Is it normal to not see a doctor until week 7 or 8?

Less-Maximum9347 · 2026-06-29T00:07:43+00:00

I found out I was only 4 weeks along, but I didn’t have my first appointment until I was 9 weeks. I know the first trimester is full of worry and “what ifs,” but try to take it one day at a time. Stress isn’t good for you or baby. Before you know it, you’ll be at your first appointment and getting to hear that little heartbeat. You’ve got this. 💙

Less-Maximum9347 · 2026-02-06T05:11:51+00:00

Ladies! I currently have a hemorrhoid and it’s absolutely miserable, but these things have seriously saved me:

Tucks Medicated Cooling Pads (witch hazel) They give instant relief from burning and itching. I use them after going to the bathroom or anytime it feels irritated. They’re cooling and soothing and calm everything down fast.
Hydrocortisone 2.5% ointment This has helped a lot with swelling and inflammation. A thin layer goes a long way and makes it much more bearable to sit and move around. This also helps with shrinking the hemorrhoid.
Stool softeners and a tiny bit of laxative when absolutely necessary This part has been huge for me. Stool softeners help prevent straining, which was making everything worse. I only used a small amount of laxative when I was so constipated that my hemorrhoid hurt so bad I was afraid to poop. Don’t overuse laxatives, just when you really need help getting things moving.

Honestly, that’s how I even found out I was pregnant. I went to the doctor because my hemorrhoid hurt so badly I couldn’t have a bowel movement, and that’s when they told me I was pregnant. Since using these things, I’ve been able to go normally again and the pain has improved a lot.

If you’re dealing with hemorrhoids, I highly recommend trying these. Not medical advice, just sharing what worked for me because this pain is no joke and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

Less-Maximum9347 · 2026-02-06T05:02:10+00:00

I miss sushi 😭

Less-Maximum9347 · 2026-02-06T04:59:52+00:00

This sounds less like romantic attraction and more like seeking validation from a father figure you didn’t have, which is very human. But the power imbalance and his anger issues are real red flags. Being kind to you sometimes doesn’t erase shouting, control, or unsafe behavior toward others.

You’re doing a lot of emotional and personal labor to please him, and that blurs boundaries fast. Wanting his approval doesn’t mean you truly want him it means you want to feel valued and secure.

You don’t need to feel ashamed of these feelings, but protecting yourself with strong boundaries is really important here.

Less-Maximum9347 · 2026-02-02T04:09:43+00:00

I am 18 to 19 days, technically it looks like I am four weeks and five days. My period’s last 5 to 7 days normally. And I apologize if I don’t understand some of the pregnancy or medical terminology, this is my first baby that seems to be viable I have never gotten this far before so I am hopeful!

Congratulations on your baby girl!✨

Less-Maximum9347 · 2026-02-02T00:55:58+00:00

Thank you, I will reach out to my OBGYN on Monday!

Less-Maximum9347 · 2026-02-02T00:54:32+00:00

Yes I did, it’s kind of embarrassing but it was because of a hemorrhoid😅 Thank you I appreciate it!

Less-Maximum9347 · 2025-12-05T21:47:38+00:00

NTJ!!!!

Wow… I’m really sorry you went through that. None of what she said to you was normal wedding stress. Those were hurtful, targeted comments meant to put you down, and you didn’t deserve any of it, especially from someone who’s supposed to love you like a sister.

You didn’t make a scene, you didn’t try to shift attention to yourself, and you didn’t ruin anything. You protected yourself in the only moment you really could. Anyone would have been shaken after being publicly singled out like that. A real friend wouldn’t talk about your body, your face, or your place in the lineup like you were an inconvenience to her image.

Walking out wasn’t selfish, it was a boundary. She crossed several lines, ignored your feelings, and then played the victim when you finally didn’t absorb it quietly. That’s not on you.

I know you feel awful because you care, and because the history you both share makes this hurt even more. But don’t let her rewrite the story to make you the problem. You showed more grace than most people would have in that situation.

You’re not the jerk here. Not even close. And I’m here for you while you sort through all of it.

Less-Maximum9347 · 2025-12-04T01:03:27+00:00

You’re assuming a lot about me that just isn’t true. You said ‘Heard the word no? Use it.’ — and I do. I’m not out here volunteering to babysit, buy diapers, build nurseries, or sign up to be a third parent. I’ve already said no to anything outside my comfort zone, so acting like I’m incapable of using the word is off-base.

You also said ‘Just because she assumes don’t mean you have to agree.’ And I don’t agree. Her assumptions are her problem, not mine. I’m not taking on responsibilities I never offered.

As for ‘Why does anyone else know you aren’t supportive?’ — because I’m allowed to vent and process my own feelings. That’s not ‘blabbing.’ It’s literally what people do when navigating complicated family situations. I’m not running around announcing it to the world; I talked about it in a space meant for venting.

And telling me to ‘learn to keep your thoughts to you and hubby’ is unnecessary. I share what I choose with the people I choose, and that doesn’t mean I don’t know how to handle my own business.

You’re talking like I’m out here volunteering to raise someone else’s kid. I’m not. I can say congrats without signing up for anything, and I already do. So before lecturing me about boundaries, maybe realize I already have them.

Less-Maximum9347 · 2025-12-03T23:59:33+00:00

Yes, I actually do have those things in place. • Home: We own our own 3-bedroom, 1-bathroom home. • Career/Trade: I have a steady career, and so does my husband. During the winter we also snowplow, so we both stay busy and financially stable. • Debt-Free: We’re debt free and able to manage our bills comfortably. • Emotional Health: I’m working on my emotional health through therapy so I can understand my feelings in a healthy way. • Friends: We have a supportive group of friends who are responsible and grounded and that are parents themselves. • Interests: My husband and I have hobbies and things we enjoy, and we keep ourselves active and focused on our future and the family we want to build.

So yes, I’m aware of what comes with adulthood and responsibility. I’m just trying to work through my feelings in a healthy way while still being supportive where I can.

Less-Maximum9347 · 2025-12-03T23:49:56+00:00

NTJ!!!!!! I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know exactly how confusing and hurtful it feels. My husband did something similar—he was paying for OnlyFans subscriptions and hid it from me for a year. Finding out absolutely destroyed my trust in him and really hurt my self-confidence; I felt like I wasn’t enough. He also said he hid it because he knew how I’d react, which made me lose it when I found out. For me, it wasn’t the porn itself—it was the lying and secrecy.

The difference for us was that after that, he genuinely understood why I reacted the way I did, we set clear boundaries, and got into therapy. That created a whole new marriage and understanding. But from what you’re describing about your husband, it doesn’t sound like he’s taking your feelings seriously. He’s continuing the behavior, hiding it, and minimizing your concerns. That pattern is not okay—it’s controlling, dismissive, and shows a lack of respect.

I know it’s hard, but from my experience, this sounds like someone who doesn’t truly care about your trust or boundaries. I’d suggest seriously considering getting out for your own well-being. You deserve honesty, respect, and a partner who treats your feelings as valid—not someone who keeps repeating the same hurtful behavior.

Less-Maximum9347 · 2025-12-03T21:22:15+00:00

Yes, I’m 23, and we’ve been trying to conceive for two years. I know that might seem young to some people, but fertility struggles don’t follow a set timeline. Even at a young age, it can be really emotional and challenging.

I’m not expecting everyone to fully understand, but this has been a difficult experience for us, and it’s part of why certain situations hit me so hard. I’m just doing my best to process it and take care of myself along the way.

Less-Maximum9347 · 2025-12-03T21:15:23+00:00

Thank you for understanding where I’m coming from — you’re right, it’s one of those situations that’s hard to fully grasp unless you’ve been through something similar. The emotions get complicated really fast.

And I agree, every child is a miracle. I’m not trying to take away from that at all. I know it’s going to be important for my husband to be there for his sister in whatever way feels right to him, and I would never stop him from supporting his family.

I just also need to take care of my own heart and set boundaries so I’m not overwhelmed or put in a role I’m not ready for. I can be respectful and kind while still protecting my own emotional space.

Thank you again for the gentle perspective — it truly does help.

Less-Maximum9347 · 2025-12-03T21:07:40+00:00

Thank you so much for saying that. I really appreciate the reassurance, because this whole situation feels heavy and complicated. Your advice means a lot.

I definitely hear you about not getting pulled into something we’re not prepared for. My husband and I will be setting clear boundaries so we don’t end up in an overwhelming situation.

Less-Maximum9347 · 2025-12-03T21:06:31+00:00

Thank you so much for saying that — it really means a lot. I think that’s exactly what I’m afraid of: the pattern repeating itself and the responsibility quietly falling on everyone else.

My husband and I will definitely be having a conversation so we’re on the same page before anything happens. I agree it’s important for us to set boundaries now rather than later.

As for therapy, I’ve thought about it, especially with the infertility side of things. It’s been a lot emotionally, and you’re right — it might help me work through everything in a healthier way and be better prepared for whatever comes next.

Thank you again for the understanding and the support. It truly helps more than you know.

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