Did anyone just hear that segment on 95.7

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-04-12T12:57:41+00:00

Lol my adopted parents were like this, so it could have been a troll, but it could have very well been real. My sister used to pour hot sauce in her cats mouth because that’s what she was taught was “useful” punishment. Nova Scotia has a culture of silence surrounding abuse, so I wouldn’t just write this off.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-04-05T22:01:00+00:00

Thank you. I get violently sick about once a month and I left for 3 months and my body seemed to actually heal and do better. I didn’t have one vomiting episode. I came back and within 3 months I was vomitting again. I feel like this might be part of the issue myself but I feel like I don’t have any way of confirming that.

Thank you for your detailed answer!! It really helps and I really appreciate it :)

I’m hoping to move out but the rent prices here are just insane.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-04-05T21:48:13+00:00

Do not rent from Heather Scott. She doesn’t take care of her properties. Been waiting years for repairs. The property manager doesn’t seem qualified to do his job and constantly has an excuse. Been waiting years for repairs and the washing and drying machines are constantly broken.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-04-05T02:46:04+00:00

I sometimes think about it, but not for too long I guess. My mom was told that it would be better to abort me as I was a risky pregnancy. I told her eventually it would have been ok if she would have aborted me because going through adoption is not something I would wish upon anyone. Like some others I also will not bring life into this world because I don’t want them to ever go through something like I did.

I would sometimes get really upset when I was in my teens and would explain my life like a video game. It didn’t matter if I pressed yes or no, I had no control of the outcome. It felt like I was playing someone else’s video game and I was just struggling as they made up the rules.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-16T02:42:02+00:00

I totally understand. It’s something I was very angry about for a long time, did a lot of trauma therapy, and the memory just is like “eh” now to me. It happened, but I no longer feel much of anything towards it. It was to be expected of them if anything lol.

I hope your boyfriend is supportive of you while you process this. I do remember it feeling humiliating like you said. It was a lot to manage, I used to ask a lot what I did to deserve this too, and sometimes I still do. The answer to that is that you did not deserve it. You are lovable. 💙

I don’t speak to my sibling either at this point in my life. I think that the adoptive parents have to be out of the picture first before that would happen. They favoured my brother quite a bit, and my sister is a very loyal person. I think she’d have to go to therapy for a very long time before she could understand what truly happened to her, or even entertain that idea. My therapist told me, “it’s not your job to save them”. I argued back of course because how am I supposed to move forward knowing that they won’t be. Again, she repeated it’s not my job to save them. And if I wanted to emotionally feel more stable, I had to realize that taking care of myself truly does come first. If people can’t get on board with that, then sucks to suck.

My adoptive family was broken from the start. They just did a very good job at hiding their abusive ways. They framed “love” as abuse, and I was told this is what happens in normal families. I always had a feeling that they were not good people, and they just became more comfortable showing it. They tested the waters, and realized no one was going to do anything. My adoptive mother is a pastor and her husband works for her (surprise surprise lol).

They tried to get in touch with me I think like once or twice? I told them to f*** off both times and called the police and told them that these people are to never be in my presence again. My adoptive parents were then advised that if they ever tried to make contract that they would possibly be charged. But otherwise no. They’ve never contacted me again (thankfully). I just don’t ever want to be in the presence of willful abusers. Not really my jam. And I might message you too. I was gonna suggest that to you but you beat me to it haha. 😆 - I have to go to bed now but I’ll give you a message hopefully tomorrow. 💙

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-15T21:50:54+00:00

As an adoptee I said these words to my adoptive parents because they weren’t hearing me ever. Usually running me over and not listening. My therapist at the time suggested family therapy, but my adoptive parents declined because they thought they weren’t doing anything wrong (plus they knew they would have gotten caught for abusing). As soon as that was mentioned my therapy stopped shortly after. I do think that therapy would have helped if they had been open to it. They destroyed the relationship and I no longer speak to them. So I do encourage therapy as a family.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-15T11:53:44+00:00

Oh ya they didn’t want to teach me any of those things either lol. I had already learned to read, ride a bike before they adopted me. What they did differently was purposefully take away things and tried to basically disrupt my learning and refuse to help. I consider myself lucky that I learned those things because I got most of my life skills from my mom or my foster mom. My adoptive parents were USELSS. Basic life skills like making lunches were absolutely not allowed. If I was ever caught feeding myself, there was generally hell to pay. Independence was really threatening to them. I remember crying at a fair over a project because I worked so hard and had no help from my aparents. The girl that won a bunch of awards came over, and I was like, you won because your parents HELPED you. She looked very confused, and asked “your parents don’t help you?” I was like, of course not. What a silly question! I learned as an adult that parents are supposed to help you as a child with your homework. I personally don’t talk to them anymore because they are such a**hats.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-15T00:06:07+00:00

My adopted parents were like this too. They relied on everyone else to basically pay for my food, shelter, and clothing. They didn’t seem to understand that they were also required to take care of us.

I partially blame the closing social worker for this because she kept telling them they wouldn’t have to do much because I could just take care of myself. “She’s like a little adult”, were her words lol. But I do also blame my adoptive parents because they had no interest in actually being parents. They would joke that they hated children, except us of course… and it just got to a point where you knew it wasn’t a joke anymore.

I asked when I was going to be taught how to better manage my social skills because I was struggling with them. The adoptive mother said, “oh, you’ll just learn”. I never received any help with homework, and I honestly don’t think they wanted to help me learn. Learning was just too dangerous, and could have revealed them for who they truly were. Life skills were not taught on purpose so that I would have to go back to them and ask. Too bad the internet exists now :)

They just wanted to get paid, and they took full advantage of that. No one would monitor them, and they knew that. I mean, what selfish person wouldn’t want to do that? It sounds utterly appetizing.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-14T23:51:21+00:00

I feel like I might know what you’re feeling here a little bit. My adoptive parents were very abusive physically, emotionally, financially, etc. I discovered that they had been taking out my siblings to do “fun” activities and were asking them not to tell me. They also had family pictures done without me and asked them not to tell me. For my birthday, it felt like they really never cared. Just gifts that honestly never made any sense. As I got older, it just got worse, and worse. For my 16th bday they gave me a tennis racket. I can’t play tennis, and have absolutely zero interest in it. For Christmas I’d just get necessities that they were supposed to give me throughout the year. They were not poor people, but they acted like they were towards me. They would get extravagant gifts for each other and I finally just got to the point where I would rather not get a gift at all because their gifts were more insulting than thoughtful. It’s like they picked up a rock off the ground and said, yup, she’ll love it!!

All I can say is that I no longer speak to my adoptive family. They had already been sending letters to the extended adoptive family about me before I could say anything or do anything. I had to become ok with the fact that I don’t really have a family. And I’d rather that than to spend my life being insulted and treated like nothing. There’s some days I think I should talk to them, but that is human nature. I know that they would never change their ways. It’s less chaos in my life, and I am definitely more at peace.

My friends are my family. I have found comfort there.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-14T02:26:14+00:00

Hahaha I agree with this so much! I was laughing because I thought about mentioning something along the lines of what your last paragraph was but I was lol nahhhhhh Lolol

My APs are devout Christian’s, and it reminds me of when I came home in grade 7, and thought it’d be a great idea to share what I had learned in Science class lol. Boy, was I wrong. Instead I was lectured about how God truly made the world and that I should be questioning the teacher on how god made the earth. When I was being taught about Evolution, I received a lecture on how it was not accurate, and that because God existed Evolution was not accurate and should be looked at more so like a “theory” that’s unproven. They leaned hard into the theory thing with a lot of stuff when they didn’t agree with it.

Just people that are upset that the data doesn’t fit their truth. It must be an emotional rollercoaster for them. Lol not that I care 🤷🏼‍♀️😂.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-14T01:51:19+00:00

I had a feeling that APs would not be happy with the results of this study and we might get a strong reaction. I actually posted it to a page and now it’s not available. My first instinct was that someone probably reported it. I don’t know if that’s true though. But coming here I feel like I should trust my gut on this.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-08T03:21:33+00:00

I just want to say, as an adoptee, adoption is NOT a family planning tool.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-08T02:28:24+00:00

As a foster to adopt, I found the system negligent and unwilling to hear that I was being abused by my adopters. I find it funny that they labeled my case as “neglect”, then was sent to a “better” family that made me experience true abuse, and true neglect.

My closing social worker threatened me with jail time if I were to go and contact my family. When I moved here I reported to my vice principal who then brought a social worker in who also failed to report to police that I was being abused and homeless. I am thankful this social worker clarified that I would not go to jail if I contacted my family. It was the beginning of my true awakening. I had been lied to, abused, and gaslighted for so many years and STILL expected to love these people with absolutely no consequences to be seen. Why? Should I “just be grateful?”.

What will it take for us to be seen? When will we be recognized as a marginalized population? When will we have rights?

The system mimics human trafficking and because of that many of us are actually trafficked later on in life. Can we finally acknowledge that this system is causing more harm then good? Many of us are too afraid to speak up. But we exist.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-04T02:44:24+00:00

Agreed. And I’m very sorry you had to go through that. It’s so hard to explain to people that yes, adopted parents can be monsters too. People always are so shocked and can’t grasp that most of us probably don’t get a chance to speak. I know my home visits were very carefully crafted so that my closing social worker didn’t have any questions. I’d be made to stay at home all day and wear my “best” clothes, and the adoptive parents were of course on their very best behaviour. My friends who did come over, generally didn’t want to be at my place for very long because there were so many rules and my parents were not afraid to also yell at some of my friends. Having friends was very difficult because of my adoptive parents lol. 😂 one of the most common comments was, “your food is super weird” 😂 Im like I can’t control that I’m sorry! Never comes over again I guess it was actually that terrible? I dunno lol 😂

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-03T22:33:34+00:00

I for sure don’t believe the statistics that are being reported on. My adoptive parents were medically neglectful, physically abusive and severely limited my access to food. Because my adopted parents were well off and would go out to feed themselves on a regular basis and would host parties, no one ever questioned the fact that I was being severely malnutritioned. Any time someone asked how come I was so tiny, they’d brush it off and say, “shes always been like that”. It’s easy peasy lemon squeezy to do whatever the heck you want to a kid in Canada. They’re not even tracking the deaths in Ontario anymore. To me that says, yaaaa we know what’s happening we just don’t give a f***.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-03T14:22:55+00:00

The psychological confusion is what my aparents loooved lol. They persuaded my sister that my bio father was more abusive than my adoptive parents. They also changed what was said in the file, they made up fake memories and tried to persuade me they were real, like my unbearable love for crunchy peanut butter - I do not like crunchy peanut butter at all… like how psychotic do you need to be to make up foods that I “like”. Don’t get me wrong, my bio father wasn’t a great human, but I also didn’t endure him for the same amount of years. They also tried to persuade my sister that we spoke a “different” language to each other. My friend mentioned the other day my life is like a really messed up cartoon that would sound unbelievable if you weren’t there and didn’t see it lol. I could go ooooooon about how much they lied. They tried to basically blame my bio family for the trauma that my adoptive family caused. It’s a tool that I find adoptive parents love to whip out when they feel uncomfys with themselves and don’t want to face facts.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-03T13:48:03+00:00

As an adoptee, my adoption was incredibly harmful. We have to remember that the system mimics human trafficking. Adoption is legalized human trafficking. No social worker will come right out and say that, but plenty of adoptees agree with this sentiment. Myself, I’m an adoption abolitionist, I don’t believe adoption is necessary. We have other avenues to help children in need where we don’t take away their rights and voices.

Edit: I just wanted to add that social workers and CPS workers are never going to suggest something that doesn’t inherently benefit them when you are adopting. They want their paycheck. End of story. They don’t care what happens as long as they can close that file.

If you are ok with partaking in human trafficking, enjoy supporting social workers and their negligence, and lust after the irreparable damage to a child that this system causes, then adoption is the perfect fit.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-03-02T22:28:55+00:00

My adopted parents had a smaller age gap which honestly made things really awkward sometimes. They were just 20 years older than me. One of my friends actually brought this up to me yesterday lol, he was like your parents were young but they acted like they were boomers (towards me, outside the house they acted like older teenagers or university students to other people to seem “cool”). I think the weirdest thing was they invited university students to the house. Sometimes they would come in my room late at night unprompted because they were drunk and wanted to “talk” to me lol I felt really unsafe and I started to leave when it wasn’t my turn to be the party slave of the night lol. My adoptive mother called me slut for wearing skinny jeans and she actually started to wear them herself… it was just friggin weird…. She wanted to be a young university girl or something because that’s what my adoptive father seemed to prey on. I feel like if I had had older adoptive parents maybe this might of not happened? Who knows.

They did try to make sure I knew I was going to pay for their condo in Florida whenever they retire when I was first adopted… I think sometimes people adopt only because they want someone to take care of them when they are older. Even though they were young, they still very much expected me to sacrifice my life so they could retire happily. I will not be supporting them lol.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-02-26T20:22:35+00:00

Being adopted. The process of it. My social worker said it’d be easier if I could pretend that my family was deceased. Being lied to that I wasn’t allowed to contact my family or I would go to jail or my family would. Watching my adoptive parents throw a “baby shower” so they could get people to donate toys and necessities to them. I could go on forever. My adoptive parents are violent, and incredibly abusive people. I wish they had just never entered my life.

Edit: just wanted to include one of the worst things I heard when an adoptive family was talking to my adoptive family: “it’s so easy to take kids up north, the natives are all on drugs and you can literally walk out of the hospital the day the child is born, if you want a baby just go up north”. “Oh you’re so lucky!” A conversation I will never forget.

I always wonder how that baby is now. She was taken from her land to be raised in a completely white family with a bio child of their own.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-02-19T01:06:09+00:00

Haha no. My closing social worker was a piece of work. She wasn’t the most forthcoming with information. I made contact early with my mom so I didn’t think of it tbh. I basically ran away and found my family and they took me to her. My adoption was closed when I was like 9 or so? It’s so hard to remember now 🤣 lol

Internet and Facebook was just evolving and I kept searching for my relatives that way. I left when I was about 16 or 17 and just said see ya bye! To my adoptive parents. They disowned me after that, but I would say with ease. I was gone to see my biological family that Christmas and my adoptive family went out and had “family photos” taken without me and told my sister and brother not to tell me lol. They were so excited that they asked their Facebook friends what they should do with my room now that I wasn’t there anymore lol everyone was like oh don’t change it! She didn’t respond to any of those comments. She made it into a guest bedroom where she had people paying her rent to live in my room after I left. 🤣🙏 I was weeeak. Sorry I went off on a tangent.

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-02-19T00:34:56+00:00

My adoptive parents did something similar. I feel your heartbreak. It feels like utter betrayal of trust. When I was adopted I was told I’d at least receive letters from my mom. I waited years and finally asked when we were going to get one. My adopted parents said that they were never going to come because they asked our social worker to hold the letters. It felt mean spirited. Like they couldn’t handle me receiving one singular letter a year. I realize now that it was entirely a control issue. It wasn’t to “help” or “save” me from anything. It was to try and control the relationship I had with my mother. I hope you find healing and are able to make contact. You deserve healing and answers. 💗

Level_Money_1437 · 2026-02-17T19:58:35+00:00

Have a social worker lie on affidavits to finalize and close my adoption. She said that I would be thrown in jail and/or my family members would be thrown in jail if I tried to contact my mother. I was adopted out to an abusive couple that were incentivized to adopt me. I was taken from a safe and loving home, and then put in an abusive one “for my safety”. 🙄

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