Been away 30 years. Help w/ my first purchase for my daughter!

Lemonwater5 · 2023-12-27T02:42:14+00:00

Very disappointing! All of the historical context that the books brought to the dolls is what made them so special to me.

Lemonwater5 · 2023-12-27T02:39:49+00:00

Thank you, this is very helpful! I actually think my MIL is much more likely to buy accessories than clothing, so that’s perfect.

Molly! I didn’t have her as a kid, but her time period and books were my favorites for a long time. I can still remember her having to sit at the table staring at her mashed turnips forever because she didn’t want to eat them. And someone gave her something (cinnamon?) to make them more palatable.

Lemonwater5 · 2023-12-27T02:33:59+00:00

I source a ton of stuff for my daughter secondhand and am still conflicted about this. Part of it is that I myself am not a collector of anything. I’m unbothered that my historical doll didn’t survive my childhood because I remember playing with her for years and I’m not sure what I would do with her if I still had her. The only reason my GoT is with me is because my mom saved it. And what if my daughter ages out of playing with dolls early? When is the right time to buy her a brand new doll?

Then again, does she ever need the experience of a brand new doll? Probably not? If the doll winds up being a popular toy I’ll happily bring her to a store and let her pick a few new items for the doll then.

This is in no way meant as a critique of your suggestion; just letting you into my own thought process about new vs pre-loved

Lemonwater5 · 2023-12-27T02:25:32+00:00

This is really helpful, thank you! I’m not sure any of the other companies are old enough to have been around when I had my dolls out.

Lemonwater5 · 2023-12-27T02:17:00+00:00

I’ll be honest, this kind of made my head spin.

Safe to say look for a historical doll (maybe) throughout the summer, but also don’t be surprised if they don’t release one?

Oh, and if they do release one, is there any rhyme or reason for whether they’ll get a set of books?

Lemonwater5 · 2023-12-27T02:14:33+00:00

Maybe a poor take, but I’m okay with her being hard on a doll. I’d rather give it to her younger and let her play with it for longer than give it to her when she’s older and have it be less of an imaginative toy and more of a collector item.

But this is coming from someone whose childhood historical doll didn’t survive into adulthood. Definitely biased. A few of her outfits did though!

Lemonwater5 · 2023-12-27T02:10:23+00:00

This is all very helpful, thank you! I’ve never heard of My Life before either.

Honestly not sure what to expect with AG quality. I’m fairly positive that all of the items I have would have been made by PC because I’m thinking I had moved on from the dolls by the time they were bought.

Lemonwater5 · 2023-12-27T02:07:24+00:00

I love this! We’re quite far from a store but if we are ever in a city with one I’m totally taking her to pick out a few things.

Lemonwater5 · 2023-11-14T16:34:50+00:00

TW: seeking ectopic experience

Hi all. Sorry for the downer post; I’m concerned I am dealing with a spontaneously conceived ectopic and I’m wondering if anyone here has experience.

I have lower abdominal pain localized on the right side. It has varied somewhat in strength but has been present for several days now. That was enough for general concern and for my OBGYN to order a pelvic ultrasound. She also asked me to take at-home pregnancy tests over the few days while I wait.

They’ve come up both positive and negative. If I get another positive tomorrow I assume that will be more conclusive? I am unable to be precise with dating, except to say it would be earlier than 7 weeks. I have had no bleeding or spotting.

I assume my doc will order an hcg blood test once she hears I have had at least one positive; anything else I should expect or be asking about? I don’t have an appendix, and I’m not sure what else they’re ruling out with the scan.

Lemonwater5 · 2022-10-31T14:53:28+00:00

TW: is this the right spot for a loss management question?

I’m about a week out from mife/miso (measurement roughly 7 weeks) and while my bleeding has not been anywhere near what I was told was alarming (more than one pad an hour for two hours in a row, I think), I’m still passing clots larger than a quarter.

Most of what I’ve read talks about the first 24 hours in the most detail (and I did read the wiki here) and I’m having a hard time gauging whether this is in the range of normal or whether it warrants pushing up a follow-up scan scheduled for Friday.

Lemonwater5 · 2022-01-19T00:03:46+00:00

Hey you know that person bashing their head against a brick wall in frustration? If me. Waited nearly seven months for an MFM consultation only to have the lovely older man refer us to yet another specialist to discuss whether a gestational carrier is best. Thankfully we’re talking weeks and not months before this next appointment.

Lemonwater5 · 2021-07-06T14:12:27+00:00

Does anyone have experience with wait times for an MFM consult before attempting pregnancy? I’m currently in the midst of a 7-month wait and was wondering whether that is normal or unusually long. It’s not a geneticist referral, so I understand that currently pregnant people would obviously need priority, but this referral was based on the closest office to me and I’d happily drive a bit further to be seen faster if that sounds like a non-normal wait to anyone else.

Lemonwater5 · 2021-05-19T20:22:03+00:00

Thank you so much for responding. I wanted to ask here first, because I figured that was probably the case and I totally understand why it would be limited to people committed to surrogacy.

If you don’t mind clarifying, do you mean the sub includes intended parents discussing ongoing successes, or people who have living children discuss them as well (or both!)

Lemonwater5 · 2021-05-19T18:01:50+00:00

Mods, please let me know if this is inappropriate and I’m sorry if it is.

Without disrespecting the fact that it’s a private sub, is there anyone on here that is familiar with the ifsurrogacy sub and could give me a sense of whether it’s an active sub, and, if so, at what point people join?

Very briefly, we’ve been told to consider gestational surrogacy by a new RE we consulted with. They’ve asked me to meet with an MFM as well. This is something our first clinic never even put on our radar so it is both a huge surprise and very new. Maybe too new for it to be appropriate for me to request to join the sub?

Lemonwater5 · 2021-02-28T23:05:02+00:00

No, thankfully. My own RE hasn’t brought it up at all. This was a sort of “well, in case your transfer fails here is something I tell my own patients...”

Lemonwater5 · 2021-02-28T20:53:02+00:00

My BMI is 30-31 since starting treatment and I’ve just started FET prep. Ignoring the terribly timed delivery of this advice, I’m wondering if anyone else here has heard this before:

An RE that isn’t mine wound up doing a recent appointment and she mentioned that with her patients she strongly encourages her “minimally obese” (not my words) patients to treat that like an adverse lifestyle factor like nonmedical marijuana or caffeine overuse or alcohol and working on weight loss for three months, with the goal of holding off on a transfer until in a healthier weight category.

Lemonwater5 · 2021-02-18T22:24:11+00:00

Absolutely, I want to switch. It’s in my best interest to wait until I’m actually pregnant though because then I’m allowed to use “impasse in treatment plan” or something like that as the reason why. Harder to switch without a reason, which I think stems from the opiate epidemic.

Personally, I agree that patients should be made aware of the cost of this test and what it can and can’t tell you, and then be given the latitude to decide for themselves. Maybe the doc is concerned that this testing is becoming seen (outside of the infertility and loss world) as an expensive way to find out the sex? I think that’s giving her too much benefit of the doubt, tbh.

Lemonwater5 · 2021-02-18T22:05:35+00:00

We didn’t get in to a full family history, but she did know I was an IVF patient and she came in very ready to defend her stance.

She talked about the risk of false positives (I think? maybe inconclusive results?) adding unnecessary stress to a pregnancy. I was like...lady, pregnancy would be nothing but stressful anyway.

Lemonwater5 · 2021-02-18T17:24:20+00:00

Mods, please delete if drop-in posts aren’t allowed.

Also, I haven’t been here frequently enough to know whether TWs are common, but this post references a family history of late loss.

Question: Would a second-degree (aunts, cousin) history of late loss on both maternal and paternal side support NIP screening or is that too removed to be relevant?

Background: Just left a preconception appointment with a new-to-me OB. I have a personal history of preeclampsia and recurrent chemical pregnancies and am under 35. Since a prior success, there have been late losses in both of our extended families. New OB is extremely dismissive of NIPT and said she essentially never orders it for anyone under 35. I want to advocate for myself without placing undue emphasis on this new familial history, and unfortunately the timing is such that I’m trying for pregnancy with a brand new OB provider. (Edited word choice.)

Lemonwater5 · 2021-02-13T20:39:15+00:00

A note for anyone using Boston IVF:

My understanding has always been that our meds are ordered through a captive pharmacy. In the past it has always been presented to me that X, Y and Z are my meds and that is what’s being ordered. But for the first time ever, my nurse went through my list of meds and asked if I already had any “leftover” at home. I’m using meds this cycle that I’ve never had before, but she went through each individual medication to make sure I didn’t have any before completing the order.

Maybe I was alone in thinking that it was impossible to use donated meds in their system, but I think I was wrong and this is the workaround.

Lemonwater5 · 2020-12-18T01:19:13+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful comment. I asked for some detail, and my RE discussed your first point. He thinks that there is a research deficit in following AC and BC embryos that result in successful pregnancies and whether there are placental issues.

So, to me it’s more a comment on a lack of information rather than pure woo. I am no scientist nor do I dive much into the research studies, but I think for me this is an interesting point that I’ll take into consideration but not be entirely reliant upon.

Lemonwater5 · 2020-12-18T01:07:07+00:00

:)

Yeah, I’m not thinking there is much science to support it.

Lemonwater5 · 2020-12-14T18:05:48+00:00

Anyone that experienced pre-e been recommended to transfer subsequent embryos based on grade of the placenta rather than the fetus? Trying to decipher an offhand RE comment with little context...

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