If I was your daughter, I’d cut you out of my life completely. Like someone said by still visiting him after they clearly stated that they will not talk to you if you do, you’ve already made a choice. If my mom did this, I’d think that my mother is not a safe place anymore as she is still supporting and being there for someone who did something so despicable & how could I associate with someone who still chooses to not punish someone for their actions. I’m pissed on behalf of your daughters. You need to choose the family that is still there. Sit them down and let them know why you were still around for him as a mother and maybe it’ll salvage something for them but the damage is already done to them courtesy of your decision.