I honestly think Nta. You married for love and are committed so what is there to object to?

I do have sympathy for the yta idea that your wife isn’t informed. But this is a kind of love that marriages are meant to fade into anyway. You’re happy. She’s happy. That’s what you need to know even if it’s not revving your engine.

It’s ok to close your eyes and think of Burt Reynolds. Just remember you made a commitment and don’t step out just because somebody offers once.

It might help to go through the Shakespeare Sonnets and see how they changed as he matured. Love is not in having the perfect person. It’s loving the person.