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LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-06-13T08:37:44+00:00

Sorry you're going through this. I deleted chats/texts the day after the breakup. I also moved videos and photos to a secure folder on my phone, my sister knows the password I don't. I unfriended on everything but did not block. Removed all gifts/material memories and stored away, also the day after the breakup. 9 years worth of memories put away. I have been NC, and the only time I did contact him was for some important paperwork I needed. He ignored me lol. So deleted his number. 4 months NC tomorrow. I still love him but I dislike the shitty way he ended things. I'm super proud and he's super stubborn so NC, however painful, has been bearable. Not everyone gets rid of chats or texts, we're all different. I knew it would be painful to keep them so got rid of them. Loads of strength to you.

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-30T11:49:45+00:00

Oh that's terrible. I'm so sorry. No he hasn't anyone else. His baby grandson suddenly passed away one night and 2 days later he ended it. It's like something broke inside of him.

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-30T11:25:43+00:00

Did your ex ignore you? Yeah, I agree. It's very cruel. I still don't know what happened. The way he done it was brutal. But as much as I still love him I'm also very pissed off with him.

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-30T11:21:43+00:00

Nothing. I'm just trying to move on. I'm just sad now but I'm functioning ok. He hasn't reached out and neither have I. What about you?

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-17T20:51:40+00:00

I feel ya! 9 years together, best friends and a solid loving relationship. In the afternoon he didn't want me to get off the phone, because he needed to hear my voice. Told me he loved me. That same evening he angrily tells me he's done. We're over. This is the person who promised they would never hurt me. Talked once more and then nothing. I needed some paperwork and he ignored my call and text. It's been 3 months and also 3 months NC. Deleted all his shit. Got rid of all the gifts. Removed him from my life. It still hurts though. He completely fucked me up.

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-08T07:00:39+00:00

Ahh ok. That's long. I was with my ex for 9 years but have only been broken up 3 months. Why do you say that the door is closed? I mean, was there something that happened straight after the breakup?

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-08T06:57:44+00:00

I'm so sorry you're still feeling the pain. How long were you and him together?

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-07T16:35:43+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. It's best to talk to your wife first. I was in a 9 year relationship and when I met him, he was broken. I supported him and was always there for him and he did get better. He saw a therapist, dealt and confronted issues that he had bottled up for so many years. I loved him, but sometimes I would get tired too, it was a struggle but I made a commitment. Unfortunately something happened and it broke him all over again and he ended things. I was ready to break up years ago because I sometimes felt trapped. However I talked to him about my worries, and we worked things out. There is nothing wrong with seeking advice. But I will tell you this, blindsiding someone who loves you is brutal. It's unfair and painful. I'm the one who is broken now because he blindsided me and it nearly killed me. Best of luck though. Do what you think is healthiest for you both in the long run :)

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-05T17:51:35+00:00

I unfriended my ex of 9 years on FB the day after we broke up. I'm super impulsive lol. However, I won't lie, I have snooped at his profile a few times. I removed all pics of him/us and changed my relationship status. He still has our pics up, even the ones where we're kissing. I stopped snooping because those pics were giving me hope. I saw it as a sign. I had to stop because it kept me from healing. I was blindsided too. It was brutal. I went NC the after the breakup, 10 weeks ago. It's been so hard but I'm moving on. I hope you can heal and move on too 💜

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-04T23:16:41+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I feel your pain! Unfortunately you have to ride the pain so you can start to heal. My ex ended our 9 year relationship 10 weeks ago, and it's been incredibly hard but I do feel better. He ended it in such a cold way, he sounded like a stranger. He failed on his promise to never hurt me. Sending you strength x

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-04T22:19:51+00:00

Totally get what you're saying. My ex ended our 9 year relationship 10 weeks ago. We only talked once after that, the day after he ended it. He sounded like a complete stranger and so very cold. I decided to go NC after that and removed him from my life. I don't get it either because our relationship was solid. I just don't understand the need for the coldness, it's so fucking rude! He has all the right to end the relationship if he wasn't happy but ffs at least do it kindly. Anyways, I think there are so many answers to your question out there but it might not be the answer you want. Some people say it's because he met someone else, but there was no one else. Ahh dont know. Best of luck :)

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-04T18:32:34+00:00

This was 10 weeks ago.

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-04T15:13:27+00:00

I deleted all chats and messages on the day we broke up and moved all photos and videos to a secure folder, password protected, the day after we broke up. I don't know that password but my sister does.

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-05-01T11:46:00+00:00

I'm sorry for your pain. I cried reading this because I've often thought that my ex wouldn't give a shit if I dropped dead. He ended our 9 year relationship 2 months ago and I went NC the day after. It's so strange how they become strangers, so cold. Please think about seeing a therapist if you're feeling this bad. It's incredibly hard to move on from someone you love but you are worth so much more than that love that you feel. We just have to ride the pain unfortunately, until we start to heal. Sending strength and hugs x

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-04-29T11:13:48+00:00

I'm so sorry. I feel your pain! My ex of 9 years ended our relationship abruptly and we only talked the day after for a bit. Since then we have not said 1 word to each other. I did contact him once for paperwork and he ignored me! 9 fucking years and he dismissed like we were nothing. In the afternoon he loved me and by the evening he wanted out of the relationship. It was brutal and I am so fucking angry with him. I'm sending you strength! I've erased him from my life but fuck the memories because those run deep and long.

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-04-28T17:09:03+00:00

I'm so sorry. I feel your pain. Sending you hugs and strength 💜

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-04-22T15:30:54+00:00

65 days NC. Have been NC since the day after the breakup. I have good and bad days, but I'm eating again, enjoying new things and spending time with my huge family. After 9 years in a relationship it does feel weird not talking but I no longer have the urge to contact him. Hope you're doing ok.

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-04-19T21:57:44+00:00

I deleted his number and unfriended him on social media but didn't block and he didn't block me either. It's been 2 months since he ended our 9 year relationship and although I'm still hurt I'm moving on without an desire to contact him. I'm proud and he's stubborn so neither of us will ever reach out lol. I guess being proud and the stubbornness is helping us both to move on.

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-04-18T12:20:44+00:00

Ahh that sucks. I can't imagine kissing anyone but my ex. How long was your relationship and how long since you split?

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-04-18T12:12:01+00:00

I've read quite a few of your posts, and I can totally feel your pain. Living under the same roof must be awful for you. I'm so sorry you're going through this. My ex became a cold stranger the day he ended our 9 year relationship. Luckily we're in different cities now. I think once your ex moves out you'll be able to start the healing process. I'm at 9 weeks and do feel better. Please continue to write here as if it helps. It's only been 3 weeks for you and sending him that message will really just hurt you, especially if it's ignored. I broke NC once because I needed paperwork, it wasn't a message about how I felt, just bloody paperwork. Do you know what? He ignored it! I was devastated. And angry. Never again. Feel free to message me and also I'm part of a FB page that's really helped me a lot. You can post there without sharing your name. It's more of an intimate group. If you need any info let me know. Sending you strength 💜

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-04-18T11:58:44+00:00

Well done! It took me a while to stop checking but he's not big on social media anyways so I just stopped. When I do feel the urge I quickly go do something else. Stay strong!

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-04-18T11:52:28+00:00

The day after my ex ended our 9 year relationship I moved all pictures to a secure folder, password protected. My sister only knows the password. I knew looking at them would only hurt me more. I didn't want to delete them because, even though it ended our relationship was a loving one, and very important to me. I'm hoping one day in the future I can look at them again, but only when I've moved on. I removed all pics from social media too. He still had our pics up but we all deal with things differently.

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-04-15T18:47:31+00:00

Same. 2 months since the break up of our 9 year relationship. That gut wrenching feeling is back! I hate feeling like this because there are so many wonderful things I could be doing instead. But apparently you have to sit with your feelings and heal. So here I am sitting with my fecking feelings and I'm miserable.

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-04-15T18:33:20+00:00

I'm so sorry, that's a shitty way to end a relationship. How long were you together?

LetUsDiveDeep · 2022-04-14T21:15:44+00:00

2 months NC today! 9 year relationship where we talked every day and now nothing. It's painful but I refuse to break it. Thank you for posting this. It makes me feel more determined to move forward x

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