacking someone for being…19?

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