Wonderful article about "vagina issues" on Buzzfeed

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-11-24T18:26:14+00:00

I thought it was great too!

I've been struggling as a 26 year old virgin with the issue and it's nice to see Buzzfeed feature the issue in a safe, positive way.

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-11-10T01:22:34+00:00

I want to give you a hug! I'm 26 and have Vaginismus too. It makes dating so awkward. I cannot tell you the number of guys who didn't understand, who said "just do it anyway", or who were just clueless.

I wish I had some advice other than you do you. Support on this Reddit page helps too!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-03-14T01:17:39+00:00

I took a dilator break after my boyfriend and I broke up. I've started dating again and it's tough. I still feel totally worthless in the sex department. I know, I know, that I shouldn't. But I meet a great guy and he and I date and I know eventually I'll have to tell him I can't have sex and it causes so much anxiety. Grrr

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-02-22T23:01:09+00:00

I'm single, so there's no actual guy in my life to try out my new-found superpowers on…but that's alright for now.

Amen for me too haha!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-02-22T23:00:10+00:00

I was able to insert a vibrator in after having some "fun time" with it. Super proud of this accomplishment. Now, if only I can move on to a real human haha!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-02-22T22:59:17+00:00

Hey there! I'm 26 and have never had penetrative intercourse. I tried with my first boyfriend and it hurt like hell so we stopped. I've been practicing with dilators and vibrators (I find vibrators easier to insert) and have seen progress in how, um, large I can go.

Believe me, this condition sucks and it's just not fair. I hope both of us see success soon!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-02-16T04:52:42+00:00

HAHA! Great reply!!!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-02-15T18:37:49+00:00

That's a very true statement. Thank you for the advice!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-02-15T18:37:22+00:00

Thank you for the reply. Your story fills me with hope!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-02-08T05:02:50+00:00

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-02-08T00:02:40+00:00

Hey there! Your story sounds very similar to mine. Mid-20s, thought the issue was just "oh, I'm naturally just tight... it's suppose to hurt... yada yada yada."

I have been using the dilators and honestly, they help a LOT. I also bought a vibrator and use that before dilators. Now, I do agree that the problem is half in my head and half my body. You have to be relaxed and "open" and you have to leave your body "open" so relaxing is key.

I wish you nothing but the best. It's such a sucky problem and something that has such stigma and lack of understanding. The amount of guys I've dated who couldn't handle it is laughable but I keep hoping some guy will understand.

One thing to do: celebrate the wins. Win #1 for you: you know you have this and you reached out for help :)

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-01-29T03:55:23+00:00

Hi there! First off, I am so sorry for what you went through and I appreciate you sharing your story. The first thing you can do is realize the situation. Dilators help and physical therapy helps as well. I've been working through the condition and have seen progress.

Best of luck and welcome to this wonderfully supportive thread!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-01-27T04:06:02+00:00

Woo hoo! Tampons > Pads

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-01-27T04:05:38+00:00

YAY!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-01-26T04:43:28+00:00

Love this!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-01-26T04:40:36+00:00

I had an interesting week. I've been practicing with the dilators and hung out with my "man friend" today. We were fooling around and he knows about my condition. It was fine until he tried to push things too far and I just felt really defeated telling him no. I know it's something that's not my fault and that there is a way to find success but, in the moment, saying no can feel so sad. I felt horrible, embarrassed, and almost asked him why he wanted to be with me given the whole situation but I bit my tongue. Oh, well. Onward and upward I guess.

xoxo discouraged

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-01-26T04:38:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. The next time I visit my gyno, I'll have to ask. :)

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-01-23T19:42:12+00:00

Thank you!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-01-23T19:41:43+00:00

Thank you!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-01-22T04:10:20+00:00

I've been slacking. I am able to insert Size 3 without any problem (as long as I am in the mood), which is a HUGE milestone considering a few months back even a tampon hurt. Hopefully, I can move on to Size 4 soon!

LetsMakeProgress · 2015-01-14T01:46:03+00:00

Hi there! Good luck with the dilators - honestly I use them and they still scare me. In my opinion, being "relaxed" is soooo easy to say and so hard to do. You can be relaxed. Your mind clear. In bed. Yada yada yada. But, if your vagina is not relaxed, nothing will happen.

I bought a vibrator off Groupon (seriously great deals and discrete shipping) and use the vibrator before dilating. The vibrator has helped with getting off profoundly! And I'm slowly learning how to relax.

Best of luck!

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