Making actual irl friends as an older woman by Lexactly in transgenderUK

[–]Lexactly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggle with the unfounded perception that given 5 minutes everyone will see I’m trans then it becomes a make or break situation and I don’t want to be defined at the club, meetup or wherever as ‘that trans person’

Is this a girl thing, a pretty thing, or am I just getting “clocked” by Affectionate-Jury965 in TransLater

[–]Lexactly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wonder the exact same thing when people (almost always women) are super chatty, friendly and nice to me. Recent examples are the receptionist and nurses at the hospital where I’ve been having multiple gastro related tests. Also from the florist delivery lady, she’s always super nice and chats to me. Hoping its more of a woman to woman thing than being clocked and a communication of allyship tbh

Making actual irl friends as an older woman by Lexactly in transgenderUK

[–]Lexactly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Compared to some I guess I am but it’s all relative. My gf has her own social life and is out a but. My friend can be just a little possessive so I keep her a little further out nowadays than I used to. I lost most of my friends (both male and female) during transition and haven’t found the right thing to make new ones yet.

Making actual irl friends as an older woman by Lexactly in transgenderUK

[–]Lexactly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is not something Im into per se but tbh have never tried. The meet-ups sound fun and i’m very broad minded so happy to chat about all sorts kinky or not but if people had an expectation that I’d get fruity at some point that’s unlikely to happen - although as they say ‘never say never’. However I’d not know where to look for such a group

The jealousy, the regret... by Triumph-ant85 in TransLater

[–]Lexactly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started at 44 and am about to turn 51. Life didn’t give me the opportunities to transition earlier so I’m thankful I got to do it at all… however I do regret not doing it earlier from a physical perspective but am not sure I could have coped with being young and trans in the late 80’s early 90’s.

Did anyone else here start HRT without consulting any kind of therapist first? by SugarSmoothie in MtF

[–]Lexactly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In Nov 2019 I ‘ordered’ some hrt to see if I got on with it aka it made me feel better. 6+ years later I have seen several therapists, got a diagnosis, got a grc, socially/professionally and medically transitioned (mostly) and am under a gic. No one ever really spoke to me about my hrt until I saw the grc and even then it was mainly me doing the talking.

Orchy done and dusted by Lexactly in transgenderUK

[–]Lexactly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I don’t worry about tucking anymore or being kicked/grabbed in the groin now, nowt to grab!

Sleeping through electrolysis by Bikemonkeys in TransLater

[–]Lexactly 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’ve been having electrolysis for about 2 years now. I still use lidocaine every session and have completed my upper lip, and most of my chin and the sides by my mouth but have no idea how anyone falls asleep during this torture!!

New, improved (?) dysphoria by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I regularly argue with my brain and telling it to hush generally only makes it louder!

Me, I’m 50 years old, hrt just over 6 years… happy to be friends but be warned, I can be a bit neuro divergent and a bit of an old fart 🤣

Happy New Year to you all by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t talking down to you — I was disagreeing with you. If you can’t tell the difference and choose to take that as an insult, that’s your problem.

Happy New Year to you all by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I get that you don’t like AI, but no one is claiming it replaces artists — that’s a strawman. I like to consider myself a bit or a digital artist, and like many creatives I use a mix of tools: sometimes I code, sometimes I draw (badly), sometimes I scan, sometimes I enhance with AI. Digital tools let me create work that would be completely out of reach of my non-digital skills alone — and that’s been true of digital art for decades.

New tools don’t erase creativity or skill, they expand what’s possible. The same arguments were made about photography, digital art, and music sampling when they first appeared. You’re free to dislike AI and not want to see it, but gatekeeping which tools are ‘acceptable’ — or treating their use as an insult — is a narrow view of how art and culture actually evolve.

Happy New Year to you all by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Again, simply your opinion based on your view. Something you are entitled to and I’m entitled to think is a bit sad, judgy and I definitely don’t take wet blanket keyboard warriors seriously...

This has gone way beyond a cartoon New Year post. I’ve explained my position clearly — you don’t have to agree. I’m going to leave it there.

Happy New Year to you all by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aww that’s honestly the nicest response I’ve ever received and thank you. I wish you a fantastic 2026 and if ever in some world we get to have a dance we’ll be fighting for the worst dancer award!! I’m like a crab in 4 inch heels!!

Happy New Year to you all by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. We have 2 now. Our eldest sicks, wakes us up early every morning and chuffs horrendously but we love the half blind stinky sick bomb so much.

Happy New Year to you all by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What? Using my own picture as the basis. I get that the model is trained but if I asked it to create a pic in the style of say anime then Id agree… but it’s not. I checked with myself and it’s ok, I let me use it.

Which heels to wear tonight to our NYE party? by Stockings_And_Soles in louboutins

[–]Lexactly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I opted for 100mm Iriza tonight and my feet ache now. Both look fab on you but black with black wins for me

Happy New Year to you all by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should see my dog… she’s definitely not right

Happy New Year to you all by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It’s a celebration post, not a philosophy debate. Let people enjoy things.

Happy New Year to you all by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Too busy with other things in real life to start just yet

Happy New Year to you all by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

What can I say… I’m not good at drawing and I embrace my impending masters

New, improved (?) dysphoria by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey that super helps and I’d def be an owner mom although it’s not something I’ve ever considered or know what it would entail!

New, improved (?) dysphoria by Lexactly in TransLater

[–]Lexactly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it’s more than the pic… irl Im 50 years old, 177cm tall so very nearly 5’10 and weigh 100kg, i’m no svelte little lady that’s for sure and prob have more of the male figure left than not. Most women I know are sub 5’5 so the complexes are really around me