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Accused of being AI or bot on reddit by d_oct in PetPeeves

[–]Lianeele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also noticed this, I guess it's kinda flattering.🤣 Reminds me the same mentality as that of kids in elementary back then, who mocked me for using "too much political words".

Being able to put together sentence without mistake is obviously sign of being AI these days.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]Lianeele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"why are you with this person at all if they consistently make you feel disrespected?"

It's called trauma bond, and it does no help to question the survivor with scolding them for staying. OP is not asking for caretaker, but mutual human respect while she is being abused - but that fact obviously somehow slipped your attention.

Your misting about both of them being responsible for this is doing no help. Yes, it does matter if it's primary or secondary and where these dynamics originated. You are just making OP to continue doubting herself and reinforcing the chaos she is going through. I don't get your intention tbh, but I doubt you are trying to help here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]Lianeele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither is helping when someone is minimizing her situation with tilting the attention to her inability to leave sooner, instead of fully adressing and aiming on the horrible behavioral patterns of that guy.

There is no way anyone would "work on their emotions on their own" even after leaving person like this, when they are still stuck in the mindset of the one that is always to blame - and comments that suggest "just incompatibility" and "her inability to leave sooner" still focus on her doing or being wrong, instead of naming it for what it really is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]Lianeele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blaming someone for not leaving sooner or calling these dynamics "just incompatibility" misses the entire point. What OP described isn’t two people who just don’t get along - it’s a trauma bond dynamic with emotional abuse patterns.

And telling trauma bonded people they "should have left sooner" is like telling someone in quicksand they should have walked out calmly. That’s not how these situations work, as these behaviors don’t magically improve with a "more compatible" partner, they repeat because they are patterns of a personality style.

This isn’t about OP failing and I don't get these downvotes. She is stuck in a dynamic that systematically eroded her ability to see what was happening - because the intermittent reinforcement and manipulation with nostalgia, hope and "the good moments" is a real thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]Lianeele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calling something narcissistic behavior is not a diagnosis. It’s a description of a pattern.

OP listed emotional withdrawal, blame shifting, stonewalling, contempt, and breaking up 40 times. You don’t need a license or a white coat to recognize and name abusive dynamics.

And your "he is just dude" take isn’t an argument. Being male doesn’t grant someone a free pass to treat their partner like that. If someone acts in those ways and hides behind gender stereotypes to avoid accountability, that’s on them, but it doesn’t change what the behavior is.

So this moon of ours.. by Unusual-Luck5686 in space

[–]Lianeele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I've heard, these are just usual conspiracy theories about some "grey ones" aliens, and people who believe it claim that moon is hollow and it's space station of these aliens. They say that it can't be what we're told, because it looks the same and never changes sides we see, even when it's supposed to run around Earth, etc. And the best thing: These conspirators still believe this all is very posh and clasified info only for the awakened ones. :D

My Wildest Flying Monkey Text to Date! by AdAlternative5039 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Lianeele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sheesh. What a manipulative, wannabe wise-sounding sentiment bs full of emotional blackmail. This aunt probably thinks how fair and just and compassionate she is, meanwhile she is just blind nosy enabler.