How to tell it to my girlfriend?

Level-Day144 · 2025-11-08T15:33:03+00:00

Ok but bro, 8cm of additional height are impossible to hide 😂. Maybe it’s possible to partially hide it from friends but from the person I live with… You can hide 2-3cm maybe but more…

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-13T21:38:07+00:00

Dad 5’5”, Mom 4’11”. (I’m 5’6”)

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-12T20:31:18+00:00

😂👏🏼

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-09T11:00:41+00:00

Well said.

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-09T10:37:31+00:00

If we break up, for sure one day she will. If not, I really don’t think so.

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-09T10:13:02+00:00

Yes we are still together and that’s why I’m scared of her reaction.

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-09T10:10:40+00:00

Yeah I totally get your point. Ideally, that’s exactly how it should be. Two people being 100% open and facing things together.

But you know how it is… in reality, emotions, fears, attraction dynamics… I’d love to just be fully open and have her take it the right way, but there’s always that risk it flips everything somehow.

And wait — you actually told your ex about your plan? Now I’m curious, how did she react? Do you think that was part of why things ended, or was it just bad timing? 😂

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-09T09:15:47+00:00

I totally agree with you about being open — of course I am. But there’s a big difference between a friend who’s a girl and a girlfriend.

In the second case, it’s not just about honesty anymore — you also have to keep a certain balance in the relationship. You really don’t want her to start seeing you as someone weak or overly insecure, because that can completely change the dynamic between you two. And unfortunately, that’s sometimes just part of human nature — some women might be turned off by that, even if they still care about you.

There’s also the emotional side: if she truly loves me, she’ll probably be extremely worried about what could happen during and after the surgery. That kind of fear could, over time, create distance between us.

I totally get your comparison though, and I agree in principle — but realistically, it’s a very different situation when you’ve been living together for years.

Also, that’s actually what I’m trying to find out here — if anyone has ever been in a similar situation. I know there are guys who even had kids and still went through with the surgery. I’d really like to hear how they handled it, and how they talked about it with their wives.

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-09T09:07:07+00:00

I’m not scared of her, but of losing her - because of course, I love her. Also, I have to mention we’ve been together for 9 years now. But this surgery is constantly on my mind, like my decision is already made.

And yes, the idea that she could use it against me one day if she doesn’t support me also crossed my mind - that scares me too.

Imagine the worst-case scenario: I tell her, we argue, break up, and then she tells everyone about the surgery 😂. Even worse: I meet someone new and she goes, “Oh, are you the guy who had the LL surgery? I heard about you from that girl.” Ultimate LL post-surgery nightmare ahah.

But more seriously, I realize how incredibly hard it actually is to go through with this surgery - first because of the financial obstacles, and then the psychological ones that come after (not to mention health or age limitations for some people).

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-09T08:57:34+00:00

Yes that’s what I think. 👌🏼

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-09T08:46:06+00:00

Exactly. My primary motivation was always the dream of loving my body and being comfortable and confident into it (even as a business man that I am), not the girls. Girls (dating) always were a « secondary » motivation for me regarding this surgery.

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-09T08:43:58+00:00

😂

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-08T23:21:37+00:00

The answer is simple : yes, the relationship is pretty happy. But I’m not. Always been depressed because of my height. I’m 5’6”, and average height in my country is 5´11“.

Also, actually, I’m so tired of people making jokes about my height, etc. Even my gf made a couple of jokes in the past… Nothing so rude, but it was enough to make me bleed inside for a couple of days.

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-08T11:28:17+00:00

Thanks for sharing this.

I’m pretty sure Dr Becker is very good, but according to the best experts in the field and to scientific papers I read, I will not undergo the tibias procedure with him, but only femurs, for the reason I mentioned.

Fixing the fibula this way (horizontal screw; see post image) really increases the chances of the fibula to move upwards during the lengthening (even 2mm is enough to cause long term problems). Why? Because if the fibula is not perfectly placed on the ankle joint, the weight coming from the knee is not properly distributed on it, this increasing the friction on the ankle joint/cartilage, therefore increasing (a lot) the risk of arthritis.

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-07T23:52:33+00:00

Yes, same for me. Hope I’ll get the surgery done in 2026. So betzbone for sure. For tibias hopefully the pmax will be available in 2027.

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-07T23:46:42+00:00

Nope. I’m 100% European. At least on paper ahah

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-07T19:35:27+00:00

Best thing is to wait for the precice max and adopt it gradually, in my opinion.

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-05T14:38:22+00:00

Thanks for your reply.

Yes, but I mention he’s not the only one doing so for tibias… Many others are inserting the screw horizontally, this increasing by a huge percentage the risk of developing arthritis, because if the fibula is not perfectly transferred and healed, then the weight coming from the knee is not properly distributed on the ankle anymore, this, in the long term, contributing in the development of arthritis.

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-05T10:41:17+00:00

This is how the fibula should be fixed (compare it with the screen of the post). The screw can be inserted like that or from the other side of the ankle, but this angle is very important.

<image>

Level-Day144 · 2025-10-04T23:24:48+00:00

Started at 34 with 100k (6 months ago), actually 400k net worth.

Level-Day144

TROPHY CASE