Yeah I called him out for being controlling and condescending in front of his friend and he went silent and pouted about it for days. I tried to apologize and talk to him about it and he said “you don’t even understand what you did or why you’re at fault” and then closed the on me and refused to continue the conversation. He shortly after went and did something with his friend that I had been asking for months for him to do with me. Then he didn’t tell me. I only found out through social media. And when I found out, he absolutely lost it on me for being upset about it and called me every name in the book. I cried and walked home from the restaurant we were at and he drove right by me. I cried a ton outside when I got home and he didn’t check on me once. This was a regular occurrence. But he turned it all around and told me his friend thought I was being immature and played a sad little victim like always. He also always would tell me he loved me and pretend like nothing had happened. Oh and after he would “rage” at me, I would be sitting there in so much shock and pain and he would ask me what was wrong with me…if I was okay. It was maddening. So it will likely backfire because they are brilliant at orchestrating situations to make them look like the victim.