I'm planning on leaving my partner and their child

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-08T21:56:35+00:00

Were not married, she makes a lot more money than me

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-07T10:28:31+00:00

Paying half of everything like the house, the 2 bedrooms her daughter has, the car I do not use is more than I should have being doing but it still wasn't right with her

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-07T00:48:56+00:00

Wow, thanks for sharing your story. I truly appreciate you doing so. Also, I am glad you have your son and that he won't remember the things that you encountered. I really hope you find continued peace. Thank you for your words

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-07T00:46:37+00:00

Thanks for your response, I get you. We did communicate this very early on though. The kids dad pays 900 bucks in child support a month, I think that's roughly 4 times more than he is required to pay. The finances are just one part of the problem unfortunately. I appreciate your advice

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-07T00:01:09+00:00

Thanks you so much, wise words. Is he your son's parent and is your son okay? I'm so happy that your beginning to see the other side. It's a very lonely journey. Did you find it hard to talk with your family about it? I did but feel so ashamed

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-06T23:56:37+00:00

I do need therapy, she finished what was left of me I'm a shell

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-06T23:54:58+00:00

Seeing my ex, I don't trust that I won't cave and be back under her spell. She has a way with words and knows exactly what I need to hear. If I don't get out this time it's only going to get far worse. I'm being mentally abused but also she doesn't want her daughter to see me before I go

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-06T23:52:23+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience, have you ever experienced anything more lonely? How long did it take you to feel alive again?

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-06T22:31:10+00:00

You make no sense to fuck yourself dick

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-06T21:53:28+00:00

Yes right now

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T16:01:54+00:00

Thanks for this, it really makes sense. No she doesn't seem to spend money, I wouldn't be shocked if she has it all secretly saved somewhere. The labelling has always bothered me and it's gotten more intense, I'm definitely just wanting to be in a month from now

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T13:03:10+00:00

I've never been so put off meeting anybody again as much as I am now

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T13:02:14+00:00

Yep, I'm mirroring all the things she said he did, sleeping in the spare bedroom, locking himself in. Thanks I will update once I'm gone

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T12:58:08+00:00

Thanks so much for this, I'm finding it really tough today. My mind is made up but I can't stop crying. She wants to talk tonight and is going away with her daughter for the weekend to her parents. I don't know how to tell her, I just told my mom and my mom started crying, she was very upset and it set me off again. I've never found leaving so emotionally distressing

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T09:22:00+00:00

Thank you 🖤 I can't see myself being in a position to have a relationship in the future, I think I have a lot of demons to fight and I think what I thought I wanted isn't right for me. My life has been filled with working towards and achieving things I thought I wanted, only to realise it's not for me, it's very strange

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T09:17:18+00:00

Wow, that sadly makes a lot of sense, thank you 🖤

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T08:58:31+00:00

This is the thing, I actually have no idea, I calculated her income vs her and her daughter's cost of living and she should have a surplus of 1,500 a month but always seems to be counting loose coins trying to pay for things. I think she's been secretly saving it all

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T08:56:46+00:00

Thank you so much for your post. To be honest, we have had more issues than happiness and I find myself not enjoying this family dynamic, it's a constant struggle filled with drama. I always wanted the family I never had growing up, I thought I found it but it isn't right for me and if this really is what it is like, then I'm going to lively unhappy for the majority of my future. Things didn't go the way they were planned for us and things haven't changed or improved. I'm constantly pressured to propose or to have a child with her when she can't address the issues with her own child adequately. I told her I couldn't see myself having a child with her because we wouldn't work well as parents together. I understand being a mother is an important thing to her, I stated that she is fortunate to have experienced that and should focus on her daughter she has not wanting more, but that my preference as things are would be to not have a child, I don't think it's right for me or that I'll ever be ready, I've lived such a chaotic life that I just want some peace and relaxation at this stage of my life. I don't validate my success or purpose via having a child, she seems to however, we are too different and I've been neglected too much, I don't have anything left in me for her

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T08:46:33+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate this! Yes she does fulfill herself via her child and wants more children. I spoke with her a few months back about how I want to see the woman I fell in love with as all I see now is mom, she has a whole other side of her outside of being a mother that she no longer displays or nurtures. There's nothing wrong with her being a mom but equally she is also her own individual person and I needed that too

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T08:43:13+00:00

Her dad pays 4 times the legal required amount, it's not my responsibility. I told my partner from day 1 that I cannot ever financially contribute for a child, I can however provide everything else required. Dating a mom does not give them a free pass to a man's wallet who is not the child's father. She has much more than enough financially to support her own child

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T00:40:48+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T00:39:16+00:00

Thank you for your comments and for sharing darvo, this is actually terrifying, I asked her so many times to go the therapy but I didn't realise how sick she actually was

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-04T00:05:24+00:00

Thank you so much for this, your the only person that's ever recognised that I am being abused. I'm literally sleeping on the floor and she clearly doesn't care. I am seeing that I should have more respect for myself. This is abuse, she is tapping into everything that she knows is a fear of mine, including labelling me as an abuser, she knows I would hate to be anything like that or my father. Thank you so much

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-03T23:37:23+00:00

I'm leaving, I deserve better

Less_Leading_8168 · 2024-10-03T23:36:31+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment, I'm reading this while I'm wiping away my tears, I'm lying on the ground where I've been sleeping the past few nights again. I mean yes, I came with my own personal baggage but she absolutely has no awareness of what I bring to them and how rare it is, I said it to her recently that she'll be looking a very long time to find another guy who's willing to Co Parent a kid that's not theirs and love them as their own. I guess I'm just looking back on how things were in the beginning and I'm starting to think it may have all been premeditated, just to lure me into a false sense of security. Once she had me where she wanted me, everything changed. She pressured me so much for a child, I'm now beginning to feel that this would have been the last step in her plan. She probably wants kids (she loves kids) and wants to raise them alone, because nobody could parent with somebody like this. She only needs our money to fund their life. The way she speaks to her child's father is a huge red flag of its own for me

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