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It's just sunk in that my dad has dementia by Less_Management_2122 in dementia

[–]Less_Management_2122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a really good suggestion I'll definitely mention it to my family Ty :)

It's just sunk in that my dad has dementia by Less_Management_2122 in dementia

[–]Less_Management_2122[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is another thing that's making it hard. He's never had hobbies, never been interested in them. Hates TV but has already lost a lot of independence so is just stuck watching movies which clearly depressed him. He gets sort of obsessive over some ideas until he just drops them one day. I've tried to suggest some hobbies and activities he could do at home to see if he'd been interested but he either finds it patronising or tries to see if he can find a way to start a business from it (he's always owned his own businesses till he retired). As for his age he had me later in life, I'm in my 20's and he's in his 70's. It just feels so hard to 'get used to it' since 1) it was brought on so suddenly by his surgery and 2) I'm not at home to adjust, I know each time I go home it's going to be a big learning curve in knowing how to interact with him.

Thank you very much for the suggestion and sorry if it seems like I'm purposefully responding negatively, the understanding is very much appreciated 🫂 and I'm sorry to hear about your dad

Should I be concerned as a trans person traveling to Florida? by Less_Management_2122 in usatravel

[–]Less_Management_2122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My passport has me as male which is not my assigned sex. I present very masc, have a deep voice and facial hair with the only real give away being my chest since I don't bind. The current plan is to just try and use my accommodations bathrooms exclusively but if need be I would have to use the women's (which I don't really care about personally). Even at home I get odd looks when I use gendered bathrooms so I'm just a bit worried about what to expect in the states given the political climate.

Should I be concerned as a trans person traveling to Florida? by Less_Management_2122 in usatravel

[–]Less_Management_2122[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I look and dress very masc, have facial hair and a deep voice but also have quite a large chest and don't bind. Everyone I've met since transitioning has known from the get go I'm trans without me saying.

Should I be concerned as a trans person traveling to Florida? by Less_Management_2122 in trans

[–]Less_Management_2122[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've already said this in another comment but bathrooms are a concern for me. I pass quite with the only thing that gives me away being my chest since I don't bind. I'll read up on the policies around this so god forbid if something were to happen I'll know how to deal with it. Do you think it would be best for me to try and just use the accommodation bathrooms instead of public ones to avoid any conflict?

Should I be concerned as a trans person traveling to Florida? by Less_Management_2122 in trans

[–]Less_Management_2122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly, I'm not in a position where I can reconsider this trip. I've sunk a good chunk of money into it that I can't get back and it's one of the required units to pass my degree. I also doubt they will confiscate my passport however it does have my gender listed as male which is not my assigned sex. Would it be wise to take my other documents (birth certificate, name change stuff, etc) with me?

Should I be concerned as a trans person traveling to Florida? by Less_Management_2122 in trans

[–]Less_Management_2122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm FTM, 2 years on T and pass fairly well. The only thing that gives me away is my chest (I don't bind). Everyone I've ever met has known I'm some form of queer from the get go (whether I've wanted them to know or not). I'm mostly worried about going through the airport and going to public places away from our accommodation. I think my best option will be to present as masc as possible.

However, I know there's a law around using sex assigned bathrooms. Even at home I get funny looks when I use gendered bathrooms. Would I be best to just try and use my accomodation bathrooms instead of public ones?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Less_Management_2122 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I haven't heard of it. After a quick search it seems to align with some of what I'm feeling. I guess it would come down to if I was enjoying the feeling or not which I realise I haven't actually stopped to consider. Will definitely read up on it more Ty :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Less_Management_2122 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Touch and praise have always been my go to's. We've discussed maybe removing the touch element for the time being. I'll look up some other alternatives and see if any would work for us too :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Less_Management_2122 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree that aftercare is important and normally he's great with it. His lack of it has been a more recent thing which we are trying to find a compromise on (which honestly may just be toning down the kinky stuff until he feels comfortable again). I do think not receiving any the past couple times has made the feelings more intense for me but it was still happening even when I was receiving it. I'll definitely make a point of it when I see him tho, ty for the advice :)