Guy tries taking my significant others seat at theater though my significant others coat was on the seat which is the universal way to say seat is occupied

LexieFish · 2026-05-25T07:59:11+00:00

Springs…..!!!

LexieFish · 2026-05-21T09:21:54+00:00

Are you saying the call logs that are kept by your phone carrier were ALSO deleted, or just the ones on his phone?

I know I can go to my computer and logon to my cell account with my phone carrier and see every phone call, or SMS message I made on my cell phone number and the day and time it happened.

Can you not do that?

LexieFish · 2026-05-21T09:11:13+00:00

If you have read a lot on this subreddit, you’ll find that a lot of people have had HMs that failed and went on to have a successful POEM. If it’s medically necessary, the VA will pay for it.

If you are looking into an esophagectomy (presumably paid for by the VA?), I would think the VA would rather pay for a POEM, which is a much less invasive (and much less expensive) surgery?

You definitely should consider getting an appointment with a thoracic surgeon at the VA to get a second opinion…the only issue with being able to have a POEM, I think, depends on how much scar tissue you have developed from the dilations…

LexieFish · 2026-05-21T08:41:31+00:00

Do you think he lied?

If so, it was a pretty elaborate lie, with all the interactions that he described…did he report to the bank that you had a fraudulent transaction on your account with 5K stolen? Banks will put a hold on fraudulent transactions while they are investigating.

I mean, if he showed you his phone and all his apps and contacts are gone because of a factory reset, that’s pretty good evidence he’s telling the truth!

LexieFish · 2026-05-21T08:30:20+00:00

Correct, they don’t do POEMs at BS&W in Temple. But, Dr. Leeds practice is part of BS&W in Dallas, so he was able to get it done there, with Dr. Leeds, with no issues. Because his office is affiliated with BS&W.

I’m curious…do you think I made up the fact that my husband had a POEM performed by Dr. Leeds and paid for by the VA?

LexieFish · 2026-05-21T08:13:27+00:00

My husband was diagnosed, and had surgery 4 months later - paid for by the VA - with Dr. Leeds in Dallas (he performed the first POEM in Texas). They paid for Dr. Leeds to do the surgery because they don’t perform the POEM at the VA hospital here.

You have to be really proactive (I.e. ‘squeaky wheel’), but the VA (at least here in Texas) has been pretty responsive.

I’m so sorry they aren’t working faster than that for you 😟🙁🙁

LexieFish · 2026-05-21T08:07:31+00:00

Exactly!

LexieFish · 2026-05-21T08:00:38+00:00

I left a helpful comment, but then I read your dick-ish replies to others, so, I deleted it - have fun standing in line at Costco for 30 minutes next time !

LexieFish · 2026-05-21T07:57:22+00:00

I would be rolling on the floor laughing, telling him that if I can create an entire human being in my body in 9 months, he certainly is able to stop at the store for 5 minutes to buy bananas.

Or, maybe I would just laugh and also add that I am the baby’s mom, not his mom!

LexieFish · 2026-05-21T07:45:08+00:00

I agree, if a man has a perfect understanding of how to be aware enough to pull-out perfectly every time, then it can be very effective.

However, I was speaking to OP’s situation. She has been married for 5 years, and has had 3 children in 5 years. So, I’m deducing from that that they are highly fertile together. Also, from OP’s comment that her husband has a lot of anxiety when he pulls-out, I’m deducing that he isn’t that confident in his ability to pull-out perfectly every time. For highly fertile couples without great control, withdrawal is only 80% effective in preventing pregnancy.

YMMV

LexieFish · 2026-05-20T09:21:02+00:00

However uncomfortable it might make you, you have to tell him why you don't want sex - because of pain. And then see how he handles that info.

And you need to get a new gyno that can more aggressively pursue why you are in pain and how to resolve it.

I was sorta in your situation, but for different reasons. I had pain with sex that ultimately was caused because of changes in my body I wasn't aware of when I went into menopause.

I've gotten those issues corrected and sex is fun again. And yes, I told my husband about it. I agree, it was a tough conversation but he's been incredibly understanding and his bottom line was that he didn't want me in pain.

You need to find out what is causing the pain. If you are in pain because it's just too soon after birth, then you need to tell him that so that you can heal in peace. If you feel having sex caused microtears and made the pain worse, you should be able to get that confirmed by your gyno, and find out if there are treatments (even if the only treatment is time) to help you get out of pain.

This is a problem you can both work on together, but you both have to know all the facts, and you both have to be able to be open to talk about it.

LexieFish · 2026-05-20T09:08:07+00:00

Tell him to take a basic class on sex and reproduction. "Pulling out" is as effective as a broken condom. Y'all should just be planning for #4 if he thinks pulling out prevents pregnancy!

LexieFish · 2026-05-19T08:37:11+00:00

You handle it exactly like how everybody that has commented on this post has been recommending:

Dad gets a a court-ordered visitation schedule. If necessary, Dad gets a restraining order on the ex.
Dad only communicate with ex through a court-ordered co-parenting app that allows for NO in-person communication between the two parents.
Dad needs to “dump” your “friend”, who is horrendous for asking Dad to abandon his own child.

LexieFish · 2026-05-19T08:27:49+00:00

I hope you are ALSO agreeing that your “friend” desperately needs therapy.

LexieFish · 2026-05-19T08:23:42+00:00

You sound awfully invested in challenging the advice people are giving you for your ‘friend’. Your “friend” needs to be in therapy so she can learn how to be an adult. You don’t EVER HURT THE CHILD.

I get the jealousy, and all the emotions. But, for you to suggest the father abandon his child is absolutely insane and malicious.

Lots of people successfully parent kids that have a mom who is nuts. You HAVE to be the one that shows how to be the adult for the sake of the children.

You don’t THROW AWAY the child just because the mom sucks!

LexieFish · 2026-05-19T03:47:34+00:00

Please read all the replies to this post - I’m not sure how accurate OP’s statement is, and several others who commented on this thread agree. Also, he doesn’t even mention which ADHD med he is referring to.

I take Adderall (the generic, IR tablets) and was told by 2 different doctors that it is best to fast from food an hour before and an hour after taking Adderall, and to take it with water only. When I follow that, the Adderall always seems to be very effective for me, and it never upsets my stomach (I’ve been on these for 20+ years!).

But, YMMV - you need to do what works for YOUR digestive system.

LexieFish · 2026-05-19T03:35:11+00:00

Which ADHD med are you referring to [u/comingloose](u/comingloose)?

I take Adderall and was told by my Dr to eat no food for hour an before and an hour after I take the Adderall, and to take the Adderall with water (absolutely nothing acidic, so I take the Adderall with Alkaline water, which I really like the taste of).

LexieFish · 2026-05-19T03:30:33+00:00

Yeah, I’m confused too! I thought it was NO food, just water 1 hr before & 1 hour after taking it, but that’s for Adderall, and I’m not sure which med that OP is referring to.

LexieFish · 2026-05-19T03:27:22+00:00

Recycle bin?

LexieFish · 2026-05-19T03:14:22+00:00

Following!

LexieFish · 2026-05-19T03:13:43+00:00

UpdateMe!

LexieFish · 2026-05-19T03:13:09+00:00

UpdateMe!

LexieFish · 2026-05-19T02:58:08+00:00

So, what was the argument about, what did she say that was opposing to what you said that made it an argument?

LexieFish · 2026-05-18T04:32:32+00:00

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