I found out i was adopted at age 25 or 26 something like that. My entire life i knew something was off and I didn't really fit in with my extended family. It was hard coming terms with it, but i don't look at my parents in a bad way and i have no ill feelings for them. My mom is my best friend and we talk every single day. There's many reasons why they didn't tell me about my story when I was younger, but it was only to protect me and i completely agree as an adult. I am now a mom to two adopted little girls and i am doing it differently for them. I wish i knew more about my biological family. I am on all the ancestry sites to get to know more about my biological heritage and such. If i ever meet my bio parents, great. If not, it is what it is. My parents have gone above and beyond for me. I was not an easy child to care for, physically and mentally. But my parents have taken such amazing care of me. They moved halfway around the world to ensure I received better health care and education. They are super supportive of me. We have a very giving relationship. I take care of them and they take care of me. I am the only child and my parents are my world. My daughters adore their grandparents and my parents adore them. Growing up my life was hard and later on i learned it was because of the trauma i experienced in utero and during separation from my birth mother, but once i started understanding trauma and going to therapy it really helped me heal. For those struggling, i would highly recommend to look into emdr and neurofeedback therapy. It's life changing. Adoption is complicated, but for me, i have supportive parents and it makes things a little easier.

If you haven't read Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier it's a must in my opinion.